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Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Pearllait(f): 6:21pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
PaperLace: THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH. YOU JUST ENLIGHTENED ME. May I add by saying, only wisdom can be made applicable. No marriage is a bed of roses....And as far as I am concerned, there's only one captain on a boat. Though it might not be easy, infact it might seem almost impossible to let them have their way but there are other ways to handle certain issues such as:- 1. to speak to them about their actions in the calmest way possible and 2. To seek God's face. May God grant us his sustainable grace. Amen.... |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Nobody: 6:22pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
Plankton2017: Op remember what I told you in the last thread you made. I knew you would end up being a slave to this family. You tried to rise above your level and you didn't have any bargaining power. Please try to get a better job so that you will have more respect in the family. https://www.nairaland.com/3710027/should-break-off-engagement-go |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Pearllait(f): 6:29pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
Nma27: SLAP Uhmmm, my dear brother is this ur own opinion? Well, like it is said, we are all entitled to our own opinion and our character is made by many acts; it may be lost by just a single act. If you ask me, i would say True fulfillment comes when we impact humanity. DO YOU SEEK PEACE OR YOU SEEK WAR?? What impact do you make? I'M SORRY NO OFFENSE |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by johnson232: 6:34pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
naturefellow:It is a big lie Most men that end up with domineering women are timid & incapable of making decision on time...Some won't even be able to make certain decisions all through their lifetime, thereby subjecting themselves to unnecessary sorrow... 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Aragon: 6:36pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
Plankton2017: What is wrong with you people? She did not just start this overnight. She might have been doing this and yet you married her. So why are you asking us if you should party on Saturday? Yes what you call White Wedding is actually for you to Bless your Union and then Party. Mu guy you are already Married! Actually you married Twice already. 1. You married according to the Traditions and Customs of the Land (This is the Real Marriage, that you see in the Bible cos nobody marries in the Temple back then) 2. You married again in the Courts, making it Legal according to the Constitutions of the Land. So what are you talking about? The White Wedding is actually for Blessing and then you party. Otherwise you wanna start your Divorce immediately, just manage what you went into with your mental capacity in tact. This is not the time to be asking Total Strangers what to do, you should have asked us when you were still dating and not now |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Nobody: 6:39pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
last month, this bros posted this Plankton2017: and the first comment is this yomi007k: all I have to say is this Bros is in serious wahala. as for me I will just leave d wedding o..... but he go bad if person has warned you against her. cos d tot will keep haunting u |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by johnson232: 6:40pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
FortuneTeller:So op even created a thread on this before! Every man should learn how to make certain life decisions & stand by it It is very important Op just don't have a mind of his own....that is why he is experiencing all these... 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Nobody: 6:49pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
You don enter one chance...enjoy yaself |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by snakebeat: 7:22pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
PaperLace:Having problems at the early stage of marriage is bad sign ooo. Such marriage hardly last. |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by MEHY: 7:24pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
Plankton2017:My dear guess you were too blind to see for long' |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by pato405(m): 7:38pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
OP, Pls call me now...I have an experience to share with you. This is an emergency; 081-4977-7036 |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Nobody: 8:13pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
pato405: Since he hasn't responded, I'm sure he did his "white" wedding today. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Tex42(m): 8:15pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
yvelchstores:May God bless u and ur Union,but if u are yet to get married,may He bless u with a good man. you must be one of the very few out there that tells themselves the truth. |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Nobody: 8:26pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
Plankton2017: Oga you are already married. What God has joined together let no man put apart. Consider other ways of dealing with her character. She definitely has some good qualities otherwise you would not have been attracted to her in the first place. As for your in-laws, they are not part of your life. You can manage them just like we manage bad bosses at work. Because they are not fully part of your life, things will likely improve with time. Just my two cents. |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by pato405(m): 8:40pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
FortuneTeller: wishing him best of luck. Our "modern day" ladies are on rampage. Young men shouldn't be in a hurry at all. Sometimes I even begin to wonder if having baby mamas aren't better. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Nobody: 8:43pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
By doing court and trado,you've already married her.All you need is a divorce. |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by onyi143: 8:50pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
Interesting, Oga you are now a married Man not fiancé , She is already your wife not fiancée. My advise is for you to sit her down and talk to her. No matter how hard a woman is, there is part of her that more soft than anything softable . Tell her your fear and how you want things to be. Show you that you are the Man in charge by applying, love, wisdom, understanding and caring. And not using violence and aggressiveness while talking. Take her out and spoil her a little before sitting her down. And try to forgive her wrongs and move on. As for the family and rudeness been silent and mature can kill that. Bitcoin, PayPal, perfect money always available check Nairaomm.com. Let me stop here.
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Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Nobody: 9:23pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
Pearllait:Epistle 101. Well, d main thing is for the op to take charge and b the head of his family. Ladies ride timid guys... Take that to d bank. If you quiet and timid, she'll definitely take u for granted until u step up. |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Nobody: 9:50pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
baba you obviously saw the signs but did nothing hoping she would change. she got her behaviour from her parents, you cant change her. you need to take a walk now even though you've made much commitment. its better to walk out naked from a burning building than get burnt trying to save your clothes 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by AK6464(m): 9:52pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
Plankton2017: Happy Married Life |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by cappinjerry(m): 10:26pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
My brother my simple advice for you is Quit! speaking from experience, you will never be happy. Same thing happened to me, i went ahead to marry now after two years she is gone, the family took her properties forcefully and the baby we had they have stopped me from seeing him. Don't listen to anyone telling u that you are married already. Plankton2017: 3 Likes |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Nobody: 11:47pm On Aug 12, 2017 |
pato405: He had no business marrying that lady. He dumped his nice girlfriend for the new wife, because the new wife was from his tribe and her family had money. Now he is a slave to his wife and her family. |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by xtervaganza(m): 2:10am On Aug 13, 2017 |
You want to sentence your self to a life of torment and regret? |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by diva90: 2:34am On Aug 13, 2017 |
You already did the court marriage, you are already legally married. follow your mind and do what's best |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Mikolex(m): 6:02am On Aug 13, 2017 |
If you have another reasons to stop ur Engagement ceremony, let us know now. Your wife and in-law attitude shouldn't be the reason why u want 2 option out because you have seen it coming before you go this far. As you have said, you have done tradition and court wedding, your Engagement day is very close, there is no point goin back because you have done 2 out of 3. Don't forget that something you can't change while courting, it will be difficult to change it when you marry. Just talk to her, draw her close 2 God. Only God can change her not you.[color=#990000][/color] |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by pato405(m): 8:07am On Aug 13, 2017 |
cappinjerry: Bros, can we chat ? |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by olowobaba10: 10:27am On Aug 13, 2017 |
STOP THESE LIES AND GET FREAL, LAST TIME YOUR WIFE'S SISTER LEFT NYSC CAMP AND CAME TO YOUR HOUSE UN ANNOUNCED, NOW THE SAME YOU IS ASKING IF YOU SHOULD WED YOUR WIFE THIS SATURDAY , WHAT ARE YOU UP TO? JUST STOP THIS CRAP . |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by josite: 10:37am On Aug 13, 2017 |
a guy now 80 deeply in regret over his marital woes told me that as soon as he and his first wife signed the dotted lines at the marriage registry,his new bride told him in yoruba. "ma wo ibi ti iwo and awon ebi ma gbe gba' meaning i will see hou u and your family will now escape my torment. that was 50 years ago,the marriage made both him and the wife mad,the wife eventually was mad most of her life and he had the burden of living and nursing a mad wife,he actually said he never enjoyed the marriage. there is enough sign u will not enjoy this marriage.first thing to do is to call your parents and briefed them and let your parents briefed her parents and if she adjusts fine.if she becomes more determined to torment you with unpleasant amnners,begin the search for a visa and dont ever make the mistake of having unproteced sex or kids with her. your plan b is to immediately end the marriage but the law is you must wait 12 months after the marriage before you can file a divorce.im a lawyer. |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by enoqueen: 2:28pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
Plankton2017: How far?? Did you marry her. |
Re: Help!!! Should I Go On With My White Wedding? by Mpamaegbu: 3:30am On Aug 15, 2017 |
OP has already done the main deal. The traditional and court weddings are the marriage talked about. White wedding is mere reception. It really doesn't count anything. We only regard white wedding in Nigeria because we are a pretentious religious people. His only options will be to disappear if he doesn't want to go ahead or file for divorce. 1 Like |
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