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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Theblackstalln: 12:43am On May 05, 2017
khayce:
and for the purpose of a subject like this, Apostle Paul advised a man marries if he knows he cant control himself ..to avoid fornication. meanwhile nowadays, the guys wants to stay single yet the man under them want to continue doing miracle.




go and marry ooooo angry church altars are full of single ladies praying for husband




go and marry ooooo
Marry at age 20...what an advice undecided
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Youdondeymad: 12:46am On May 05, 2017
Op,with the comments so far,I believe you've gained many things.The ball is in your court,it is your choice,to whom brain is given,sense is expected.Goodluck.




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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Maski87: 12:48am On May 05, 2017
If you continue you will go blind

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Threebear(m): 12:51am On May 05, 2017
Marioplus:
I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I’m not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.

Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear-says about sex.

Masturbation is handling/rubbing/squeezing your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their female-core while guys rub, massage or caress their sexual-organ. I decided to give explicit explanation because some ask me what masturbation is. Some ladies especially non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a male sexual organ and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).

From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex. It’s a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may wake up feeling sexually aroused and your sexual organ will stand erect for some minutes for no single reason in the world or you become sexually aroused on seeing a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the image off. You may get sexually aroused on watching a romantic movie and discharge something. You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven’t committed any sin.

So what then do you do when you get hot and Hot? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate! They give themselves release and personal pleasure through solo sex while claiming ‘virginity’ at the same time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:

1. Masturbation is not done in isolation. It is done with the IMAGE of SOMEONE in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. That is MENTAL FORNICATION

2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with man except objects during your solo sex.

3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don’t enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won’t be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won’t have feelings for your husband’s sexual-organ. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands’ sexual organ is too small didn’t marry as virgins. They must have been promiscuous as singles by masturbation or having several sexual partners.

4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won’t enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self-control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating. Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair. Self-control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum after wedlock. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total virginity pays!

5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ slow ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant? It’s the reason some women are seemingly “barren” and can’t talk to anybody out of embarrassment. Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether. You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that come with sex IN MARRIAGE!

6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown person (demonic entities otherwise known as spiritual spouse).

7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.

8. You start getting unsatisfied and begins to desire the real thing. You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.

9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers -you become promiscuous.

10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.

11. You are at risk of hell fire!

These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your sexual urge? How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?
—-BELIEVE IN JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR OWN PERSONAL LORD AND SAVIOR
—-INVITE THE HOLY SPIRIT EVERY PASSING SECOND OF YOUR LIFE TO FILL YOUR SPIRIT, SOUL AND BODY WITH HIS OWN LIFE AND PRESENCE THEN WITH THE CONFIDENCE OF JESUS CHRIST INSIDE YOUR LIFE NOW AND THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT DRIVING EVERY DESIRE, THOUGHTS, DECISIONS, ACTIONS OF YOUR LIFE, YOU WILL DO THESE

1. DELETE all dirty pictures, pornography videos, sexually provocative e-books, pictures and hot, romantic movies/novels/magazines/clothes/objects in your phones/laptops/room-walls, in your room/bags/school-lockers with the CONFIDENT BELIEVE IN THE HOLY SPIRIT PRESENCE CUURENTLY IN YOUR LIFE NOW -they are powerful sexual triggers!

2. DISCONNECT your SELF from friends who say dirty, sexually provocative and immoral things/chats/text-messages AS A MATTER OF URGENCY BECAUSE THE HOLY SPIRIT COMMANDED YOU TO DO SO! Stop all sexy banters with friends (you are sexy/hot, am I not sexy/hot?, you are slaying e.t.c) and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful {Phil.4:8}

3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.

4. Transmute your sexual energy: Channel your sexual energy into something great. I had a strong sex drive in the institution. I simply channeled them into my education making me the best student in my department from the second year. I was very excited and energetic. I BURNT the ENERGY on my STUDIES. I also started my ministry and was very committed as my fellowship BIBLE STUDY CO-ORDINATOR. If you don’t BURN that ENERGY, YOU will COMMIT FORNICATION/ADULTERY/LESBIANISM/HOMOSEXUALITY/INCEST/BESTIALITY.

5. Study THE WORD A LOT especially PSALM 119. When you are FILLED with THE WORD, you have NO SPACE for the devil and his demons in YOUR heart.

6. Pray and speak in TONGUES ALWAYS. THE HOLY SPIRIT SANCTIFIES YOUR WHOLE BEING {SPIRIT, SOUL & BODY} CONSISTENTLY THROUGH HIS LANGUAGE FLOWING FROM INSIDE YOU TO YOUR OUTSIDE

7. Make friends with GODLY people.

8. DELETE pornography and romantic movies.

9. Get busy in THE SERVICE OF JESUS CHRIST KINGDOM.

10. OPEN YOUR HEART TO JESUS CHRIST COMPLETELY thus “LORD JESUS CHRIST I GIVE YOU MY WHOLE BEING AND LIFE, USE ME FOR YOUR GLORY ‘ONLY’ THROUGH YOUR HOLY SPIRIT ACTIVELY LIVING INSIDE ME NOW AND ALWAYS IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME. AMEN.” HE will surely HELP you OUT.

Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic, destructive and sinful. Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply involved in it. JESUS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN HELP YOU. Call on him! God bless you.
JOIN A GENUINE FELLOWSHIP, GET COMMITTED TO JESUS CHRIST THEN EVERY OTHER THING FOLLOWS!!!
Very stupid useless post.
This is the solution you give a young boy masturbating ,that he should stop or burn in hell. I take it you are the gate keeper there, I see you in hell before him. Religious fanatics, they never give realistic solutions but bunch of jargons.

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by seuncyrus(m): 12:55am On May 05, 2017
hmbassey1960:
ME TOO MY I THINK IS WORST HAVE BEEN MASTRUBATING FOR,ALMOST SIX YEARS NOW EVERYDAY, I WANT TO STOP IT BUT IT KEEPS COMING AM AFRIAD THAT IT MIGHTY CUS ME LOW SPERM COUNT AND THE THING IS THAT I WATCH TOO MUCH PORN, PLS DO U GUYS HAVE ANY IDEA HOW I CAN END THIS ACT I DO NT HAVE A GIRLFRIEND AND AM SHY TYPE I ALWAYS ERECTION GUYS PLEASE ANY WAY TO STOP THIS AM JUST SCARED IT MIGHTY RENDER INFERTILY ANY GOOD REASON IDEA PLEASE,NO PASTOR PREACHING OR IMMAN PLEASE JUST NEED A COMMON ADVISE CUS I NO DEY BELIEVE FOR RELIGION MATTER,AM JUST AFRIAD,SAY I NO GO FIT BORN PIKIN CUS I MASTURBATE ALOT PLEASE I NEED MATURE ADVISE NO INSULT,THANKS

I'm going to give this advice to you and Prudent200 ... Someone already told you to think about the consequences and try to help yourself and all, but we know its easier said than done.

To Really overcome Masturbation, what you need is baby steps and practical approach

- Firstly, Know what triggers your urge ( is it boredom , when ur alone? is it when you login to Instagram or fb and some notifications from the "pages" u've like pops up ? etc) I hope u understand all that

- Then try to dissociate yourself from all this triggers... unlike all the pages , delete all the porn pictures / videos in your phone ( even tho one pic/ video is just a click away on the internet ...still delete it, you'll be suprised at what this can do)

- try as much as possible not to be alone all the time , go out meet people ...stay with friends

- Get a girlfriend, Ok you're shy...use fb , instagram, Twitter, Instagram even NL ( you might get lucky )...or you can talk to a female friend/neighbour / cousin etc that you like her friend ...some will say yes , some will say no

- Lastly... For everyday you don't masturbate ,make a mark on the calendar , If you're able to go 3 days in a row without masturbating , star the third date. Try as much to get at least 1 star in a week. Then the following week 2 stars ....Then u can increase the star interval to 4 days and so

Its a very simple and practical approach, As much as people make it seem okay and normal, it has so many side effects

Try to get closer to God too smiley
Peace

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by addikt(m): 12:58am On May 05, 2017
This Nina4u oyinbo lady dey vex for all of una...lol, she say masturbation is good ..... grin

Well, me I no dey allow am bother me at all, when I have wet dreams , then I'm due for sex ,I hook up with my gf and that wouldn't happen until some weeks when I'm moody again... just the truth .
Now dem go say na evil spirit enter person when I no touch another person gf...silent and pretending wankers all over!!!

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by PossieSlayer: 1:04am On May 05, 2017
made some points...

but don't entirely agree with what you elucidated
Marioplus:
I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I’m not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.

Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear-says about sex.

Masturbation is handling/rubbing/squeezing your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their female-core while guys rub, massage or caress their sexual-organ. I decided to give explicit explanation because some ask me what masturbation is. Some ladies especially non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a male sexual organ and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).

From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex. It’s a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may wake up feeling sexually aroused and your sexual organ will stand erect for some minutes for no single reason in the world or you become sexually aroused on seeing a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the image off. You may get sexually aroused on watching a romantic movie and discharge something. You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven’t committed any sin.

So what then do you do when you get hot and Hot? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate! They give themselves release and personal pleasure through solo sex while claiming ‘virginity’ at the same time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:

1. Masturbation is not done in isolation. It is done with the IMAGE of SOMEONE in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. That is MENTAL FORNICATION

2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with man except objects during your solo sex.

3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don’t enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won’t be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won’t have feelings for your husband’s sexual-organ. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands’ sexual organ is too small didn’t marry as virgins. They must have been promiscuous as singles by masturbation or having several sexual partners.

4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won’t enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self-control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating. Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair. Self-control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum after wedlock. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total virginity pays!

5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ slow ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant? It’s the reason some women are seemingly “barren” and can’t talk to anybody out of embarrassment. Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether. You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that come with sex IN MARRIAGE!

6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown person (demonic entities otherwise known as spiritual spouse).

7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.

8. You start getting unsatisfied and begins to desire the real thing. You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.

9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers -you become promiscuous.

10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.

11. You are at risk of hell fire!

These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your sexual urge? How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?
—-BELIEVE IN JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR OWN PERSONAL LORD AND SAVIOR
—-INVITE THE HOLY SPIRIT EVERY PASSING SECOND OF YOUR LIFE TO FILL YOUR SPIRIT, SOUL AND BODY WITH HIS OWN LIFE AND PRESENCE THEN WITH THE CONFIDENCE OF JESUS CHRIST INSIDE YOUR LIFE NOW AND THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT DRIVING EVERY DESIRE, THOUGHTS, DECISIONS, ACTIONS OF YOUR LIFE, YOU WILL DO THESE

1. DELETE all dirty pictures, pornography videos, sexually provocative e-books, pictures and hot, romantic movies/novels/magazines/clothes/objects in your phones/laptops/room-walls, in your room/bags/school-lockers with the CONFIDENT BELIEVE IN THE HOLY SPIRIT PRESENCE CUURENTLY IN YOUR LIFE NOW -they are powerful sexual triggers!

2. DISCONNECT your SELF from friends who say dirty, sexually provocative and immoral things/chats/text-messages AS A MATTER OF URGENCY BECAUSE THE HOLY SPIRIT COMMANDED YOU TO DO SO! Stop all sexy banters with friends (you are sexy/hot, am I not sexy/hot?, you are slaying e.t.c) and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful {Phil.4:8}

3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.

4. Transmute your sexual energy: Channel your sexual energy into something great. I had a strong sex drive in the institution. I simply channeled them into my education making me the best student in my department from the second year. I was very excited and energetic. I BURNT the ENERGY on my STUDIES. I also started my ministry and was very committed as my fellowship BIBLE STUDY CO-ORDINATOR. If you don’t BURN that ENERGY, YOU will COMMIT FORNICATION/ADULTERY/LESBIANISM/HOMOSEXUALITY/INCEST/BESTIALITY.

5. Study THE WORD A LOT especially PSALM 119. When you are FILLED with THE WORD, you have NO SPACE for the devil and his demons in YOUR heart.

6. Pray and speak in TONGUES ALWAYS. THE HOLY SPIRIT SANCTIFIES YOUR WHOLE BEING {SPIRIT, SOUL & BODY} CONSISTENTLY THROUGH HIS LANGUAGE FLOWING FROM INSIDE YOU TO YOUR OUTSIDE

7. Make friends with GODLY people.

8. DELETE pornography and romantic movies.

9. Get busy in THE SERVICE OF JESUS CHRIST KINGDOM.

10. OPEN YOUR HEART TO JESUS CHRIST COMPLETELY thus “LORD JESUS CHRIST I GIVE YOU MY WHOLE BEING AND LIFE, USE ME FOR YOUR GLORY ‘ONLY’ THROUGH YOUR HOLY SPIRIT ACTIVELY LIVING INSIDE ME NOW AND ALWAYS IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME. AMEN.” HE will surely HELP you OUT.

Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic, destructive and sinful. Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply involved in it. JESUS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN HELP YOU. Call on him! God bless you.
JOIN A GENUINE FELLOWSHIP, GET COMMITTED TO JESUS CHRIST THEN EVERY OTHER THING FOLLOWS!!!
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Xkalaban(m): 1:06am On May 05, 2017
[quote author=Prudent200 post=56186552]

i will be banging my Dick on the bed and it take 10 minute to erupt sometimes i do hold my sperm and continue banging the bed even as i type this I masturbated this night and i erupt

Chai, but konji na bastard kwanu. I admire ur courage bro. Not every person wld confess matters like this publicly. If I were u tho, I'd pipe down patiently & look around. Chics are everywhere nowadays. There must be one sweet punany around the corner noticing u cos she just likes u or cos she's equally Hot too.

Natural sex with the opposite sex is nxt 2 heaven. Pure, sweet, relaxed n cool raw sex.

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by don4ye: 1:11am On May 05, 2017
@ Prudent200
Way out..

Stop watching porn site.
Do exercise at least 3 times a week
Anytime you are alone, engage yourself in reading or watching movie
Pray
Read your bible ( if you are a christian)
........

If you did not stop now here are the likely problem in future

Erections dysfunction
No lady will attract you.
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by piagetskinner(m): 1:19am On May 05, 2017
talk to somebody in your church....someone who u see as youthful but elderly someone who can disciple u...



that's one sure way of getting out of it.,u must be angry with what the devil is making u do.and resolve not to be used by him

remember u cannot stop it on ur own., ask the holy spirit to help u and channel your thoughts into other productive areas.Read Philippians 4:8

least I forget, stop watching porn too
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by arrestdarrester: 1:20am On May 05, 2017
Please please please and please do not allow anyone tell you that masturbation is normal at the rate you have just described.

You need just a few things and all are readily available to you. Thank God.

The first and most important thing you need now is to know that it is a self-destructive behaviour and how to master your body and overcome it before it destroys you.

The second is don't go hard on yourself. If you do, depression will set in. You are already at the point of conviction and do not need condemnation any further. Open your Bible and read Romans chapter 7 and see yourself in reality.

The third is to receive Jesus Christ as your Saviour and Lord. You ask why? This is the only way to receive THE LAW OF THE SPIRIT OF LIFE in your body as a gift. This is the power that works out godliness in your body and also heals your body. Believe me this power is real.

The fourth thing is to renew your mind. You have already defined in your mind what gives sexual pleasure. The picture is fixed in your mind. The picture may be ladies' curves, breasts, shape, shoes etc. Believe me, without any of these pictures running in your mind you will not ejaculate (or erupt as you call it). The pictures have to be replaced each time it comes to you in a thought with something edifying. If you don't want to think of lion, replace the thought with elephants. Don't leave your thoughts running haywire without control. Thoughts will come but you must willfully replace them with edifying ones.

The fifth thing is to avoid loneliness and lonely situations. Do not use lady friends to avoid loneliness. Use discipline. Direct your sensual energy away from sex to e.g. praying when alone. Be outdoor. Occupy yourself with physical work.

Sixth, select a God fearing but loving authority figure who will not condemn you but walk you through this process at this point in your life. I said select because a pastor who did not pass through this might finish you off unknowingly.

The seventh and final thing is to cloth yourself with the warmth of God's love for you. That love for you is in Christ and nothing can break it. The thought of that love gives you the power to go through anything.

Shalom. Jesus is Lord!
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Nobody: 1:22am On May 05, 2017
Prudent200:

.
OK thanks is it true masturbation reduce prostrate
cancer?

Listen Prudent, i would advise you to eat a lot, i mean 4 time a day if you're going to continue with this habit
because it drains alot out of you since you complained about shaky legs, that's not normal, eat plenty to counter the physical effect of masturbation
as for the mental and spiritual effect, i cannot help you, the only way to help yourself is to stop, which you simply can't because you don't have the will power. Eat alot dude or you are going to hate your looks in the future.
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by selfemployed(m): 1:24am On May 05, 2017
the only solution i know that will work is this:

https://www.nairaland.com/3779622/24-year-old-groom-whose-wedding-pictures


check around and find a beautiful girl you love and get along with her
other things will work out along the way
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by ReachHard: 1:27am On May 05, 2017
Better go and see Pastor TB Joshua osiso

Before he runs into exile
cheesy

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by ericessien24: 1:29am On May 05, 2017
to stop it, you need just two things.

1. get a girlfriend that lives close to you or that can be around anytime you call. you can have more than one for start, it will boost your self esteem.
2. go to prostitutes or get olosho numbers cos you will be shy to carry out the step above (1). use condom Sha. be ready to spend for it.


with frequent and steady sex with a girl for a month, your esteem will boost and then you can learn to control yourself and number of gf.

my little advice. worked Sha.

note: it's not religious, it's your mind and determination.

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Nina4u(f): 1:33am On May 05, 2017
addikt:
This Nina4u oyinbo lady dey vex for all of una...lol, she say masturbation is good ..... grin

Well, me I no dey allow am bother me at all, when I have wet dreams , then I'm due for sex ,I hook up with my gf and that wouldn't happen until some weeks when I'm moody again... just the truth .
Now dem go say na evil spirit enter person when I no touch another person gf...silent and pretending wankers all over!!!
. ...Men, bless them. They love to think about us masturbating, at least the way they think we masturbate based on porn they’ve seen. If only they could be a fly on the wall when we’re actually pleasuring ourselves....Everything they thought to be true would be rocked. My average self-love sessions are performed without fanfare.....Done with bad breath, messy hair, in my old sweat pants, before bed, when I wake up, am feeling stressed, or sad, or bored, or annoyed, or Hot. .... Personally, I’ve gone through periods of time where I do masturbate every day, or even several times a day. I’ve also gone through complete handling droughts where I wasn’t into diddling myself for weeks. My self-pleasure drive is usually connected to my mental state or my hormones. I get hornier when I’m ovulating and when I have my period. My sex drive plummets when I’m going through any kind of stressful life event... grin

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Nina4u(f): 1:43am On May 05, 2017
bruno554:
The way oyibo people de use pick interest in pidgin English I no just understand again oo. Na so I meet one for gossipmill for facebook and she de base for Hungary and she de speak the pidgin well
Dis na di taim ooo .. grin grin I JUS WISH SAY ALL THIS OYIBO PEOPLE SABI PIDGIN ENGLISH..COS THIS LANGA NA D KOKO..hahahahaha I con think say E go be beta to sabi am.. I dey 9ja 4 outside sabi pidgin.....Una thank you well well ... grin grin

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Xkalaban(m): 1:45am On May 05, 2017
Sacluxpaint:


Wow! You are the reason why naija education system is fvcked.

Lol, and folks like u are the reason why modern education has become twisted. Go ahead & knock urself out with articles online then come and tell us the one we don't know. Tell us how some tablet cures some desease and then give us a thousand adverse effects that wld make one to avoid the drug.

There are medical articles that says masturbating is good for the health & there are several other articles that dispel it. So who's fooling who?

I'm a guy, a very sensual one for that matter and I can tell u that I've felt those advarse effects he listed in the past. I'm talking from my experience back when I used to masturbate regularly. So I've used myself as a case study which is a better way to learn on this ish than any article out there.

Low sperm count, sexual weakness, premature ejaculation, depression, low self esteem n sh!t which all stopped when I stopped wanking. Thank God I overcame that sh!t & watching mojo. That sh!t ruins lives jor. To all the correct ladies in da house, una too much jor. Forget wanking let's make sweet love all day, everydaykiss kiss kiss

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by SirMichael1: 1:52am On May 05, 2017
FILEBE:


see as I just dey watch him and that Martin124 guy.

No mind the guy. Maybe he thinks if he say she's wrong, she would think him uneducated?. Some nigerians dey like to dey think say oyibos know book pass us but in reality... Its wrong. Like this Nina4u for example now.
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by koolaid87: 1:55am On May 05, 2017
Nice write up!

However, it's hard to stay clean in this world of sodom and Gomorrah

The western culture has eaten so deep that everywhere you turn, you're more inclined to go back to your old ways.

May God help us all

Marioplus:
I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I’m not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.

Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear-says about sex.

Masturbation is handling/rubbing/squeezing your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their female-core while guys rub, massage or caress their sexual-organ. I decided to give explicit explanation because some ask me what masturbation is. Some ladies especially non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a male sexual organ and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).

From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex. It’s a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may wake up feeling sexually aroused and your sexual organ will stand erect for some minutes for no single reason in the world or you become sexually aroused on seeing a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the image off. You may get sexually aroused on watching a romantic movie and discharge something. You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven’t committed any sin.

So what then do you do when you get hot and Hot? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate! They give themselves release and personal pleasure through solo sex while claiming ‘virginity’ at the same time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:

1. Masturbation is not done in isolation. It is done with the IMAGE of SOMEONE in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. That is MENTAL FORNICATION

2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with man except objects during your solo sex.

3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don’t enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won’t be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won’t have feelings for your husband’s sexual-organ. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands’ sexual organ is too small didn’t marry as virgins. They must have been promiscuous as singles by masturbation or having several sexual partners.

4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won’t enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self-control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating. Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair. Self-control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum after wedlock. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total virginity pays!

5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ slow ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant? It’s the reason some women are seemingly “barren” and can’t talk to anybody out of embarrassment. Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether. You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that come with sex IN MARRIAGE!

6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown person (demonic entities otherwise known as spiritual spouse).

7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.

8. You start getting unsatisfied and begins to desire the real thing. You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.

9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers -you become promiscuous.

10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.

11. You are at risk of hell fire!

These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your sexual urge? How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?
—-BELIEVE IN JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR OWN PERSONAL LORD AND SAVIOR
—-INVITE THE HOLY SPIRIT EVERY PASSING SECOND OF YOUR LIFE TO FILL YOUR SPIRIT, SOUL AND BODY WITH HIS OWN LIFE AND PRESENCE THEN WITH THE CONFIDENCE OF JESUS CHRIST INSIDE YOUR LIFE NOW AND THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT DRIVING EVERY DESIRE, THOUGHTS, DECISIONS, ACTIONS OF YOUR LIFE, YOU WILL DO THESE

1. DELETE all dirty pictures, pornography videos, sexually provocative e-books, pictures and hot, romantic movies/novels/magazines/clothes/objects in your phones/laptops/room-walls, in your room/bags/school-lockers with the CONFIDENT BELIEVE IN THE HOLY SPIRIT PRESENCE CUURENTLY IN YOUR LIFE NOW -they are powerful sexual triggers!

2. DISCONNECT your SELF from friends who say dirty, sexually provocative and immoral things/chats/text-messages AS A MATTER OF URGENCY BECAUSE THE HOLY SPIRIT COMMANDED YOU TO DO SO! Stop all sexy banters with friends (you are sexy/hot, am I not sexy/hot?, you are slaying e.t.c) and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful {Phil.4:8}

3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.

4. Transmute your sexual energy: Channel your sexual energy into something great. I had a strong sex drive in the institution. I simply channeled them into my education making me the best student in my department from the second year. I was very excited and energetic. I BURNT the ENERGY on my STUDIES. I also started my ministry and was very committed as my fellowship BIBLE STUDY CO-ORDINATOR. If you don’t BURN that ENERGY, YOU will COMMIT FORNICATION/ADULTERY/LESBIANISM/HOMOSEXUALITY/INCEST/BESTIALITY.

5. Study THE WORD A LOT especially PSALM 119. When you are FILLED with THE WORD, you have NO SPACE for the devil and his demons in YOUR heart.

6. Pray and speak in TONGUES ALWAYS. THE HOLY SPIRIT SANCTIFIES YOUR WHOLE BEING {SPIRIT, SOUL & BODY} CONSISTENTLY THROUGH HIS LANGUAGE FLOWING FROM INSIDE YOU TO YOUR OUTSIDE

7. Make friends with GODLY people.

8. DELETE pornography and romantic movies.

9. Get busy in THE SERVICE OF JESUS CHRIST KINGDOM.

10. OPEN YOUR HEART TO JESUS CHRIST COMPLETELY thus “LORD JESUS CHRIST I GIVE YOU MY WHOLE BEING AND LIFE, USE ME FOR YOUR GLORY ‘ONLY’ THROUGH YOUR HOLY SPIRIT ACTIVELY LIVING INSIDE ME NOW AND ALWAYS IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME. AMEN.” HE will surely HELP you OUT.

Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic, destructive and sinful. Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply involved in it. JESUS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN HELP YOU. Call on him! God bless you.
JOIN A GENUINE FELLOWSHIP, GET COMMITTED TO JESUS CHRIST THEN EVERY OTHER THING FOLLOWS!!!
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by SirMichael1: 1:57am On May 05, 2017
GeneralOjukwu:


You should know the type by now...Asslicker extraordinaire...house nigger.

One boiz2men that i dealt with before my moniker was banned is a prime example. They feel sucking up to women online helps.

PATHETIC sad

Ah! Thank God that I have someone who thinks like me. These guys pretty much accept practically everything a lady says even though they know that it is wrong. I see them always on FB. Totally annoying jare.
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by champagnepapi01: 2:04am On May 05, 2017
You know sometimes I wonder how Our reasoning would've been if we are Budhists Or Core Atheists.

Religion has really made so many Stupid and Gullible.

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by biz2get(m): 2:09am On May 05, 2017
Listen to Any Religious Belief at your Own Peril.

Think Logic and Smart.

People are Preaching On their Own Opinion.

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by madjune(m): 2:12am On May 05, 2017
You didn't start early at all.
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Nobody: 2:22am On May 05, 2017
Xkalaban:


Lol, and folks like u are the reason why modern education has become twisted. Go ahead & knock urself out with articles online then come and tell us the one we don't know. Tell us how some tablet cures some desease and then give us a thousand adverse effects that wld make one to avoid the drug.

There are medical articles that says masturbating is good for the health & there are several other articles that dispel it. So who's fooling who?

I'm a guy, a very sensual one for that matter and I can tell u that I've felt those advarse effects he listed in the past. I'm talking from my experience back when I used to masturbate regularly. So I've used myself as a case study which is a better way to learn on this ish than any article out there.

Low sperm count, sexual weakness, premature ejaculation, depression, low self esteem n sh!t which all stopped when I stopped wanking. Thank God I overcame that sh!t & watching mojo. That sh!t ruins lives jor. To all the correct ladies in da house, una too much jor. Forget wanking let's make sweet love all day, everydaykiss kiss kiss

Your case was pornography induced, of course that affects your performance. Besides wanking helps reduces the risk of prostrate cancer. Of course too much of everything is not good. I self-service and still got that mandingo size dick and my sex life is OK.what I don't do is watch porn to self-service.
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Emmahunk(m): 2:36am On May 05, 2017
AnthonioAlsaid:



Thank you honey

I wonder how a supposedly lady would know what

Happens in a man's body

Thanks again

Thank you for being polite but a female doctor for instance does not need to be a man to know what goes on in a man's body. Education does the magic
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by bezimo(m): 2:42am On May 05, 2017
There is only one way to stop that urge that is drowning in destruction.

That is become born again and actively engage the help of the Holy Spirit with sincere covenant vows, after first casting out the demon of lust and masturbation from your life.
It's a spirit moving you to masturbate and as such you cannot stop except by the Help of the Holy Spirit.What the Holy Ghost does is to mortify/kill that desire and urge to masturbate. When he does that you lose interest in those stuff. I can tell you that.
Over to you...
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by Parable007: 2:55am On May 05, 2017
see how people can deviate from the original question, the young man isn't asking if masturbation is good or bad but want to quit it (let get that) it his choice he want to stop if you don't have an answer for him you must not comment. well I really don't knw techniques on how to stop and all wish a person who once indulged in it and stopped by using a technique can help but personally I have always believed Jesus is the answer to any question not mater what the question is. thanks

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Re: Please Help On Masturbation by therealchase(m): 2:59am On May 05, 2017
[quote author=chloride6 post=56218429]Get a girlfriend Bro.......

Who you get the real stuff, your desire for the fake would reduce. Trust me.

The truth about it is that you are flooded with hormones that are making you feel so Hot.

We will in a world where it is really easy to set ones hormones raging.

So much flesh everywhere, you open a page on the Internet, see boobs every where.

These things make you super Hot.


P. S

Stop watching porn too.

[/quote

True but what you just said is another way of fornication you mentioned girl friend and not fiance why have sex with someone you wouldn't marry? Besides sex is a spiritual bond. For those guys wey dey Bleep anything carry on grin
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by AreaFada2: 3:02am On May 05, 2017
Nina4u:
We all do it from time to time.. Even married couple mastorbates.. Alone time... Women too...
The highlighted above is not true. We cannot generalise. Some do, some don't.

There are many scientific opinions on masturbation. Despite all they health myths about causing stroke, insanity, low sperm count, blindness, acne and so on, the consensus is that there is nothing wrong with medically.

Except it becomes an addiction, obsession, interferes with the subject's functioning, feels dirty or ashamed of doing it, etc.
This is not unique to masturbation.

If you eat pizza obsessively, think of pizza every time, know it's ruining your health, feel helpless/powerless to stop, affects your life & mood negatively, then it is as bad. It can be same for doughnut, burger, alcohol, etc.

See an official link below: http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Goodsex/Pages/masturbation.aspx

Now, while scientifically nothing might be wrong with masturbation, a human being is not just a scientific entity/apparatus.

We are all shaped my various influences: religion, education, societal opinion on morality, parents, etc.

Even many who know about the scientific facts still cannot shake off the feeling of guilt or being dirty.

Also if doing it makes it impossible for him to enter into a relationship or find the opposite sex (gay is illegal in Nigeria, and this is a Nigerian registered forum) totally unnecessary, then there is a problem.
Re: Please Help On Masturbation by sugarlyn: 3:09am On May 05, 2017
AnthonioAlsaid:


Deceive not yourself

It shrinks your dick

Causes depression

Erectile dysfunction

Premature ejaculation

Body weakness



true masturbation is bad, it can disgrace u any where because it has control over u, which causes depression. u can stop it by avoiding staying alone, change ur pattern of sleeping and praying to God for help.

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