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I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by kirchofff(m): 10:19am On Aug 09, 2017 |
Don't know if this is the right section. I can express myself a lot better through writing than I can through talking. I enjoy writing and I like to think I am good at it. When I write, I sound intelligent, and can get my point across effectively. However, every time I open my mouth to speak, I sound like a total idiot. Everything always comes out wrong; nothing ever comes out right. I can never get across what I am trying to convey. People never "get the point" of what I am saying; it's very frustrating. I have a lot of intelligent thoughts and good ideas, but if I try to express them verbally, it always sounds really garbled and disjointed. What is VERY frustrating is when I am right and the other person is wrong, but because they can express themselves verbally and I cannot, it ends up looking like they know a lot more than I do. I am eloquent when I write, but when I talk, I stammer and fumble and look like a fool. I almost need an interpreter because I can never make myself be understood, and the other person always has some quick, smart-sounding answer and I feel like they have "shown me up". I sometimes wish I were a mute, because talking always frustrates me. How do I overcome this? Anyone been through this? 3 Likes
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Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by CheeBoo(m): 10:27am On Aug 09, 2017 |
One significant characteristic of introverts is that they are always great writers. This is chiefly because introverts do not fancy talking much and so as a result, they channel that energy into less 'extrovertal' traits such as writing. But then, majority of the channels of breakthroughs that are common in this country have to do with talking. So I would advise that while you hone your writing skills, you should also endeavor to develop your verbal communication skills as well. Also, never allow your inconsistencies with respect to speech deter you from expressing yourself when the need arises. Try to calm down by taking breaths at interval, make sure your opening words catches the attention of your audience, and take charge of your buccal cavity. 5 Likes |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by Nobody: 10:27am On Aug 09, 2017 |
Ftc anyways before i comment on the ish, how old are you really? |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by MyNewJackeT: 10:30am On Aug 09, 2017 |
I feel your pain bro, I have an uncle who always corrects me, every time I speak to him, he never went to school but learnt everything from life's experiences, I've graduated, so maybe he believes I'm competing with him, I know how to write very well too, I've edited books online for upcoming authors and got paid so many times. i also write articles for some blogs and get paid for it, but this man makes me so uncomfortable anytime he comes to visit. |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by cruzita(f): 10:31am On Aug 09, 2017 |
I HAVE SAME PRB TOO,BUT DURING ARGUMENT,WHILE D OTHER PARTY IS TALKING,I USE DAT OPPORTUNITY TO GATHER POINTS AND PRACTICE HOW 2 SAY IT |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by Lalas247(f): 10:34am On Aug 09, 2017 |
Many are out there mute praying to God for one day to speak And you are here wishing it on yourself .. you are just timid but express yourself better with written words .. less flaws maybe but there is absolutely nothing wrong My bro hates talking that's cause when he speaks no one understands him, he talks way to fast not a big deal but when it comes to writing or typing he can do it for Naija lol Do you stutter? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by jonathanOz: 10:58am On Aug 09, 2017 |
Start small. From making small conversations to engaging in prolonged ones, you begin to improve. Join groups and societies and attend meetings. You can volunteer to be a secretary (by writing minutes and reading them out you begin to improve). Just start small 1 Like |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by Nobody: 11:32am On Aug 09, 2017 |
Except the OP and few others, most people here would never understand his plight. 3 Likes |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by kodath(f): 11:36am On Aug 09, 2017 |
sorry about that...you can always have a starting point,,start now it is never too late to learn |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by ggrin(f): 11:40am On Aug 09, 2017 |
Same old shii |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by Rukkydelta(f): 1:02pm On Aug 09, 2017 |
Op you aren't alone. I'm also like that though I can maintain good conversation speaking with those close to me 1 Like |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by swiz123(m): 1:25pm On Aug 09, 2017 |
Stand in front of a mirror and practice.Try to speak aloud with your mouth wide open,that way you won't fumble with words 1 Like |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by Nobody: 1:30pm On Aug 09, 2017 |
From the way you write its obvious you can express your thoughts very well, so I think lack of confidence is the reason why u can't do so verbally or maybe the pple you talk to are not really up to your level and you struggle to come down to their level. Whatever the case maybe you can improve your speech capabilities by watching movies with good dialogues, reading books etc. 3 Likes |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by EmpressT(f): 1:30pm On Aug 09, 2017 |
That's how I feel too. I am a born introvert and I love to express myself more in writing than talking. Some people feel I am too boring to be mingled with and this hurts me so bad. Well, I guess I am not the type of person who associates with people. But when it comes to family circle, I can talk for africa hmmm.... No so e be o kirchofff: 1 Like |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by EmpressT(f): 1:32pm On Aug 09, 2017 |
Thank you... CheeBoo: |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by kirchofff(m): 2:07pm On Aug 09, 2017 |
Lalas247:no, I dont. I just dont find the right words to express myself and I make a lot of errors.I try to speak fast. Thanks for your concern. 2 Likes |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by Dynamitechick(f): 2:41pm On Aug 09, 2017 |
Practice...the more you do something the more you figure out better ways to do it |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by terencemall: 1:38pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
I agree that introverts have better developed writing skills in comparison with speaking. But generally, when we try to compare these two process (speaking and writing), one of them will be always easier in term of self-expressing and delivering information to the audience. Psychologists say it's because thinking precedes writing naturally and Steven Pinker proved that in his research paper. I've been always wondering why famous writers and playwrights do not sound so smart as their heroes and characters. By the way, JK Rowling is an introvert too and she was too shy to ask for a pen, when she wanted to write down her ideas. https://dkatague./2010/03/15/why-are-novel-writers-bad-public-speakers https://www.writemyessayfast.ca/write-my-essay-in-6-hours.php 1 Like |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by shestrong(f): 3:46pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
CheeBoo:Thank you. |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by shestrong(f): 3:48pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
swiz123: My thoughts exactly. 1 Like |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by Starz825(m): 8:20pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
kirchofff:You can't be a good writer if u not a good reader... You can't be a good speaker if u not a good listener. |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by kirchofff(m): 10:09pm On Nov 28, 2019 |
Starz825:what did you smoke?? |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by Starz825(m): 11:55pm On Nov 28, 2019 |
kirchofff:I know what am saying..if u have any issue with that..then let's have you... Before u can be able to speak with people or before people then u must have heard people speak with great charisma and boldness..that's exactly where ur inspiration would come from... |
Re: I Express Myself Better In Writing Than In Speaking. by sykeng(m): 8:42am On Nov 29, 2019 |
Op, you have to speak and care less about what people think about you. I'm a chronic stutterer and introvert, there are some persons who hated me for nothing just because they don't like d way I speak, especially females but when they know me in person and know the kinda guy I am, they change their orientation by then I have already closed the door against them. What you also need is practice!!!!!!!! And don't feel shy/intimidated for any reason, there was a time I wanted to teach in a private school just to overcome my speech impairment, because of my busy schedule I couldn't meet up. While I develop this method was during my post graduate studies, my first presentation was horrible, I was laughed at to the extent my lecturer told me that post graduate is not for everybody. Within me I know my ability, I told some of my close pals that I wanted to quit, they encouraged me and remind me of who I am. We presented assignments almost every week, to my greatest surprise I saw a lot of improvements to the extent anytime there is presentation I would be happy and I look forward to improving on my self. That's why I always tell people that speaking can never be a yardstick for intelligence. 1 Like |
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