After a breakup , its normal for the used-to-be-couple to either stop talking, cut ties or even hate themselves.
What im confused about is when after falling madly in love with each other, quarrelling and then breaking up , both individuals actually become friends again and act like nothing ever happened. Is that feasible? I tend to question the love they had in the first place.

YEA is possible but is either dey are still in love or never be in love before

Marisol911:
After a breakup , its normal for the used-to-be-couple to either stop talking, cut ties or even hate themselves.
What im confused about is when after falling madly in love with each other, quarrelling and then breaking up , both individuals actually become friends again and act like nothing ever happened. Is that feasible? I tend to question the love they had in the first place.

never worked fr me! We become total strangers after a failed relationship

I dont think its necessary for them to be good friends. It would only incite emotions that may restore the relationship. Dont give chances unless you are ready to take chances. #mytake

I have seen ex lover's become real friends again....

The guy is married now to the Lady that bears his child

They act so friendly that the guy even visits the girl in her family home..

They gist , laugh abuse them selves like two fresh love birds

Friends and both families even get confuse about them

He still gets her stuffs

The guy knows the Lady is really in a real relationship that will soon lead to marriage

The question we keep asking is, Are they Insane??

Is their something still fishing ?

Are they still in love??


The girl is my cousin..

Of course,yes.

NelsonNeo:
never worked fr me! We become total strangers after a failed relationship

works differently for me.. we dont necessarily become total strangers,, but we wont be good friends anymore.. maybe just d "hi hi " friends.. but nothing more

Nickizoe:
I have seen ex lover's become real friends again....

The guy is married now to the Lady that bears his child

They act so friendly that the guy even visits the girl in her family home..

They gist , laugh abuse them selves like two fresh love birds

Friends and both families even get confuse about them

He still gets her stuffs

The guy knows the Lady is really in a real relationship that will soon lead to marriage

The question we keep asking is, Are they Insane??

Is their something still fishing ?

Are they still in love??


The girl is my cousin..

un my opinion, they are still in love. what they have is still there. its glaring

ctex4real:
I dont think its necessary for them to be good friends. It would only incite emotions that may restore the relationship. Dont give chances unless you are ready to take chances. #mytake

Right? i think so too.. unless youre willing to take on whatever results from becomin close again, DO Not be close friends with exes

Tiny23:
Of course,yes.

Really? why?

It's called being emotionally and mentally mature. Things did not work out between my ex and I, I will most certainly not hate him on that account. Further more not every one fights and calls each other all sorts of names when they split up.If you had the foresight to see that you had become parallel lines in the relationship and took time to see if this can be rectified and that was not possible then you part ways. It's when you both pretend ( or one of you does) that all is only to have one head on collision in the end , this is when bitterneee and anger fester. They exist because one of you was not honest and forthright. I have no hatred or anger towards my ex, I would not describe us as friends but when we do meet we are able laugh and joke and have rich conversations.

Raine80:
It's called being emotionally and mentally mature. Things did not work out between my ex and I, I will most certainly not hate him on that account. Further more not every one fights and calls each other all sorts of names when they split up.If you had the foresight to see that you had become parallel lines in the relationship and took time to see if this can be rectified and that was not possible then you part ways. It's when you both pretend ( or one of you does) that all is only to have one head on collision in the end , this is when bitterneee and anger fester. They exist because one of you was not honest and forthright. I have no hatred or anger towards my ex, I would not describe us as friends but when we do meet we are able laugh and joke and have rich conversations.

Kudos! thanks!

Marisol911:
After a breakup , its normal for the used-to-be-couple to either stop talking, cut ties or even hate themselves.

A breakup brings into question the genuinity of the love in the first place.

Marisol911:

What im confused about is when after falling madly in love with each other, quarrelling and then breaking up , both individuals actually become friends again and act like nothing ever happened.

There's no such thing like the bold. What happened was infatuation, which manifested in its due time.

Marisol911:

Is that feasible? I tend to question the love they had in the first place.

Well, that people were once blinded by infatuation leading to their own hurt, doesn't necessarily means that when they breakup, then they must be sworn enemies. And yes, the so-called love is exposed for what it is- infatuation!

Splinz:


A breakup brings into question the genuinity of the love in the first place.



There's no such thing like the bold. What happened was infatuation, which manifested in its due time.



Well, that people were once blinded by infatuation leading to their own hurt, doesn't necessarily means that when they breakup, then they must be sworn enemies. And yes, the so-called love is exposed for what it is- infatuation!

Yea, i agree with ur analysis , i agree it's most times infatuation but do you mean falling madly in love can never happen? or that people who actually fall genuinely in love cant break up?

There are wounds that can never heal. Especially if one party is the cheated one. He would forever feel bad.

Been in a situation like this, you give in your all to a relationship, the girl and her family just waste your time, and in the end, they marry her off to someone else, in the name of, she's a big girl,she knows what she wants. Those chilling words, the mother said to me... today was her traditional wedding, they didn't even tell me, a friend of hers who didn't like what she did told me and asked me to leave.. all will be fine.

The girl and her family still added me to their Facebook accounts, I wonder why.. I know with time, this wound will heal.

We can never be friends again, I even plan on opening a new Facebook account so I forget them on the first one.

Marisol911:


Yea, i agree with ur analysis , i agree it's most times infatuation...

Cool.

Marisol911:

but do you mean falling madly in love can never happen? or that people who actually fall genuinely in love cant break up?

Here, I agree with this Bible verses: “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil... Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5, 8 ).

gimakon:
There are wounds that can never heal. Especially if one party is the cheated one. He would forever feel bad.

Been in a situation like this, you give in your all to a relationship, the girl and her family just waste your time, and in the end, they marry her off to someone else, in the name of, she's a big girl,she knows what she wants. Those chilling words, the mother said to me... today was her traditional wedding, they didn't even tell me, a friend of hers who didn't like what she did told me and asked me to leave.. all will be fine.

The girl and her family still added me to their Facebook accounts, I wonder why.. I know with time, this wound will heal.

We can never be friends again, I even plan on opening a new Facebook account so I forget them on the first one.

Wow.. i can tell you really loved her... all the same , move on bro! im sure theres someone better deserving of your love.. what will be will be...what isnt, wasn't meant to be

Splinz:


Cool.



Here, I agree with this Bible verses: “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil... Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5, 8 ).

Smiles., he even has biblical backup

My ex is my best friend.

Safiaa:
My ex is my best friend.

Y'all most definitely still have feelings for each other

Lol nahhh
Look at him like my brother now.

Marisol911:

Y'all most definitely still have feelings for each other

Marisol911:
After a breakup , its normal for the used-to-be-couple to either stop talking, cut ties or even hate themselves.
What im confused about is when after falling madly in love with each other, quarrelling and then breaking up , both individuals actually become friends again and act like nothing ever happened. Is that feasible? I tend to question the love they had in the first place.

well I'll never agree for any girl of mine to still be friends with her ex... Nah, you either stay with me or I'll assume you're against me and walk away. You can't stand it when I'm friends with my ex trust me... Jealousy and insecurity issues will bring u down.

Safiaa:
Lol nahhh Look at him like my brother now.

hmm.! b deceiving yaself nw oo

Safiaa:
Lol nahhh Look at him like my brother now.

hmm.! b deceiving yaself there oo

Marisol911:
After a breakup , its normal for the used-to-be-couple to either stop talking, cut ties or even hate themselves.
What im confused about is when after falling madly in love with each other, quarrelling and then breaking up , both individuals actually become friends again and act like nothing ever happened. Is that feasible? I tend to question the love they had in the first place.

Well, I'm going thru the exact same situation now. I still wake up some mornings (like today) and chat her up. Truthfully I'm not over her but it's just like a love story that was never meant to be. Yet, I can't let go and we both understand that. With time things should play out well enough to define whatever relationship we will have

brownlolly:


Well, I'm going thru the exact same situation now. I still wake up some mornings (like today) and chat her up. Truthfully I'm not over her but it's just like a love story that was never meant to be. Yet, I can't let go and we both understand that. With time things should play out well enough to define whatever relationship we will have

I guess the major factor here is TIME

Having an ex as ur friend is like using a surger cane as a walking stick. Once u feel thirsty u 'll eventually chew it.

akaahs:
Having an ex as ur friend is like using a surger cane as a walking stick. Once u feel thirsty u 'll eventually chew it.

Hehehe.. akaahs, you think?

Marisol911:

I guess the major factor here is TIME

I guess so

Yes but the feeling could still be there

Yea.....They can always come back to bang themselves.Its a natural thing