Dear nairalanders,

I've been dating this lady since we left secondary school till this month. We went to different universities but then things went pretty well between us because we get to talk and the communication was absolutely perfect and wonderful.

After graduation and we were posted for nysc, we were posted to different states but i redeployed to her state because we both wanted to be close to each other.

After service, we both started working and little by little things started happening and the communication started falling, so also thr closeness. I do ask her what the issue is but she tells me nothing. After some time, i went to visit her and then i met one of her colleagues at work who was a guy and we greeted each other. While i was at her house, i noticed that the way the two of them were behaving was not making me comfortable but still i didn't leave. After about an hour or thereabout the guy decided to leave and she escorted the guy to the door and i decided to follow her which she did know of and then when she hugged the guy goodbye and was about to turn to the door to come back in the guy kissed her and when she turned her face she saw me but i didn't say anything.. It all got me annoyed but i composed myself.

After that day i met the guy there twice or thrice and then i asked her Wassup with her and this guy and she said there's nothing that they are just friends and i believed her. After then i still had issues with the same guy. We still had issues with another guy too though and my girlfriend was not bothered about it and then i just let her be and gave her some space because all she tells me is that I am too jealous.


I spoke to one of my friends about it and he told me that we should try something out to know if she still cares about me. So myself and my friend composed a message and sent to her. Her sister and her friends inviting them to my wedding with another lady. It actually worked because we spoke on the phone for hours and she said that it's her work and that she's sorry. She cried on the phone and then i later told her it was all planned. After then things went back to the way it used to be and we were both happy.

But after about three months or thereabout things started getting back to the bad way it was before the plan with my friend. I asked her again what the matter is in several occasions but she kept telling me nothing..

I requested for a time out with her and she agreed and then we talked at length and she didn't say anything in particular to what's happening..

So on my own i decided on a plan that i told her some other lady is pregnant for me and her parents are requesting me to come visit them because of their pregnant daughter. After i sent her that message, she got angry and has refused picking my calls since then and I've been apologising but she said it's over between us. After still begging for about two weeks, i decided to stop calling her because she blocked my number from calling her. But then she still uses our picture as dp on bbm.

Do you guys think I'm forcing the relationship by finding several ways to make things work out or i should just let her be since she has made her decision to break up with me??

Please i need honest and sincere advice.

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tosyne2much

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Op you're too...what's the right word um
em
er
Possessive.

or should I say immature?

Yeah that's it.
Imagine breaking the poor girl's heart with your useless 'plan' TWICE.

See when she comes back (that's if she will) just marry her.She's tired of everything.

9 yrs nor be beans

Sh needed a reason to dump you and you gave her one. It's over for real so move.


Get serious and get better. She will leave you now because of the new guy but thing is, she will definitely need you later.

I don't know, some guys sef..clearly she is looking for a way out and you are forcing her to stay,abd all your funny games are not helping,just proves how desperate you are,you better start looking for a new girl,these hoes ain't loyal..just imagine nine years just like that wasted?smh too bad. You will find someone better,you deserve better cos I can bet you that you are not the only one fvcking her.

Nne5:
Op you're too what's the right word um


em


er

Possessive.


Yeah that's it

or should I say immature? Imagine breaking the poor girl's heart with your useless 'plan' TWICE.

See when she comes back just marry her.9 yes nor be beans

All i did was to get her attention back

How will u feel if a girl keeps playing ur heart the way u r doing to this innocent young Lady.... Go see her and apologise and make sure you stop all this your immature games

OP 9 years, 9 years, 9 years. and you are still playing games upandan. you are immature. not even a ring you are just taunting the poor geh. dont worry a 600,000,000 volt thunder was approved and signed from 32 villages to take you down. as we speak its in prayer city and moving over to redemption camp tomorrow for final tests. you cant escape it . and quote me- you will soon get invitation card from her to bridal shower as the "head of strippersss"

Kondomatic:
Sh needed a reason to dump you and you gave her one. It's over for real so move.


Get serious and get better. She will leave you now because of the new guy but things is, she will definitely need you later.

one chillded origin fr this dude...
The guy jst Gave her a reason to dump his Ass

You and all this your plans sef ! couldn't you have come up with some other plan ? you hurt her the first time ,she forgave you and now again ? huh? Such childish games!

Why do you keep sending stupid messages to her.
You are so childish.

Bibi294:
How will u feel if a girl keeps playing ur heart the way u r doing to this innocent young Lady.... Go see her and apologise and make sure you stop all this your immature games

if I slap u, u will go blind? Who is playing with whose heart here? Didn't u read she kissed the other guy, not know he was behind them?

Yet, she said nothing is going on between them.

poshestmina:
You and all this your plans sef ! couldn't you have come up with some other plan ? you hurt her the first time ,she forgave you and now again ? huh? Such childish games!

why are u defeending someone who is clearly cheating on the OP?

What I can pick here is that she wants to get married but OP hasn't made ANY hint in that direction. 9 years no be 9 months.

She should have just explained things to him and asked what are his plans.

Rule number one.. Don't let a girl know u love her first ..




Ok bye

OP you should have used sensed by just getting your self another babe and turning this one wey dey play games to a side chick.

ikp120:
OP you should have used sensed by just getting your self another babe and turning this one wey dey play games to a side chick.

You know it's really not a good idea cheating but some ladies would force you to

Dude!!!


You're so childish I just want to strangle your neck. God forbid!

dingbang:
Rule number one.. Don't let a girl know u love her first ..




Ok bye

True.. But when you don't show them you love them they'll feel you're a cheat

You are showing how desperate you are and that's pushing her away.
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If you still love her, try and pay her a visit and be objective when you reach there.Not being too emotional like soft baby. Talk things out with her and explain to her that it was all joke...
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By the way, she give you love portion? Try to give ladies in ya life chance and enjoy ya life alone for sometimes... Use the Push and pull method also when dealing with ladies you love because I bet you showing you care and love so much can makes ladies run away (I've tried it too).
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Be the prize here, stop acting like she is doing you any favor by dating or getting married to you... She must need you as you need her too... Else, na one chance you dey...
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Peace

waywardpikin:
Dude!!!



You're so childish I just want to strangle your neck. God forbid!

All i did was just to get her back.. Never knew it was going to be like this.. But i believe there's a reason for everything

Chibydinho:
You are showing how desperate you are and that's pushing her away.
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If you still love her, try and pay her a visit and be objective when you reach there.Not being too emotional like soft baby. Talk things out with her and explain to her that it was all joke...
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By the way, she give you love portion? Try to give ladies in ya life chance and enjoy ya life alone for sometimes... Use the Push and pull method also when dealing with ladies you love because I bet you showing you care and love so much can makes ladies run away (I've tried it too).
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Be the prize here, stop acting like she is doing you any favor by dating or getting married to you... She must need you as you need her too... Else, na one chance you dey...
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Peace

I like your response and i really appreciate it.. God bless you.

tukurutaiwo:


You know it's really not a good idea cheating but some ladies would force you to

It's not cheating. It's called "moving on". That's the easiest way to move on once you notice that your partner is cheating. Once she starts to see another guy, I don't need to tell her that it's over; I will simply play along.

tukurutaiwo:


All i did was just to get her back.. Never knew it was going to be like this.. But i believe there's a reason for everything

Just let her go. You don fvck up already. If she comes back fine and if she doesn't you won't die.

The golden rule I live by is: NEVER TRY TOO HARD FOR ANYONE. Life is supposed to be easy bro, na we just dey make tinz complicated for ourselves.

All this your planning sef, are you Michael Scofield??

poshestmina:
You and all this your plans sef ! couldn't you have come up with some other plan ? you hurt her the first time ,she forgave you and now again ? huh? Such childish games!

Thanks for the response.. But mind you i didn't beg her d first tym, she came back to her senses wen i played d first, she was d one dat begged but it turned d oda way for the second plan...

tukurutaiwo:
Dear nairalanders,

I've been dating this lady since we left secondary school till this month. We went to different universities but then things went pretty well between us because we get to talk and the communication was absolutely perfect and wonderful.

After graduation and we were posted for nysc, we were posted to different states but i redeployed to her state because we both wanted to be close to each other.

After service, we both started working and little by little things started happening and the communication started falling, so also thr closeness. I do ask her what the issue is but she tells me nothing. After some time, i went to visit her and then i met one of her colleagues at work who was a guy and we greeted each other. While i was at her house, i noticed that the way the two of them were behaving was not making me comfortable but still i didn't leave. After about an hour or thereabout the guy decided to leave and she escorted the guy to the door and i decided to follow her which she did know of and then when she hugged the guy goodbye and was about to turn to the door to come back in the guy kissed her and when she turned her face she saw me but i didn't say anything.. It all got me annoyed but i composed myself.

After that day i met the guy there twice or thrice and then i asked her Wassup with her and this guy and she said there's nothing that they are just friends and i believed her. After then i still had issues with the same guy. We still had issues with another guy too though and my girlfriend was not bothered about it and then i just let her be and gave her some space because all she tells me is that I am too jealous.


I spoke to one of my friends about it and he told me that we should try something out to know if she still cares about me. So myself and my friend composed a message and sent to her. Her sister and her friends inviting them to my wedding with another lady. It actually worked because we spoke on the phone for hours and she said that it's her work and that she's sorry. She cried on the phone and then i later told her it was all planned. After then things went back to the way it used to be and we were both happy.

But after about three months or thereabout things started getting back to the bad way it was before the plan with my friend. I asked her again what the matter is in several occasions but she kept telling me nothing..

I requested for a time out with her and she agreed and then we talked at length and she didn't say anything in particular to what's happening..

So on my own i decided on a plan that i told her some other lady is pregnant for me and her parents are requesting me to come visit them because of their pregnant daughter. After i sent her that message, she got angry and has refused picking my calls since then and I've been apologising but she said it's over between us. After still begging for about two weeks, i decided to stop calling her because she blocked my number from calling her. But then she still uses our picture as dp on bbm.

Do you guys think I'm forcing the relationship by finding several ways to make things work out or i should just let her be since she has made her decision to break up with me??

Please i need honest and sincere advice.

...STORY....is she lightskin?

waywardpikin:


Just let her go. You don fvck up already. If she comes back fine and if she doesn't you won't die.

The golden rule I live by is: NEVER TRY TOO HARD FOR ANYONE. Life is supposed to be easy bro, na we just dey make tinz complicated for ourselves.

All this your planning sef, are you Michael Scofield??

Thanks bro, i really appreciate your response.. God bless you

tukurutaiwo:


True.. But when you don't show them you love them they'll feel you're a cheat

let dem feel dat way.m its much better

I888:
if I slap u, u will go blind? Who is playing with whose heart here? Didn't u read she kissed the other guy, not know he was behind them?

Yet, she said nothing is going on between them.

See where domestic violence starts o...
1) it is not even your story and you're this temperamentall?
2) kissing some other guy was what the op saw and they got over it....
Please and please, stop quoting me ooo... Op asked for advice which I shared my opinion so share your opinion without been violent

Bibi294:

See where domestic violence starts o...
1) it is not even your story and you're this temperamentall?
2) kissing some other guy was what the op saw and they got over it....
Please and please, stop quoting me ooo... Op asked for advice which I shared my opinion so share your opinion without been violent

Ahn ahn... you dey fear? It's only slap na, you wee not die

tukurutaiwo:


Thanks for the response.. But mind you i didn't beg her d first tym, she came back to her senses wen i played d first, she was d one dat begged but it turned d oda way for the second plan...

It just shows how insensitive you are to her emotions .Guess she was already tired of ur childish ways (i'm sure that wasn't d 1st time u intentional hurt her) .that is more than enough for ME to hate someone .take heart anyway

Bibi294:
How will u feel if a girl keeps playing ur heart the way u r doing to this innocent young Lady.... Go see her and apologise and make sure you stop all this your immature games

what made her innocent??