Right now we sleep on different bed and its tearing us apart.I've told him to loose weight,we have treeadmill but he wouldn't use it.He eats till he goes to bed,and he goes to bed late.Anytime we sleep together ,i ended up not getting enough sleep,The worst part of it is that he snores loudly.

that's tough. I suggest you tell him how much this is affecting ur relationship.

Snore back that will make it 50/50. Then that will eventually stop the snoring.

My dear, I feel you; that's a very serious matter.
Snoring kills r/ships slowly, and some man don't care, with this annoying attitude that they have made you their wives.
However, my dear, don't ever sleep separately, cos that could be disastrous, sleep with him OK!,
I know you will get use to it
Moreover, talk to him, let him know how that is killn you, if he cherishes you r/ship he he will buckle up

Snoring- just hearing the word makes me cringe. I am a very light sleeper, so any kind of noise justdoesn't cut it. I can hear the next door neighbor snore sometimes and it sure keeps me awake, can't imagine living with someone that does.

Talk to your husband about seeing a sleeping disorder specialist, I believe they are called Pulmonologist. In the mean time get some ear plugs and some breathing strips for him. Goodluck.

I've bought sleeping strips for him but he wouldn't use it saying,it doesnt work.I am a light sleeper and i dont fall to sleep easily,but he falls easily and easily dose off while watching tv.I can sleep with my mum who snores (just to tell you how loud my husband snores),sometimes he will snore loud and within a second cease breathing,you will even think he is no longer breathing,it's so scary.Am very tired,since 2008,i've been telling him this.I haven't seen a person that snores like this in my entire life.Marriage is serious ooooooooo.Right now two of us are not in the right mood,things are not so well,he is saying that that our sex life is not romantic,but he wouldnt see where the problem lies.

Thank you chaircover bc this what ive been telling him i will do.

I dont know earplugs.Is it anything earplugs like ipod?

oh yeah i got it.Is it going to stop the snoring?

ikpuru1234:

I dont know earplugs.Is it anything earplugs like ipod?

Dumb Dumber.

What a pity, i cannot sleep in the same house with your BF because i am not a heavy sleeper. If you love him, then try using ear plugs, the type used in aircrafts.

If he is overweight, let him loose some weight, it does help, it could be that too much fast in the neck region obstructing his voluntary breathing path. He could also see an ENT doctor to check out his sinuses and make recommendations.

Are u bothered cos he disturbs ur sleep or u bothered cos of his health?
Concentrate on making him see the dangers of obesity and snoring on his health,talk to him sweetly and kindly and let him understand u care abt his health.Encourage him with love to go see an ENT and for the meantime,use earplugs.

my dear, i know exactly how you feel.  my hubby snores too.  do try the earplugs.  they work.

you can also try going to bed before him, then let him come in later after you've slept off.  i'm also a light sleeper, but i noticed that if i sleep before he does, then i won't hear him when he comes in.  the only thing wrong is if i happen to wake in the middle of the night for a pee or drink, then it'll take another 20/30 mins to get back to bed. 

I'm hoping i'll get used to it, though it's been more than 3years now.  the one thing i know is that sleeping on different beds will affect the rest of the relationship, so that's not an option for me.

@mixie, has he tried anything to address the issue, if not you too may want to tell him to loose some weight or see an ENT.

@remi. yes o! he works out once in a while. it's actually hereditary cos his whole family snores, so there's a limit to what he can do.

@mixie, encourage him to work out regularly, if workouts are not regular he may snore worse on the day of workout since he would be tired from painful joints. Make his diets healthier too by dropping off fatties, It is not enough to give up siting heredity, trend could be broken, lol, you just need to work on it. all the best.

I think earplugs and breathing strips are still the best option. Using different rooms won't help the relationship.

Remii:

@mixie, encourage him to work out regularly, if workouts are not regular he may snore worse on the day of workout since he would be tired from painful joints. Make his diets healthier too by dropping off fatties, It is not enough to give up siting heredity, trend could be broken, lol, you just need to work on it. all the best.

thanks dear.  will do.

@ikpuru 1234, try and not think about it if you can, just pray about it.  little things like this can start making you irritated and everything else will start going bad.  focus more on the good things and prod him gently to start working out.  hopefully, he will.

For those suggesting ear plugs, you'd be suprised you'd wake up one day and the dude is gone; yeah, dead. Snoring, most times is a symptom; perhaps there's an obstruction in his air-way. Obesity is definitely a cause. You should ask him how he well he sleeps at night. I will not be suprised if he wakes up sometimes tired or if sometimes he is "shocked" out of sleep because he is not breathing and his brain is not getting a good supply of oxygen.

Some remedies:
If your hubby sleeps on his back, try to get him to sleep on his side.
Also, if he is obese, try to work with him. Talking to him like a child will not work. With regards keeping fit, you have to realise both of you are partners. It's not enough saying "we have a treadmill and he does not use it". He eats till late, blah blah blah; how about you help him since you probably are strong in this area? If you do not mind losing him to an unhealthy lifestyle, feel free to ignore my advice otherwise you are better off taking a pro-active stance to get your home on a healthy track.
Also, you may want to go see a doctor about this. There are some devices some "sleep experts" will recommend to use while he sleeps, which opens the airway permanently. If it's quite serious, they may suggest surgery.

Goodluck!

It's easy buy him an anti-snore pillow. Heard it works.

so what. . .women do snore too. .

Take her for medical help

Now this is an issue i have discovered in recent times i cannot cope with,
People dont think its a serious issue but as the poster suggests, its tearing them apart, sadly.
Theres no advice to give, that hasn't even already been said,
cos if i was the one i would be in another place by now.

@poster, kpele o

Gamine:

Now this is an issue i have discovered in recent times i cannot cope with,
People dont think its a serious issue but as the poster suggests, its tearing them apart, sadly.
Theres no advice to give, that hasn't even already been said,
cos if i was the one i would be in another place by now.

@poster, kpele o

i am very sure, there are medical help

@gamine
you just disappeared sha

@thread
my roommate snores and i have to shout his name to get him to turn over around four to five times a night, i cant imagine having to cope with a spouse doing that. . .

Gamine:

Now this is an issue i have discovered in recent times i cannot cope with,
People dont think its a serious issue but as the poster suggests, its tearing them apart, sadly.
Theres no advice to give, that hasn't even already been said,
cos if i was the one i would be in another place by now.

@poster, kpele o

if u quit d relationship,have it in mind dat millions  of girls are waiting 2 take your place.
most men snore. . .so find a better solution 2 your problem.

He needs to lose weight then if you think that is contributing. If you are here in the states and have health insurance then you can go do a sleep study and they will usually give you this thing that you wear over your face before you go to bed. It helps. My sister's husband has one. He is very physically fit with not an ounce of fat but he is a very loud snorer. He got tired of sleeping in a different room from his wife so he went and got it. He sleeps silently

Stuff some dirty socks in his mouth when you go to bed. . .
You and him will sleep peacefully