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Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by harakiri(m): 6:33am On Jan 07, 2010 |
@Bokoharam I guess that would be another time.Thanks for taking the time to read through my post.Majority of the posters here defending the moderator don't even take the time to read the first two lines.They just skim through,jump to conclusions and get their itchy fingers to work.The MODERATOR is the worst culprit in this regard. |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by harakiri(m): 6:41am On Jan 07, 2010 |
jaguar_09: Thank you very much.It amazes me how a lot of people on here are running down one of the core virtues that make us unique from others in the first place and that is GOOD UPBRINGING.Even with all the pampering and "freedoms", you cannot compare a Nigerian kid raised abroad with his/her oyibo counterparts.There will always be a marked difference.For all of you who are pouring out venom on parents, please don't forget that you will be parents some day and when your 16 daughter brings a man for "introduction", please don't turn up your eyebrows.You are all here talking this and talking that.Introduction? Can you imagine that? At 16? |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by harakiri(m): 6:49am On Jan 07, 2010 |
otukpo: Wow. . .i didn't know NL ladies were this methodical in their reasoning.For most of the women that post here, it's the norm to jump on the band wagon without even thinking things through for a second.Like i said before, parents who listen to outsiders do so because the child in question hasnt' proven his/herself to be mature and of sound judgement! ! ! Simple as that. |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by otukpo(f): 8:48am On Jan 07, 2010 |
harakiri: The poster definitley does not know the cousin well. No matter will set out to tarnish the image of her daughter. Most mothers wld do anything to cover their daugthers and paint them as good even tho bad. The girl is just 16, and she is def moving in the wrong direction. Why talk of marriage now and by the way, who is sending her to guiness? |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by agitator: 9:19am On Jan 07, 2010 |
otukpo: abeg ask her for me ooooh. Even confirmed prostitutes, you hardly see the mothers broadcasting that they are such. In fact woe betide you to open you mouth in front of the mother to say her daughter is a prostitute. maybe only 3 out of 10000 mothers will own up to the bad character of their daughters |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by Nobody: 9:51am On Jan 07, 2010 |
Who said mothers have never spoken bad of their daughters to total strangers? |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by kpolli(m): 11:58am On Jan 07, 2010 |
cos their parents never listened to them |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by mecussey(m): 12:32pm On Jan 07, 2010 |
I think it's the effect of the last civil war; it's worst with the Igbo fathers. New fathers now listen to there sons |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by tbaba83(m): 3:57pm On Jan 07, 2010 |
nawao some people here are saying giving children a voice to be heared is abondoning our culture. Do you seriously think our culture is really doing us any good. African cultures that scream circumcising women so that they dont become promiscious and slashing tribal marks on little kids all in the name of so called african beauty are what african cultures scream barbaric. Children need to be heard end of story. |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by Bokoharam: 4:14pm On Jan 07, 2010 |
michelin89: Ok. Sobbered. Been grappling with replying 4 d past 2 hours. Mailto: mybokoharam@yahoo.com. |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by Nobody: 4:21pm On Jan 07, 2010 |
@harakiri d fool is here again givin useless advice as usual. MR I TOO KNOW .d world should have bin a beta place if people like u dont exist.i pray i dont have a child dat will constitute a nuisance anywere he is.( like u )how wount u no dat an 8 yr old child is selling on d street wen u r a low life urself.am hapy people like me dont even no dat 8 yr olds sell on d street cos i was never brought up 2 see n smell poverty.n my 18yr old sister is askin weda u r 10 yr old.cos u sound like an impoverishedn malnourished ghetto child.dat we av loggerheads with our parents doesnt take away d fact dat dey luv us, dirty little tin .so sorry i wish u cud be more refined |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by Ndeewonu: 5:08pm On Jan 07, 2010 |
kulyie: Kulyie, who does this refer to? Pls, clarify. |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by Bokoharam: 7:31am On Jan 09, 2010 |
@Michelin89 I acknowledge. Well written. I feel sobered by that. So sorry. I could NOT reply up till now. I ve bn finding it difficult. I referred to that on my post #. I think we need to talk more about it & proffer solutions. |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by djayxpro: 7:25pm On Jan 09, 2010 |
yea guy you are right. some naija parents are not intimate with their wards. we lack communication!! some children would rather talk to "wrong" friends than their "right" parents!! |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by Nobody: 8:07pm On Jan 10, 2010 |
@kulyie u'll prolly notice that some people on nairaland like to focus on the person, rather than the issue, and have ready words of insult for anyone who doesn't toe their line of thought. my advice: ignore them till they fade away! don't exchange words with em. That's a waste of ur precious time. |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by Nobody: 5:59pm On Jan 11, 2010 |
THE REASON WHY PARENT'S LISTEN TO OUTSIDERS MORE THAN YOURSELF IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE NOT PROVEN YOURSELF AS BEING MATURE AND YOU HAVE ALSO DONE THINGS TO MAKE THEM DOUBT YOUR JUDGEMENT! ! ! Word. @ Michelin It makes no sense to me why people would go out of their way to tarnish a young girl's image, but things do happen. However, her being a virgin does not prove anything either. It's not until you lose your virginity people would see you as wayward. I knew girls like that who were and could still be virgins in my church but their attitude especially when we were in the midst of boys only disproves all the whole virginity covering. We heard rumors about these girls (some were in fact my friends) and we still continue to hear rumors about them, some of which were confirmed true. Is it fair to refer to them as loose girls, no. But it's very important in a Nigerian setting you conduct yourself properly in public as a girl. That's just the sad truth. Because you're in a foreign land does not mean Nigerian values will evaporate overnight. And yes there are nigerian values when it comes to parenting (although we still have to do some work on parent-child communication) or the issue of dating as a teenager (which is clearly still frowned upon). |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by Nobody: 7:17pm On Jan 11, 2010 |
I have encouraged my cousin to speak to her mother, because that seems the only solution. |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by Nobody: 11:20pm On Jan 11, 2010 |
@ndewoo i'm referin 2 H A RA K I R I so if u no d 'thing' pls relay my msg 2 d person @ice blue thanks.i was just provoked |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by ThiefOfHearts(f): 5:46am On Jun 13, 2010 |
Most nigerian parents believe they know whats best for their children. because they think being old and seen life qualifies them to know whats best. without considering the childrens opinion of thoughts. nonsense. Good to know there are some men who have common sense. Completely agree with your post. Dont know what a post about Nigerians not listening to their children has to do with children telling parents to shut up *rolleyes* |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by ThiefOfHearts(f): 6:02am On Jun 13, 2010 |
stillwater: Nigerians are miserable people esp the "I live in church" ones. |
Re: Why Don't Nigerian Parents Listen To Their Children? by seyibrown(f): 8:07pm On Aug 08, 2010 |
Not 'listening' to their children is one main reason why many Nigerian parents never get to find out when their children are being molested! Many parents have totally enstranged their children from being able to come to them when they have serious problems. In many cases, where the child rises above the ' shut up', 'I'll kill you', I'll beat you' and tells them someone is molesting them, the kids are told 'stop telling lies', 'who sent you there' or labelled promiscuous by their own very parents. Many do not report rape because they fear their parents would 'kill them'(not literally) or disown them! We'll learn someday sha! |
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