The same thing happened to a frnd of mine a long time ago. The family succeeded in sending the mother and his other siblings away. But he (friend) surround himself with all the bad boys of the community including my honourable self. All of us relocated to his father's house and we stayed there for almost a year. We brutalized the brutalizers and the brutalizers ran for there lives. That is the only honourable advice I can give to u my dear brother.. luv u

sulexrio:
brother have learn something in life never turn your back on family but never rely on them they can change the gear of faith,I also faced something similar but am coping trust me! you will triumph over the challenges

Well, there are some families you just have to turn your back to. Don't let anyone lie to you. Once you know you have that kind of family that is wicked and can do you evil, my brother na to flee o. And then change your surname if possible.
2 of my uncles did it and were extremely successful. I am towing their path.
Some friends are better than family, they love you but place no demands or do not do you evil. They are our family friends. I can talk to them about anything, and i have their sincere advice. But family? Na that info dem go use finish you.
We do not have extended family problems in my home.
A good loving family is the best, but not everyone is that lucky. My generation has parents and grandparents who were polygamous and sometimes illiterate and fetish. Why would want to stick around such witches. Extended family mostly monitors your activities on social media, and if you are the type that displays much on FB, just know you are in soup, because your happiness and success make them unhappy.

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Op, u are very lucky man. Mine was worse

Zizicardo:
. My dad died on d 30th of march 2014, and since then, his brothers have bn pestering my life. Take heart bro, God be with you and your mom.

How? Please share for others to learn from your experience.

supersystemsng:


They are young.. They need their life intact first... The first thing is they need a base the family doesn't know and plan on further moves...it depends on family...I kissed the lands of my father to hell...Same as my brother and sisters...properties kor..it depends on the value eahc family places on them...I won't say further, but life is priceless and they are coming with a war..with what i read the Op posted, they don't have the strength for the battle, the withdrawal is to go gather strength for what will come later on...But if he has properties, it will be pretty difficult, best advice is for them to get a lawyer who would advise on steps to take...if they fight legally, they will need to get ready for spiritual battle, so is it a battle they can fight?

I've been reading your posts. You are my tweenie, though i do not come from the East. Life is more important. Better to flee. Most of those deaths of men with properties are usually spiritual attack. If families can kill one of their own, what is the children still waiting for? Fight? Secure property? Not wise. Go far and if possible, cut ties.
Staying alive is far wiser than fighting for properties. Best to go hustle and build yours.

ekems2017:
Ignore them and keep mute. They are looking for your dad's properties . They want to see who will challenge them. Be wise.
Sorry for the loss

How does inheritance work in the east. Inheritance is a clearly defined and simple matter where I come from.

spiralwedge:


I've been reading your posts. You are my tweenie, though i do not come from the East. Life is more important. Better to flee. Most of those deaths of men with properties are usually spiritual attack. If families can kill one of their own, what is the children still waiting for? Fight? Secure property? Not wise. Go far and if possible, cut ties.
Staying alive is far wiser than fighting for properties. Best to go hustle and build yours.

Yes bro...Thanks for seconding the opinion..Moreso, they are not in the best of morale now for such issues

lonelydora:


Bro, this is the time you have to be very strong. It is a usual occurrence in igbo land to point accusing fingers when a man dies. All they are trying to do is to create problem within the family so that your mum will be accused and your dad's property shared among them. The account i used in writing a similar story when my father Inlaw died was banned by mods.

See be strong and stand your grounds. All they are looking for is your dad's property. I repeat, Stand your grounds.

But if the mum killed the dad, does that make the uncles heirs?

IFEANNYI:
I lost my dad on the 14th of August and ever since then my family relations have been trying to frustrate me, my mum and my sister, even to the extent of threatening my life.

How my Dad died.

My Dad had diabetes and fell sick when he travelled to the east, Anambra State. Fortunately he was with my mum when everything started, unfortunately my relations where also present. They debated on the best hospital to take him to, my mum suggested he returned back to Lagos where he had a specialist taking care of him, our family physician also advised the same but due to ignorance, my dads brothers and sisters took him to a maternity hospital, where he died few days later.

The first thing my relations did was to start spreading rumours that my mum, and we the children killed our dad. How? How?
A man we loved so much, although we had our little differences, just like every other family. But we loved him, I've never seen my sister cry so much until the day we lost him.
They took him to a maternity hospital and now turned back to point fingers?
But i'm not interested in accusing anybody.
I just want people to learn from my experience.

My Dad's elder brother has been the only one different in the whole issue.

Take Heart My Brother

Be Strong All Through ooo

Sorry 4 your Loss

#HisPeaceMatters

#thyWillBeDone!

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vibezz:
that's how 18years ago I lost my father. I was barely 11 and was the eldest. that's how they shared every property except his two houses. the one in the village cause he was buried There and the one in the city cause we live in it.
Today:
of the two brothers, one is dead and the only living one is down with stroke and his children can't even look after him. same abandoned kids (we) check on him.

I think it happened because your culture tolerate it. Where I come you from, you treat people who just lost their love one with care, most especially, non-adults children who lost their dad. Coming for their properties will see the whole village coming for your head. People are even afraid to ask for their debts if the man was owing for fear of being tagged heartless.

such a pity, when I read about how a persons uncle troubles the family after the demise of a parent, I feel lucky to be borne into my family.
Although I lost my dad few years now, I have never experienced pressures from any of my Uncles. Actually it has to do with the way the family does things, coz we do everything together in my family..

Op this is time to standup and be a MAN! If its property they are after , don't let them near it. Stand up for it!!!
They may see u as a boy. but its time to show forth what Dad has taught you.....
With wisdom and God, you will overcome!
in all you do, pray for wisdom!

#This was Davids last words to his son, Solomon.

kenx1:
So sorry bro....I remember wen my dad died after the burial i was given only 3k to go back to benin from awka. From that day I vowed never to be poor

3k??! That wicked!

IFEANNYI:
I lost my dad on the 14th of August and ever since then my family relations have been trying to frustrate me, my mum and my sister, even to the extent of threatening my life.

How my Dad died.

My Dad had diabetes and fell sick when he travelled to the east, Anambra State. Fortunately he was with my mum when everything started, unfortunately my relations where also present. They debated on the best hospital to take him to, my mum suggested he returned back to Lagos where he had a specialist taking care of him, our family physician also advised the same but due to ignorance, my dads brothers and sisters took him to a maternity hospital, where he died few days later.

The first thing my relations did was to start spreading rumours that my mum, and we the children killed our dad. How? How?
A man we loved so much, although we had our little differences, just like every other family. But we loved him, I've never seen my sister cry so much until the day we lost him.
They took him to a maternity hospital and now turned back to point fingers?
But i'm not interested in accusing anybody.
I just want people to learn from my experience.

My Dad's elder brother has been the only one different in the whole issue.

I seriously think you should change the topic of this news to something that won't deceive people....How are you dealing with the relatives?Nothing of that sort was written here. Secondly,you said they are lazy on the caption and nothing was explained to us about this except the accusations that was levelled on your mom......it's funny....this story is just full of self pity and am sorry to say not even near the caption put up...All the same...take heart and handle it like a man would...don't lose your cool. it will be well.

IFEANNYI:
I lost my dad on the 14th of August and ever since then my family relations have been trying to frustrate me, my mum and my sister, even to the extent of threatening my life.

How my Dad died.

My Dad had diabetes and fell sick when he travelled to the east, Anambra State. Fortunately he was with my mum when everything started, unfortunately my relations where also present. They debated on the best hospital to take him to, my mum suggested he returned back to Lagos where he had a specialist taking care of him, our family physician also advised the same but due to ignorance, my dads brothers and sisters took him to a maternity hospital, where he died few days later.

The first thing my relations did was to start spreading rumours that my mum, and we the children killed our dad. How? How?
A man we loved so much, although we had our little differences, just like every other family. But we loved him, I've never seen my sister cry so much until the day we lost him.
They took him to a maternity hospital and now turned back to point fingers?
But i'm not interested in accusing anybody.
I just want people to learn from my experience.

My Dad's elder brother has been the only one different in the whole issue.

Ifeanyin, accept my sympathy. I will advice you the only way i know how, as a muslim. Yes, i agree that it was best to take him to a better hospital than a maternity clinic but all that is in the past now. Your dad died at God's own appointed time. If you had taken him to Mayo clinic in the US, maybe one of the best hospital in the World, he would still have died on that day and at that time cos he was destined to die on that day and time, no one can delay or advance it. Now to your relatives, in Africa when people die, there is always blame to pass around. People are blamed and people are held responsible for the death. Infact that is how we grieve, unfortunately, by blaming witches, enemies, family members, etc. So, dont quarrel with them, know that time is a healer instead educate them and share this hausa proverb, when its time, no medicine can work, period.

tellwisdom:
Op, which experience??....You lost your dad because you took him to Obiangeli nurse and maternity hospital and that's experience?? what does that mean?? Yaradua with Nigeria's money at his disposal never survived. Even buhari after spending close to 12 billion treating himself is stil looking frail and might soon. Sense fall on you jor

totally dry. effing donkey.

SlayQueenSlayer:


But if the mum killed the dad, does that make the uncles heirs?

In most communities, if they can prove that the wife is to blame then they can make a strong case for her to be ostracized or even punished while they claim all the property.

It becomes worse if the man happens to be most well-to-do among his siblings.

Really sad

Stay strong my brother. Its a stage of life. I have been through a similar experience. But God has the final say. Just remain prayerful amd read your Bible daily. Learn to float like a butterfly and sting like a bee. Be wise as a serpent but innocent as doves. Be like the wind, which no man knows where it comes from or where it goes. Be a man of the Spirit. Gdenson

Alariwo2:
Igbos are fond of doing that thing.. the wicked uncles & relatives.

All they are after is the dead man's properties and not welfare of the widow and kids he left behind.

Marry Igbo men at your own peril.

ITs not just an Igbo thing. I stayed in Warri and Benin for while and the practice was also very common there. It was especially tough for those whose husbands die while the children are very young.

Lost my dad andmum about 4 years ago, he didn't even will any property to us his immediate � family, but to a total stranger hu was his neighbor during his youthful age.
It was really tough but God never allowed us to b hungry.
God have been using people to bless us in divers ways.
Op b encouraged, things will turn out for d better

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alezzy13:


In most communities, if they can prove that the wife is to blame then they can make a strong case for her to be ostracized or even punished while they claim all the property.

It becomes worse if the man happens to be most well-to-do among his siblings.

Really sad

Do the children loose the right to their inheritance in the case of that?

IFEANNYI:
I lost my dad on the 14th of August and ever since then my family relations have been trying to frustrate me, my mum and my sister, even to the extent of threatening my life.

How my Dad died.

My Dad had diabetes and fell sick when he travelled to the east, Anambra State. Fortunately he was with my mum when everything started, unfortunately my relations where also present. They debated on the best hospital to take him to, my mum suggested he returned back to Lagos where he had a specialist taking care of him, our family physician also advised the same but due to ignorance, my dads brothers and sisters took him to a maternity hospital, where he died few days later.

The first thing my relations did was to start spreading rumours that my mum, and we the children killed our dad. How? How?
A man we loved so much, although we had our little differences, just like every other family. But we loved him, I've never seen my sister cry so much until the day we lost him.
They took him to a maternity hospital and now turned back to point fingers?
But i'm not interested in accusing anybody.
I just want people to learn from my experience.

My Dad's elder brother has been the only one different in the whole issue.

Sorry for your loss dude,
But no vex, whats the essence of posting this on NL, I dont get it, are you not sad enough he is dead?

I don't understand

IFEANNYI:
I lost my dad on the 14th of August and ever since then my family relations have been trying to frustrate me, my mum and my sister, even to the extent of threatening my life.

How my Dad died.

My Dad had diabetes and fell sick when he travelled to the east, Anambra State. Fortunately he was with my mum when everything started, unfortunately my relations where also present. They debated on the best hospital to take him to, my mum suggested he returned back to Lagos where he had a specialist taking care of him, our family physician also advised the same but due to ignorance, my dads brothers and sisters took him to a maternity hospital, where he died few days later.

The first thing my relations did was to start spreading rumours that my mum, and we the children killed our dad. How? How?
A man we loved so much, although we had our little differences, just like every other family. But we loved him, I've never seen my sister cry so much until the day we lost him.
They took him to a maternity hospital and now turned back to point fingers?
But i'm not interested in accusing anybody.
I just want people to learn from my experience.

My Dad's elder brother has been the only one different in the whole issue.

if you are already an adult and do not depend on them for anything, my brother no body should intimidate you, stop trying to be nice to anyone, I learnt that a long time ago after my mums death, stand your ground and make decisions for your family, trying to please them will only generate more problems for you, once they understand there is a limit to which you can tolerate them, an equilibrium of understanding would be drawn, hence no body would want to cross the line.

spiralwedge:


I've been reading your posts. You are my tweenie, though i do not come from the East. Life is more important. Better to flee. Most of those deaths of men with properties are usually spiritual attack. If families can kill one of their own, what is the children still waiting for? Fight? Secure property? Not wise. Go far and if possible, cut ties.
Staying alive is far wiser than fighting for properties. Best to go hustle and build yours.

sire I totally disagree with your ideology of life, it good to be peaceful and wise, but there comes a time in a man's life when he would stand up to face his challenges no matter How hard they are. there are sceneries where a man would look at his attacker and walks away, but there also comes a time when a man would look at his attacker turns his back to the wall and challenges him to a fight, great men are never born, they are made by their reation to every action taken against them

My Dad's eldest brother invited us to come home for a meeting and to break the news to my grand mum.

When we got there, the last born of the family got up and brought an iron rod to hit my sister with. This was a man who was on little talking terms with my dad while he was alive. I quickly reciprocated with a punch to his face as i could not be a party to such.
He immediately started saying such things as on how we should come to claim my dad's property.

To cut the story short. They brought some youths to harass me (i have picture evidence), but unfortunately for them some of my mums relation we went with, foresaw the danger and went to call the police.

Now they've locked up my dad's showroom and refused to release the key to my mum. (I was at school when the locking up process took place).
To make things worst, one of the relations called one of my dad's debtor whom we know owes him a lot of money, and she asked the woman not pay a dime to us.

All this babaric culture and tradition sef ..

That was how my bestie sister lost her husband.. After accusing her of killing her husband, they forced her to shave her hair and collected all their joint properties even her personal car. Now she's stronger and doing better with her kids in abj..

But its not fair , they forget that they'll also die ..Dear op, i prày God see you through.

I'm just surprised that people i could eat with, dine with and look up to could behave this way.

I was at the mortuary yesterday to see my dad's corpses and how they were taking care of it, and i suddenly realized how meaningless this life really is. We kill ourselves over things with little or no value/importance.

If you want to live long... Ignore what haters say

then most fathers re part of the problem..the earlier they write a will and secure their childrens future..the better...most family relationns re pure evil..i see them smilling and pretending they re happy with you but deep down i know them....but i don prep for them fully.

OP. keep your calm, don't argue with them but what you want to do, keep it to yourself. also try asap to take your mum and siblings back to Lagos. those people at home we call relatives are worst off than real enemies. protect all that your father left but be prayerful and wise enough. Always smile with them to dymistify them as no one knows what you are capable of doing but first you must come back to Lagos