tell him to move on, cuz he would not be able to satisfy such a woman who wants to be a show off.

never on earth will i do that

i had my wedding low-keyed
and a small reception after that
i doubt if we even spent 150k sef
well that was ages ago
guess thats the fad now big society weddings
so therefore having a big wedding doesn't guarantee the success of the wedding
everyone these days seem to be more interested in showing off than being true to themselves
most people prepare 6mos to a yr for the wedding day than the marriage itself
then you wonder why the divorce rates have increased
shior

Your friends wife to be is an optimistic mathematician. . .but i'm very sure she will be disappointed very quickly WHEN the Dept=repayment plan falls to pieces before her eyes. . . .

i wonder
does anyone no

in yoruba tradition

who is supposed to pay for the wedding??

is it the brides parents

or the groom

or do they both 50/50??

@Poster, tell your friend to cut his coat according to his size. There is nothing wrong in having a low- keyed wedding these days. As long as the guests are fed properly and the minor logistics taken care off, it is not worth it throwing a lavish wedding ceremony. Look, people will not be there for your friend and his wife when things are hard. Marriage starts immediately after the festivities when all the well wishers have gone back to their respective homes and businesses. Cheers.

Marriage is not by force, not even when you dont have enough to sponsor your own wedding.
My fren dont let your woman lure you into embarking a journey you cannot complete.
If you borrow money for your wedding, are u gonna also borrow money for family upkeeps after wedding.
A woman who is encouraging you to borrow for your wedding will send you to your early grave when you cant provide for the family.

It happens though not advisable and the Bible says we should do everything in moderation. If you have the money no qualms but borrowing complicates the issue coz of what you will face after the wedding itself.
Do not dare it.

aisha2:

If he is silly enough to borrow please dont lend him any of your. Once lent money to a friend getting married, took Police, EFCC and over 8 months infact we had to trail him for days to find his new office before i could get my money and when he went to write a statement the idiot said i did not lend him money but i was only angry that he jilted me and married someone else, I was so embarassed and shocked, my saving grace was that i had a witness and my cousin who was his friend stood and said the truth. Never ever ever. Because i actually took my office money and gave him. I was running from pilllar to post for money i knew nothing about.
Funny thing, he borrowed lots of money from lots of people to project an image to the girls family, the marriage did not last 6 months, too much debts, too many lies just cos they wanted a society wedding, yes they hard a society big wedding but a horrible marriage

Na wa ooo!

borrow and wed? nt a good combo

browncocos:

i had my wedding low-keyed
and a small reception after that
i doubt if we even spent 150k sef
well that was 8 yrs ago
guess thats the fad now big society weddings
so therefore having a big wedding doesn't guarantee the success of the wedding
everyone these days seem to be more interested in showing off than being true to themselves
most people prepare 6mos to a yr for the wedding day than the marriage itself
then you wonder why the divorce rates have increased
shior

True, there is a marked difference between the wedding day and the marriage which is for a lifetime
Never borrow for your wedding it will impact your marriage in ways you didn't even imagine,

People should know that

1. No matter the amount you spend on a wedding, you cannot please everybody.

2. Even though you wedding is the poorest as par cash, the next day, you are among the marriage couples in planet earth

3. If you nor spend for your wedding, police nor go come arrest you and your wife the next day, even for life time

However, if at all you go borrow, have this as a rule "Do not borrow more than 25% of you normal monthly income". Beyond this, e go fall press you oooooo

See the pictures. Surely, they will live happily ever after as legally married Nigerians.

Also sometimes the expensive flashy ceremony is just unnecessary.
Just go to your local city hall, or whatever you call it in your aream and register yourselves as married.
Its a much cheaper option.


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ima1:

tell him to move on, cuz he would not be able to satisfy such a woman who wants to be a show off.

When the creditors come calling she will blame him for not working as hard as his peer/mates.

Hell NO!!!

But the truth is most people do.

If u borrow to wed u will definetely beg afta your wedding.It is not gud to borrow for your wedding cos u will carry ur responsibility frm der.It's absolutely bad ideas.Just try and be your humble self.

@iice not nice not nice at all--------------

Borrow 4 wedding? No way! She doesn,t want her wedding to be low keyed abi? What happens after the high profile society wedding and they are not able to pay back? She wil be the talk of the town.  She may also not recover the money from the guests too!Mega borrower. My brother leave within your means oh, cut your coat according to your cloth. The wedding will be forgotten after few days.

nah. .  .dont borrow!

Go borrow nah!! make we see who go SHAME!!!

Not all fingers are equal.
If you cant afford all the expense involved with the necessary thing that really need to be done for your wedding, then you might wanna consider some loan. (ask your family for it)

He should be ready to borrow for feeding the wife and kids too.

Abeg the guy should chill small, he's not bouyant enough for marriage.

Its very good.
when u finally marry too,borrow car,apartment,food,clothes, even sef borrow children all join

He should go ahead to borrow then after the wedding they will be living for hand to mouth.This is a danger signal for the man because after the wedding there is every likely hood that more exceptional demand may come up.

Tnx 4 your wönderful advises. D issue is that d girl in question is hoping to recover d möney 4rm her guests as she hopes to invite big shots that will spray her enough money on that day? Pls is it realizable?


Beleive me she will be disappointed.It happened to a friend

No! if she wants a mega wedding, then the wedding should be postponed to the day they have enough money of their own for the 'mega' wedding. Paying back loans after the wedding is a wrong way to stay a marriage. How do they start planning for their future if they are still paying for their past?

atikubaba:

Tnx 4 your wönderful advises. D issue is that d girl in question is hoping to recover d möney 4rm her guests as she hopes to invite big shots that will spray her enough money on that day? Pls is it realizable?


Beleive me she will be disappointed.It happened to a friend

Ask those who were 'sprayed' at their wedding how much they got. Not enough money at all. Let her be realistic. If people cant give towards the wedding, they wont give after the wedding.

Am willing to lend em money, just that conditions apply,
1, the wife is d collateral,
2, The interest will be serviced by the wife until the facility is fully paid up, in kind of course,
3, In the event that loan becomes deliquent, i foreclose the collateral.
guess dats simple and flexible enuff

YES, what else would one borrow money for ? its worth doing. Woman is not cheap and should not be treated as such.