Inanna:
The problem is from you. You're definitely not doing something right for her to dread having sex with you. And you think screwing another woman will solve your problems? You'd just make another woman miserable with your whack moves. Work on your tactics bro.

Inanna:
The problem is from you. You're definitely not doing something right for her to dread having sex with you. And you think screwing another woman will solve your problems? You'd just make another woman miserable with your whack moves. Work on your tactics bro.

drjustice17:
I'm tempting to hv sexual satisfaction from outside, since my wife is not sexually active. Since we got married in 2016. I'm just bn managing my sex life. my wife, don't like sex. She don't got aroused, for me to hv sex with her is always fighting, and she will be dry, and crying like a baby. And this is making her not to conceive. I'm beginning to fade up, cos, how can a married man be sexually urged and the penis will get down while, my wife is sleeping with on the same bed. Is better for me to do it outside and let God know I'm doing it. Don't judge married men having extra marital affairs, Only them knows what they r passing through.

dodelight:
I agree with the first comment above, there are many ways to make a woman desire sex, and you both need to seek counsel from an expert. I don't know if she is a spiritual person. Chances are her orientation about sex over the years have wired her up this way, but even such orientation can be changed. Seek practical counsel. Please don't go out until you've tried all friendly and possible means to resolve this.

DukeNija:


You might also be wrong. Some women are like that, thy just dont like sex. Frigid is the word

DukeNija:


You might also be wrong. Some women are like that, thy just dont like sex. Frigid is the word

muller101:
Advantages of test running before purchase

drjustice17:




She is a spiritual type that belief sex is bad. so she grow up with that notation.
Even at age 28yrs when i married her, she still a virgin and no boy friend.

sunshineG:
So i take it you didn't have sex during courtship stage for you to notice this
Now going out to fufil your sexual fantancy is creating another problem to an already existing problem cause that may break your marriage
You oobviously don't want people to crusify you for your opinion judging from your write up, so I will not do that

I think you should know this is what marriage is all about. Whenever you have problem with your wife you should learn to discourse with her and to find practical solution to the problem together, Instead of looking for solutions outside.
Now think about it, you are not perfect either. So how will you feel if your wife were to seek solutions to your imperfections outside your marriage

I know you will take your decision anyway, and that you just came here to seek some sorts of validation not really advice

But please think about what I wrote
Stay blessed

drjustice17:


Thanks for ur matured advice.
we hv discussed these. And sometimes, she do asked herself, if she is normal at all. i told her she is normal but need to free her mind. Thanks alot

delishpot:
Tell her how you feel. Tell her she is pushing you to do the act outside and you are worried she may break the hone.
That aside, how do you treat her? Many women are not sexually attracted to men who treat them badly(in their opinion) its like a nagging bad wife commingvtovask you for sex. Many men woukd be turned off by such women too. So oga, go fix your home. Both of you shoukd seek counseling. Such things are not what anyone can just resolve online. I can even counsel you guys FOC if you want it doesnt have to be physically. We can chat on skype or meet some elder you both trust to handle the case maturely without making her feel like her voice was not heard rather they tell her to overlook her own complaints becaise she is a wife and do as you say or make you feel unheard too and both of you must be ready to put in good effort. that is if you dont see the effort as a challenging one that you can resolve easily by having sex with someone outside your marriage

drjustice17:




She is a spiritual type that belief sex is bad. so she grow up with that notation.
Even at age 28yrs when i married her, she still a virgin and no boy friend.

MissRaine69:
You like problems. First address the main problem in your marriage which is the lack of intimacy. Have you discussed matters with her especiallu why she does not like sex and it's impact on your relationship with her? Secondly are you one of those men who thinks just because they are ready the woman is ready and waiting as well. Some women are like cars,you have to warm up the engine first not just climb on top and expect fireworks. Sex should not be a chore or an obligation . If you cannot compromise it's clear you were not conmpatible in the first place.

sunshineG:
aunty I like your analogy ooo
If women are like engine
Biko can you tell me what men her

MissRaine69:

The mechanic many claim to know about engines but lack basic orientation. They don't know that sometimes fingers are required to reach intricate nooks. You just don't open the bonnet and say there is no oil in this engine how do you know if you have not looked?
In this case we can blame the engine but the mechanic might be at fault as well. That's a terrible combination.