stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

Jackeeh:


Relocate to calabar. I'll accommodate you.

CoolChinex07:
The story is so pathetic because I av a similar experience from my blood brother who was even the one that act me to come stay with them temporary while waiting to resume for my masters program after quitting from my job and leaving my rented apartment in PH. after few weeks, he start setting traps for me. that's wen I know that I av to leave. but before I could leave, he quickly instigated a major conflict between us and involving his wife in order to publicly disgrace me to leave. all because they taught that I will become a burden to them and demanding for money while running my masters program. I quietly moved out dejected but trusting in God. today I av completed my full-time masters degree in Nigeria premier university wit top grade without a dime from them but unexpected favours from different sources. And God av open wider oppurnitnities for me to make choice from. Lesson to learn is that no man will help you wen dey think u are completely down. Put more trust and hope in God and work harder in humility.

MMotimo:


Humility is a virtue you should embrace. Your topic " ordinary" is a turn off. When somebody is giving you something they don't owe you, you don't get to dictate what is ordinary or not. If it were ordinary, you should have bought your own milk. The fact that you have a roof over your head after your eviction is due to their generosity and who knows how big the apartment is but still they invited you in.

If your hosts say an extra spoon of milk is too much to stomach and they are causing drama because of that, you have 2 options:

Start to buy your own food or contribute to feeding and hope they will allow you decide your own quantity of consumption
Leave their house

You don't get to decide what is ordinary in another person's house.

Bahddo:
Ordinary milk? No wonder they are kicking you out. Lazy ass adult with a nasty attitude, who doesn't earn a dime and instead of hustling, sits back and enjoys being fed.

You aren't even looking for a job, you are looking for someone else who would take you in and start feeding you

tonididdy:
many comments here are based on anger and hatred.


moss times never start what u cant finish, why accommodate a fellow you know you gonna throwout tomorrow over the slightest thing?



PS: the couples arent loving...another couple would receive this fellow and treat him diffrently until he can fend for himself. we must all learn to be patient.


@OP you have done nothing wrong. dont be stressed out....PRAY AND BELEIVE IN GOD FOR A BETTER HOME

Odunharry:
ChelseaDr Good morning. How's work and the family.

DarryOsh:

Curious to know your thoughts...

Why are we here?

MMotimo:


Humility is a virtue you should embrace. Your topic " ordinary" is a turn off. When somebody is giving you something they don't owe you, you don't get to dictate what is ordinary or not. If it were ordinary, you should have bought your own milk. The fact that you have a roof over your head after your eviction is due to their generosity and who knows how big the apartment is but still they invited you in.

If your hosts say an extra spoon of milk is too much to stomach and they are causing drama because of that, you have 2 options:

Start to buy your own food or contribute to feeding and hope they will allow you decide your own quantity of consumption
Leave their house

You don't get to decide what is ordinary in another person's house.

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

tonardo:


where is the game i paid for?

ayenitre:
You come across as an ingrate the way you worded your post. These people are your benefactors and they don't owe you anything. I was once accommodated by a guy whose wife was famous for her unfriendliness to her husbands family. Well, I knew this family through one of the husband's cousins who warned me about this lady. I was interning with an IOC located in PH city for 6 months, this family was the only one I knew, and thought it was what the risk.

Surprisingly, I didn't have one problem with this woman because I was happy to tell her how grateful I was for every little things she did for me. She cooks well, which I complemented her often. Even though I was a student at that time, I made sure I come back home with some food items to restock the pantry when I can. Mind you the man of the house was comfortable as he works in an oil firm too.

When I left there, they called to ask how soon I can visit again.

Zetra:

@bold
so true, he feels too big to be talked to, who is he
I don't see anything wrong in what the man's wife did.
If you see as my mum do shout anytime I do tea when I go visiting... so it's normal

he has stupid pride

davimus:
i am new in calabar but am not looking for accomodation but job hunting can you help me bro?

Nairaboi:
The responses from this thread shows that "the heart of some people are truly wicked" especially the women folks haven had a glimpse of the first page. So because he is not a family member he should not eat or feel the comfort of a home. Some are referring to 3 spoons of milk as too much.
Damm! i have friends i have accommodated, fed and often give cash once in a while to change clothes and my fiance knows about this and encourages me. so it crazy that many people can't do half of these.
truly, a wicked world we live in.

jieta:
your reply is full of arrogance, i won't be surprise if people like you control their husband.

Onopa:
Today I fully understand Nigerians are heartless and the the people are wicked and frustrated

Someone came here laid his life experience and probably frustrated all you guys could do is desend on him like a wounded lion give him rope to hang himself

And you stupid black people complain those Europeans are angry they dont need refrigee or migrants

You hate trump for saying he doesn't need illegal immigrants feeding off Hard working American TAX money

unitedsurv:


wana accommodate him? if you do will he know he has to work and plan for his future?

2. do you know if your valuables are safe when he's with you knowing? he has a relative in calabar

3. if you get fed up of his laziness how do chase him out?

just suprised you wana show charity in Nigeria of now and see him talk so far to me he's not ready to do something good yet

CoolChinex07:
The story is so pathetic because I av a similar experience from my blood brother who was even the one that act me to come stay with them temporary while waiting to resume for my masters program after quitting from my job and leaving my rented apartment in PH. after few weeks, he start setting traps for me. that's wen I know that I av to leave. but before I could leave, he quickly instigated a major conflict between us and involving his wife in order to publicly disgrace me to leave. all because they taught that I will become a burden to them and demanding for money while running my masters program. I quietly moved out dejected but trusting in God. today I av completed my full-time masters degree in Nigeria premier university wit top grade without a dime from them but unexpected favours from different sources. And God av open wider oppurnitnities for me to make choice from. Lesson to learn is that no man will help you wen dey think u are completely down. Put more trust and hope in God and work harder in humility.

stressedout:
my closest relative is in calabar. i am in lagos

Vikky014:
My dear you just spoke my mind. Ordinary milk. reduced the quantity of food they gave me . people like him are parasites. parasitic relationship is very bad.