This is not about.romance
I'm a female
There is a girl I always admired she is 4 years older than me

I always looked up to her and thought she was amazing: beautiful, intelligent, hard working etc

When I saw her in Facebook I was scared to add her
However, I decided to add her and send a message saying "congratulation on your graduation " - she ignored me and after a long request rejected my add. I did not have a profile picture at the time but I had my name and we had a mutual friend. I was shocked so I added her again but she rejected me again.

I was confused but moved on with my life. I met her a year later as I was asked by her mum to be aseobi for wedding and I said yes. I met her and she was friendly and smiling, and tried to hug me but I was friendly and smiling but did not really hug as I felt why should I hug someone that doesn't think.I'm worthy enough to be their friend on Facebook. My mum asked her.if she knew.me and she said yes...

Anyways, I moved on and gave her benefit of doubt, its not by force to accept someone in facebook. I was aseobi at her wedding.
I later sent her another message on Facebook saying hello Mrs ademola, how are you? And she replied "all is well. You?" I said fine and she did not reply again.. No thank you for taking the day off work/school and sewing clothes to be aseobi, she sounded so blunt

I did not contact her again for a few years.. But then someone close to me died and because she also went through a similar thing a long time ago I sent her a message saying what happened to me "hi, my sister died etc.." She saw the message and just did not reply.

What did I did to deserve this from my role.model? She seems wicked.

Everyone mustn't be your friend. Live with that mentality. That we've had few interactions or that you could recognise me facially doesn't mean we should be friends. Some people are better left as acquaintants for those who choose friends wisely.

Again, stick to taking invites from the host to avoid embarrassing situations. That her mother asked you be her Asoebe doesn't mean she was ok with all the girls chosen as Asoebe except the ones she invited herself. You had an idea of whom you were dealing with from your few chats with her but you seem desperate to be in her life. Never want someone more than they want you. And lastly, in case of next time, keep your dignity intact. Don't go begging for friendship like your life depends on it.

Benita27:
Everyone mustn't be your friend. Live with that mentality. That we've had few interactions or that you could recognise me facially doesn't mean we should be friends. Some people are better left as acquaintants for those who chose friends wisely.

Again, stick to taking invites from the host to avoid embarrassing situations. That her mother asked you be her Asoebe doesn't mean she was ok with all the girls chosen as Asoebe except the ones she invited herself. You had an idea of whom you were dealing with from your few chats with her but you seem desperate to be in her life. Never want someone more than they want you. And lastly, in case of next time, keep your dignity intact. Don't go begging for friendship like your life depends on it.

Thanks dear
I was just shocked someone I put as my role model to treat me like this

Have you invested as much this year in your career as in your car?

babaolowo1000:


Thanks dear
I was just shocked someone I put as my role model to treat me like this

You were the one seeing her as a friend, she wasn't seeing you as such. That being said, at least a "thank you" would do to all those who participated as her Asoebe even if she wasn't interested in friendship.

fatimababy95:
Have you invested as much this year in your career as in your car?

Pls answer my q

babaolowo1000:

Thanks dear I was just shocked someone I put as my role model to treat me like this

Was she aware u would appreciate her mentoring u?

You are acting like a kid. Go get a life

Macgreat:
You need Wallpapers in your rooms.
Check signature

give that man a wallpaper

What is Asoebe?

MrDandy:
What is Asoebe?

more like bridal train for traditional marriage

Dasherz:


more like bridal train for traditional marriage

Yea but I think that spelling is wrong.. isn’t it asoebi?

MrDandy:
Yea but I think that spelling is wrong.. isn’t it asoebi?

Well I think it's a typo then

You are just obsessed with her. I think she needs to block you so you can leave her alone. Is it by force to be your friend?

By the way, why on earth would you share a personal loss experience with someone that is not even your friend and you guys do not have any previous communication. Is she a counsellor?