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If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by AloyEmeka5: 10:17pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
Sunday, February 28, 2010 [size=14pt]Help! I am the only one in love[/size] Kemi ashefon, search_mate2000@yahoo.com TO 32-year-old Chioma, she and Abass were in love and would soon head for the altar. "I was always at Abass' family house and all his siblings called me 'our wife,'" she recalls. "Though I didn't mind going to his flat always, I observed he hardly called or visited me at home. JUST SINGLES 28 FEBRUARY 2010 "Whenever I complained, he would tell me that his banking job took more of his time. I was always the one giving him gifts and sharing emotional text messages with him. Abass didn't. His excuse was always his job. "But if he could spare time to eat at work, I believed there should be time to text a message. Initially, I overlooked all this and thought he would change, but he never did. In two years, I had never received a recharge card of N400 from him. "Though he took me to an eatery twice when I was celebrating my birthday, he never bought me a gift. Meanwhile, I would buy gifts for him, his parents, his siblings and relatives. At a point, my siblings opposed the affair because they believed I was the only one in love with Abass, but when he proposed to me, they changed their mind. "When I started making wedding plans, he never dropped a kobo. He would humorously say that women are the ones who sponsor weddings and not men. But I have started having a re-think after seeing the receipt of an item he bought from a gift shop. It was an expensive jewellery case and I have seen many paper bags of feminine items in his car. That meant this guy could afford to buy things for another woman. I confronted him and his answer shocked me - he was not in love, I was the only one and his heart was elsewhere." "I was always buying his clothes, going to his flat to do his laundry, clean and even cook. But all I received was a hug. He would manage to say: 'I love you, Patty,'" recalls Patricia, a 29-year-old civil servant. Could it be that she was desperately in need of a mate? "Maybe," she offers. "I was the only one doing everything to make the relationship work and anytime I suggested that we went to see my parents, King, my boyfriend of 14 months, would blow his top. [img]http://odili.net/news/source/2010/feb/28/punch/images/pix20100228513421[1].jpg[/img] "He would have an excuse not to be available, but he kept professing that he loved me. The only time he bought something for me was when his cousin, who was my colleague, was getting married and she forced him to pay for my aso-ebi and headgear (N5,000). "Since then, anytime I complained that King was stingy to me, he would remind me of the aso-ebi. Could this be love? I have tried to talk to his friends about his ways, but they would advise that I exercise patience because he lost some money at the stock market. "Didn't I lose some too? Last week, he requested a pot of soup and when I asked for money, he was angry and said I was too stingy. This was a guy who had never put money down for a tuber of yam and he was always eating at my place after which he would request a bottle of 'Big Stout.' I am tired of him and already told him to stop coming to see me." Men could also be in these ladies shoes. Kenneth, 30, an architect recalls, "There was no day Agatha, my girlfriend of two years, had even bought me anything as small as chewing gum. But she kept asking for everything - I recharged her phone, I paid for her last rent, her laundry paid for by me and I was always available to pick her after work. "Although she was always grateful and would freely give me her body, I still believed that she would have done better than that. There was a day I complained that I had headache and asked that she went to the drug store. Was I shocked when she asked for money? The drugs were just for N2,000 and she made sure I gave her that amount. "Not that her salary was meagre (she worked as a marketer in a bank and always met her target) Agatha would not play with N100. She had never bought me a gift, never bought anything in my house for decoration and was always complaining about my window blinds when she also did part-time interior décor as contracts. After six months, I knew that we would never get married, but I played along with her. Naturally, I am a generous person but I am also learning how to be stingy with a woman like mine." http://odili.net/news/source/2010/feb/28/801.html |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by H2O2: 10:20pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
Maybe he just a stingy nigga |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by H2O2: 10:20pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
My baby don't even need to say a word to me about gifts or nothing like that before I make it rain. |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by AloyEmeka5: 12:50am On Mar 01, 2010 |
H2O2: |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by Nobody: 12:55am On Mar 01, 2010 |
H2O2:Amen Now where are you located so I can stumble into ya |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by KennyG6(m): 12:57am On Mar 01, 2010 |
i neva spend kobo on my girl what for? I spend $$ instead it fast tracks the process |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by AloyEmeka5: 1:03am On Mar 01, 2010 |
Kenny_G: You live in UK and spend dollars on your girl. Where does the dollar come from or do you go to the forex anytime you want to buy her small thing? |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by Scooby1(m): 2:17am On Mar 01, 2010 |
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Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by AloyEmeka5: 3:02am On Mar 01, 2010 |
Cheap guy stop preaching and spend on your lady abeg. She is not asking you for what money CANNOT buy, rather she is asking for what money can buy because they are necessities too. |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by daduke2k(m): 3:21am On Mar 01, 2010 |
Dumb,spend d lil i can, nt sparringly |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by H2O2: 6:55am On Mar 01, 2010 |
Ebonyeyes:Lol I am located on yahoo messenger so kindly stumble into me. I'll be waiting impatiently mmkay or maybe i can stumble into you. |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by H2O2: 6:56am On Mar 01, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka:aloy emeka why are you kissing me o?? i'm not a dl brother. but yea what i posted seems like the reasonable thing to do, right? you can't be that frugal. |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by unitee(f): 7:05am On Mar 01, 2010 |
I quit |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by sexyLeamon(f): 7:10am On Mar 01, 2010 |
I will simply say, if a man/woman never spends money on you or buys you anything he/she does not care. Giving people things is a fundamental way in which we show people we care…. this is a fact. you don't have to empty the bank, but at least suprise your partner once in a while. |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by AloyEmeka5: 7:14am On Mar 01, 2010 |
sexyLeamon: Do ice cream and candies count? |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by sexyLeamon(f): 7:20am On Mar 01, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka:you are a joka |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by amebono1: 8:22am On Mar 01, 2010 |
Yes he doesnt love me, i take partner as both hubby n bf , my hubby is supposed to spend 80% of his income on me and bf can be allowed to spend 50 |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by Nobody: 8:23am On Mar 01, 2010 |
!amebo no1:Jenny, barawo e ti poju |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by amebono1: 9:11am On Mar 01, 2010 |
FL Gators: ki ni mo see ehen what belongs to my husband belongs to me, i was being generous sef dats why i said 80% 10 can go to his family but for me and his kids, i want 80% infact it is a signed deal Bf, well, that one is allowed 50% 50-50 Olorun no vex, when i been date one dude back then for about 4 mnths, d guys pocket saw hell with isi-ewu joints in europe , and nice shoes , infact if my papa send me money i no dey touch am cos i get spare from mugu, infact the way i was spending money then, you'll think i am yaraduas daughter, rumours were flying then that he's a cocaine dealer, well i made sure i ate enuff to last me a life time b4 calling it quits make police no come catch me say i dey do drugs too , i moved on to the next and only one |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by Nobody: 9:40am On Mar 01, 2010 |
Knowing what i know now about men, I will refer to the bilbe passage that says, wher your treasure is where your heart is. Any man who loves you will spend money to manke u happy. Beleive me, i used to be naive to think that money does not matter |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by Duniverse(m): 10:58am On Mar 01, 2010 |
Beware of that guy. If he has the opportunity to use u for rituals he would not hesitate. You guys are not meant for each other |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by AloyEmeka5: 11:54am On Mar 01, 2010 |
aisha2: Lol, now you are calling on bible on money matters. Does that mean that women who doesn't spend on their men do not love them either? |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by Kgdavid(m): 12:28pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
so wat is this, the association of nigerian gold diggers annual conference? |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by kayeyes: 12:53pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
i strongly believe that giving is a way of showing you care about someone, both by the man or woman. its a sacrifice, it might not be the money i.e. the worth of the gift, but the time spent selecting the right/wrong "small"gift. considering the instances by the poster, its clear the lack of gifts or money or whatever, shows lack of commitment. so based on that, i think if a partner doesn't spend on you,no matter how small, he/she DOESN'T CARE OR LOVE YOU. |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by axeman85(m): 6:16pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
well it doesnt necessarily mean so. eg. my babe earns about 45k monthly, and i kniow she has to transport herself to work and take care of all other sundry expenses, so therefore when ever she asks me what should she buy for me, i tell her to keep her money as she needs it. but i make sure i always give her anything and most things she ask for. i wont say her not giving me is because she doesnt love me, at least she offered. but 2weeks ago she tooke me to sheraton on a friday during happy hour and spoilt me silly. as she paid for all my drinks and food. |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by Nobody: 6:17pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
depends on his condition and situation |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by prixxy(f): 6:22pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
My baby don't even need to say a word to me about gifts or nothing like that before I make it rain. my kinder guy |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by Busybody2(f): 6:25pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
aisha2: |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by H2O2: 6:27pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
Busy_body:my dear come and spend all your ends on me |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by chika98: 6:28pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
Hanging out with a stingy man is so terrible. Na wa o! Persin no even fit buy you dinner. You say you are hungry and he asks you if there's soup in the fridge. |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by Busybody2(f): 6:30pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
H2O2: Chei, temibaje, are you indirectly telling me that I have been wasting the past two years chasing a broke arse niccas like you, [s]even though I have been pretending my love don't cost a thing[/s] |
Re: If Your Partner Will Not Spend A Kobo On You, Does It Mean He/she Doesn't Luv U? by H2O2: 6:31pm On Mar 01, 2010 |
Busy_body:won't you do it because you love me? afterall i've been doing koko master for you free of charge. come on baby. |
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