Princess zoe: Op may God bless you for this honest truth filled post. Amen

Most fathers have forgotten dia roles/ responsibilities

kulyie: Ill give anything in this world to have a man that has qualities 4,6,9 and 1o.there are indeed a lot of men out there,but fathers are rare.many men lack many of this qualities,only a few and to be honest the few i get to see that are a bundle of all this to their wives and kids are usually not appreciated or respected by their wives.

Today i went to church and coincidentally my pastor preached about the roles of fathers.very similar to what op typed here and i could not but appreciate my father and all the men,(not just people that have a penis) but people real faithful and selfless single men and fathers.i call them men with a heart of gold

lastly i will use this day and opportunity to apologize to single guys and or fathers in and out of nairaland who i have despised,insulted,shuuned or have been rude to,i really am very sorry,from the depth of my heart.my pastor made me see men in a different point of view,different from the perspective i used to view men.to the men with the heart of gold,from the bottom of my heart i am truly sorry and ill be more than grateful if you forgive me.ill have loved to mention names but they are too much,let me just make it a general thing

Verbes001:

Op, fathers have not forgotten their roles.

Verbes001:

Op, fathers have not forgotten their roles.

Fhemmmy:

A father that is never there for the kids has forgotten his role

torhuke: I wish I have a daddy with all thes qualities. He is my my daddy anyways.

I am working towards being a good father and o make sure my Wife and children do not sufer what my mum, me and ma siblings suffered.
Xo help me God.
Thank u veru much OP
Emm, wht is the meaning of OP sef? Opinion Poster or Original Point? pls som1 shuld tell.

Stegomiah: I read some threads here and i was prompted to create this thread.
Most fathers have forgotten dia roles/ responsibilities, some thinks providing for the needs of the family is their only responsibility, some are in diaspora, a gentleman created a thread searching for his father, although i don't know how many years but i pitied him.

Some fathers are just useless, some refuse to claim responsibility of dia very own child, some left the poor woman αlσиє with her kid, some carry prostitutes about, some always drink themselves to stupor, although being a teetotal does not guarantee u to be a real dad and some are lazy and jobless, and are as good as being dead.

What exactly are the roles of a father? this thread is to remind you of your roles, duties and responsibilities to your family and the society.
Below are the roles of a father;

1. Good Example

Your life is like a book they are reading, they are watching you, your actions, your deeds...
Be a good example in character, in conversation, in your actions and deeds... Live an examplary life.

2. Priest/Imam

Let them know the way of the God you serve, teach and lead them to pray and live a godly life.
'The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom'.

3. Provider

Do not let your family suffer, you are the bread winner of the house and it is your responsibility to provide for them.
Provide them food, shelter and clothings, provide for your child the best legacy and investment which is Education. Do not be lazy, be hardworking and God will crown your efforts!

4. Protector

It is your role to protect your family. Protect them from the evil vices of this world, stand up and defend your family when necessary.
I remembad i read a touching story in the dailies about a Man who died while trying to prevent armed robbers from raping his wife, he said i can't watch it happen, i'll rather die, he killed two of them, before he was shot dead and they were unable to rape the woman. The wife said 'my husband died a heroe', and she would never forget that. That family will forever be proud of their father, that is a real Father!

5. Playmate

It is not only your wife you have to play with, also play with your children. Take them out, walk hand in hand with them, buy the young ones toys, play games, basketball, golf and other sports with the elder ones too, once in a while take them out to the cinemas, out for shopping, take them on vacations.. cos those moments are unforgettable.

6. Companion

Always be there for your family, cos they need you. Be with your children on their first day at school, on their graduation and most importantly on their wedding day! Be with your wife during pregnancy and labour period, be with them on anniversaries like birthday, christmas...

7. Teacher

Teach your children what to do, when and how. Teach them your religion beliefs, also go through their homeworks.
'One real father is better than a thousand headmasters', '
charity, education begins at home'.

8. Trainer

Train them in Gods way, train them to be good and law abiding citizens, train them on their responsibilities to the family, the school, religion and the society.
Don't forget child training has more to do with your lifestyle than what you tell them i.e it has more to do with what they seee than what they hear, that is why you must be a good example to them.

9. Servant

Render selfless service to your family, it shouldn't be all about you, buy clothes for every one before buying for yourself.
Jesus washed his disciples feet, serve them at home, serve at work, serve in ur place of worship. Do not be proud, cos pride goeth before a fall!

10. L♥√ع

The greatest gift a father can offer his children is to L♥√ع their mother.
Also L♥√ع your children, make them feel at home, make them feel welcomed, be a good listener, let them feel the fatherly warmth and embrace.
Finally, once in a yl, tell them 'you L♥√ع them'. I can never forget a day i was mad at my dad and i refused to come home, it was getting late and he was concerned, i refused to pick his calls, then he sent me a text telling me how much he loves me, he pleaded that i should come home so we can settle. Yl reading the text i bursted into tears and started running home, 4got 2 say goodbye 2 my fwend whom i was with! When i got home he embrace me and said he was sorry, i was lyk i L♥√ع you too dad... For a very long time, i had that text on my phone, am pretty sure av read the text over a thousand times, it was a moment i still cherish. Say dos 3 words, it works like magic.

Fathers, your child needs you, your wife needs you, your family needs you, and the society needs you, your children defines your family, your family defines our society, our society defines the Nation and the world at large.
Be a responsible father, a point of reference most of all make your family to be proud of you.

torhuke: I wish I have a daddy with all thes qualities. He is my my daddy anyways.

I am working towards being a good father and o make sure my Wife and children do not sufer what my mum, me and ma siblings suffered.
Xo help me God.
Thank u veru much OP
Emm, wht is the meaning of OP sef? Opinion Poster or Original Point? pls som1 shuld tell.

oluwadare26: God should please bless my Dad more and provide 4 him for he just score 95% of the role listed.

Luv u P-man



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Symbolical Idol: It's not really easy to be a good father,but determinations can make it easy.

Blackteeth: Women want to be empowered, but they dont want to take the responsibilites that comes with the power. As long as women want to rub shoulders with men, the above responsibilites should apply to women too.

Verbes001:

Op, fathers have not forgotten their roles.