londoner:

Some Nigerian parents dont listen to their children because they think they know it all, and can never be wrong.

I dont think its just Nigerians though. Even when you speak up, you are considered rude.

bawomolo:

now that's just plain wrong.

and what do the kids do when they hear or find out that their parents are turning to strangers for advice rather than talking with them them?
Getting angry and disappointed wont do much,let your cousin sit with her mum and talk.

yeyeruzi:

@michelin89

This has very little or nothing to do with Nigerian culture or with parenting.

Here parents do listen to their children when their children is not known to be naughty, disobedient or is not marked with any social vices. People will even give excuses for him or her or them if they are found in a situation that does not tell their known attitudes.

You didn't bother to listen to her(your cousin's) mother's side of the story to why she wouldn't listen to her. Your cousin may not be of commendable behaviour lately that led to her story being pushed aside (though she may be truthful or innocent this time around).

You, I'm sure, would dismiss your lover's side of a story and would be driven by gossips if your lover is known to be unfaithful even if he is now innocent.

Bokoharam:

@poster

I disagree dt NIgerian parents dont listen to their children. As a child, my parents listened to me.

But, before I conclude, may I know some more detail;

1. How old is your cousin-friend?
2. What is actually the issue that your friend is dissatisfied with?
3. What did pple say abt your cousin?
4. Tell us more about what the older people saw & complained
5. Chances are that you cousin-friend was doing something mischievous, and our culture does not tolerate that (I may be wrong, pardon me)
6. Chances also are that her parents know her to be naughty, based on previous experirences and observations reacted (I may also be wrong, pardon me)
7. Your honest response to thiese will help us unravel the mystery abt what went wrong

Bear it in mind that over 80% of parents are NOT mad!!!

jaguar_09:

@Poster, Axeman


Now i see why Naija youths will never rise for their right, we are abandoning our culture in all phases and embracing strange cultures all in the name of civilization. i blame all this on the economy of Nigeria. had it been that our leaders do the right thing people will see reason to be proud to be a Nigerian and an African. Remember the bible say "bring up a child in the way of the Lord and when he grows he will not depart from it".

@harakiri i concor with you. many Naija youth are derailing from their background, God created you to be a Nigerian and an African for you to fulfill purpose here on Earth, he gave you that identity, culture and race the best you can do is abide by it and be proud of it. see the good in the African and Nigerian culture so that it may be well with you. Being well with you means having Peace with you fellow man. even your enemies will celebrate you because you are fulfiling your purpose.

yeyeruzi:

Have seen mothers defend her children when I clearly witness the misdemeanor of their children and instead they blame other children for the wrong of theirs.

@michelin89
solution:
Encourage your cousin behave. She is 16 and not a kid. Let her stop blaming wolves for her putting on a sheep's clothing. Don't expect people to accept your excuses. If she is sincere then let her sacrifice a little bit of freedom to achieve her mother's trust.

She is beautiful [/b]and married and unmarried men will surely look towards her side. Let them be the one to say hello first and she should reply not looking towards their side or look into their faces. Things like this happen and married women will see her as a threat and she(your cousin) could be a little guilty here (No one is an angel here).

[b]Lets do things that we will not later struggle to give excuses or explanation for. Let us be in places that wolves won't have a chance to devour us. She'll have to work for this as it is very essential ; we are all social animals