My people abeg make una chuk mouth for this matter o. Matured advice's pls. .

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I caught my husband sex chatting, I felt like the ground should open and swallow me. I am one of those women that can swear that my husband does not have time to look at women. I was in shock. I quietly asked him and he wanted to deny, when I showed him the evidence, he said it was just chatting that After all he did not sleep with anyone. I ignored him and cried myself to sleep, he was not even remorseful. After 3 days he apologised maybe because I wasn't talking to him. He promised to stop, unknown to him I did a back up of his messages so I can get a copy on my own phone and the things I see are killing me, when I asked him again, he reacted violently warning me to never touch his phone again. Pls how can I handle this matter

When you go looking you'll definitely see something...

Is marriage all dat stressful

Na u won kill ur self nah...why backup is phone msgs

Na heart attack go fall on U last last

As usual, blame the woman. The woman is to be blamed when she finds out she is being cheated on.

Madam, it's best the way you have found out as you know the true nature of your relationship with your husband. I won't tell you what to do or not to do but I'm in support of KNOWING. It will at least help you to protect yourself.

A woman recently found that that her husband who is HIV positive infected her. She found out on a day she was tempted to read his chats. She was one to deliberately ignore signs or finding things out so she won't feel sad. Guess who is devastated now?

The problem is never with the woman/man who finds out, its with the partner who cheats. Let's be reasonable.

untamedd:
As usual, blame the woman. The woman is to be blamed when she finds out she is being cheated on.

Madam, it's best the way you have found out as you know the true nature of your relationship with your husband. I won't tell you what to do or not to do but I'm in support of KNOWING. It will at least help you to protect yourself.

A woman recently found that that her husband who is HIV positive infected her. She found out on a day she was tempted to read his chats. She was one to deliberately ignore signs or finding things out so she won't feel sad. Guess who is devastated now?

The problem is never with the woman/man who finds out, its with the partner who cheats. Let's be reasonable.

Are you minding the people here, if it were the reversed they will say the guy was justified and also the HIV is a real issue, am surprised this is family section there's usually smarter comments than this.

Madam, just focus on your life and your kids,.(if any) that's what is more important for now,
make yourself a better person, don't, I repeat, don't snoop on him again, try to look your best always, wear a smile, I promise you, he will come back crawling,

Snooping makes u have that brain check, it makes u plan ahead and not have bp which many women actually have cos it caught them unaware, just dont make it an habit ,and only snoop when u have a heart of steel like mine just kidding.
Pls let him be,just start making life plan changes since he is not remorseful, do u have a good job or biz? Safe money ,plenty money incase of rainy days. Then hope and pray he repents.

Stop going through your husband's phone , give yourself some peace my 2cent

Hmm..the elders are on their way...even if he is not physically cheating,he is emotionally cheating

MhizzAJ:
Is marriage all dat stressful

First step to enjoy a marriage as a woman of Africa is to accept that African men are polygamous in nature. It takes grace for few of us not to cheat. However, stop looking! if he hides it, he respects you.

wendypenny:
My people abeg make una chuk mouth for this matter o. Matured advice's pls. .

Anonymously sent.

I caught my husband sex chatting, I felt like the ground should open and swallow me. I am one of those women that can swear that my husband does not have time to look at women. I was in shock. I quietly asked him and he wanted to deny, when I showed him the evidence, he said it was just chatting that After all he did not sleep with anyone. I ignored him and cried myself to sleep, he was not even remorseful. After 3 days he apologised maybe because I wasn't talking to him. He promised to stop, unknown to him I did a back up of his messages so I can get a copy on my own phone and the things I see are killing me, when I asked him again, he reacted violently warning me to never touch his phone again. Pls how can I handle this matter

You will soon die of high BP if you don't stop snooping. And now that you have known, what's your next step Walk away or you keep crying yourself to sleep?