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| Does He Really Love Me by xtybliss(f): 6:24pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
Please help a confused sister out. I started dating this guy about 13 months ago and we've been getting on very fine. He says he loves me and I also love him, he is not the protocols/traditional way kind of guy. He's not proposed officially to me like every other girl would love to be proposed to but we've started making plans of our future together. I've met his family and he mine and everything seems to be moving just fine. We started talking about our marriage 4 months ago and he told me he doesn't want to do the traditional marriage in a big way, that he'll just pay my bride price and every other traditional dues settled and we just do court marriage and celebrate our church wedding in the average Nigerian's way, though I've always wished to celebrate both the traditional and white weddings but I agreed to his plan. Our proposed wedding is 6 months away and he's telling me again just a week ago that he's just ok with settling the traditional rites and just court wedding, that white wedding is just a waste of resources. I've pleaded with him but he is still insisting /we both are active Christians/. I'm really confused on whether to give in once again to this or stand my grounds even if it means losing him. |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by davinero2: 6:26pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
Seeing as you're ready to get married to him, I feel you should make him your best friend. Increase the communication in your relationship so you'd not need advice on these kinda issues. Both of you should really talk. Find out his main reason for the change of plans. Its possible he's thinking about the financial effect it would have in the future. Also explain how important the church wedding is to you and your family and make compromises where possible and pitch in where you can. Wish you the best in your marriage. Shalom! 1 Like |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by Nobody: 6:34pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
Kasala dey smell. Wait relationship advisors are on the way |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by Nobody: 6:35pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
bet seriously  |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by indodon(m): 6:38pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by RSVP: 6:38pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
Dude is planing according to his pocket and you asking questions if he loves you.... Shey make he kuku cancel d whole wedding ni??
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| Re: Does He Really Love Me by babyfaceafrica: 6:40pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
Anything after traditional marriage is an addendum....do you want to drink garri after the wedding?.. The guy is watching his pocket, the country is not funny..abeg get married and move on..who white marriage EPP?..if you want to leave him..please drop his number,so a serious lady can marry him 2 Likes |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:41pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
sit down and ask yourself this IMPORTANT question.... WHY DO YOU WANT TO MARRY THIS MAN?! if white wedding etc is your aim here then run away now, but if you just want to spend the rest of your natural life with this man, then whatever marriage is ok. white wedding is indeed a waste of ressources to feed strangers and donkeys, while showcasing this wedding to ungrateful people. sadly, this is Africa, many want their fairytale wedding, but when ask why...they have no idea why...its just what they have been embedded to believe is the definition of "happyness" (as if white wedding would make a marriage last longer) 2 Likes |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by lalanice(f): 6:43pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
I'm not understanding abeg, I'm yet to read what he did wrong 2 Likes |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by LilSfc(m): 6:43pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
xtybliss: I smell money management    |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by Lovetinz(m): 6:45pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
Insist on the BIG wedding you desire. Also, give him the money to cover the expense. 3 Likes |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by bizza45: 6:46pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
stand on your ground and another woman will help u and take over your place ... he agreed to pay d traditional rites and do court wedding yet that one never do u, if anoda woman collect am from u na d same nairaland u come begin complain |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by xtybliss(f): 6:50pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
davinero2:wooww... Thanks for this, it means a lot |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by Nobody: 6:51pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
indodon: |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by Olami90: 6:52pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
xtybliss: I have honestly never believed the saying of village people playing ten-ten with someone's life but the highlighted point up there confirmed it being true. You do not care losing him because of white/church wedding  A guy you claimed he is good and you love?Some ladies sef!!!!!! I AM JUST TIRED. Can you sincerely explain why you are so particular about the white/church wedding? Is that of court no longer valid? Kindly answer these two questions, only then i will ascertain your type of lady....... 1 Like |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by Adebola02(m): 6:55pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
Hello OP I'll like you to answer this questions How much are you contributing towards the wedding? Is your fiancee earning well, I mean as a Man who is ready to start a family Is there any support from family Members towards the wedding What do you really want ? A glorious wedding ceremony or A happy and fulfilling marriage. |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by BiafranBushBoy: 7:00pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
Does he really love you? Because he is managing resources? I smell you being the problem that will happen in that relationship. |
| Re: Does He Really Love Me by Lalas247(f): 7:04pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
Bottom line no funds My dear maybe talk to him .. do you work? Can't you offer to pay the tradition or white wedding if you really want both there's nothing wrong in it .... From what you said it's clear he hasn't got the budget for an elaborate wedding so my dear see if you can help if not go with the idea if you love him as much as you say you do .. 1 Like |
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