See You

Sexual compatibility"haba op have they been fornicating before?



This your question contradict all the passages ur quotd

only the devil knws the true purpose of this ur question. . .girl up n stop being used

supersystemsnig:



Speak to build people up, and not otherwise...

build ke.. Didn't the word of God tell you that whatever is just, pure, right and worthy, that ye should speak of those things...

I will honour God, not my prick. In earlier times, men adjusted to the weakness of their spouses, same for women. But because so much pervasiveness roams in people's hearts, it looks for an outlet, and forces people to " act the porn they consume ", sexual relations should be an expression of desire, and not some tedious physical activities, if other areas in the relations are fab, then it will queue up in the like process, sexual intimations is actually the reflection of the healthiness of the relationship and not the guide, if guys and ladies are in hamoinous relationships, sex will queue in procession, so it's the aftermath of an enjoyable relationship and not the entirety of it... We have it in the reverse, time to put things into proper perspective.

darkmarky:
build ke.. Didn't the word of God tell you that whatever is just, pure, right and worthy, that ye should speak of those things...

don't derail this thread Son of man, please contribute constructively

supersystemsnig:



don't derail this thread Son of man, please contribute constructively

seems you hardly get the message.

2 people waiting for marriage, either bcus u are celibate or virgins can still talk about sexual compatibility. No need to act all holy, speak up and know what u are getting into. That way when u get married u won't go and cheat on ur husband or wife.

How do U talk of compatibility when you don't know what you like or don't like? Against what experience or standards do you compare?

supersystemsnig:



Perhaps you didn't wait on the Lord that's why you got a 15 seconds guy...

imagine we continued "without" and on the wedding night the reality hits me that that huge thing cannot perform.... what would happen?

Sex or corpulation as you may want to put it is one of the essentials of a marriage if not one of the first 2 factors that keeps a marriage going..Though most of us are faulty going by biblical standards and there is no mincing words sex before marriage is a sin..
Here now goes my point, when sex is not addressed well, the end is failed marriage.i met a doctor few years ago and then because I just started having sex I had problem with premature ejaculation,he was a very good Christian doctor..he said the topic PE or bad sex has destroyed more homes than any other factor, the clergies inclusive I mean even to clerics and and their wives, there is nothing like polluting the spirit when it comes to sex talk, be blunt about it..a virgin brother of God can't marry someone that has been sexually active since she was 18 and there won't be problems, let her speak in Bulgarian tongues I'm sure there will be problems at least initially..most ladies work so hard to be a good wife at home neglecting the fact of been a good mistress...every man wants a wife and a mistress, so if you're lacking in one then there is problem..and as for the man too women are soft, I've seen good girls gone bad just because of the topic sex..if she doesn't complain about the bad sex you give her then it's just a matter of time even if she's the prayer coordinator, even if you married her as a virgin and she's satisfied with the little you give her the day she loose guard and mistakenly get into a romantic adventure with another man and he gives him just a little above what her husband gives her then the husband is doomed...(I know one sister of God is reading this now and she's like, how can I loose guard ; my sister those that did are more spiritual than you are...
So in Christiandom we must be blunt, tell them this vagina this is dick this is clitoris, this is how to do, this is what you touch and not what to touch..let's be blunt

Nnemuka:

imagine we continued "without" and on the wedding night the reality hits me that that huge thing cannot perform.... what would happen?

Fear induced thought mongered by the media. God has it all in control. I don't let these things worry me. If you honour God, He will give you the best of all things...Any decision motivated by fears and insecurities is of the devil not of God

supersystemsnig:



Happy Sunday oP...


oP, this is a serious matter o. I'm begging for valid answers till tomorrow. I'll read comments sha.... I hear people say Serious Christians and Pastors won't make good intimate partners... Pastors don suffer

I just tire o, they say Christian ladies are boring and I'm like Issorait

elantraceey:
Happy Sunday Y'all.



We all know the stance of the scripture on premarital sex, for those of us that have doubts or have forgotten, let me refresh your minds.


Ephesians 5:3 (KJV) But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;

Hebrews 13:4 (ESV) Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

1 Corinthians 6:18 (ESV) Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God;


Just to mention a few.


That said and done, Inasmuchas as marriage is not all about sex but sex do form an integral part of marital union and it's benefits cannot be overemphasized. God created sex for our pleasure and enjoyment but when there happens to dissatisfaction from one party then problems are bound to occur.


So practical Christians that strictly practice and are practicing no sex before marriage how can sexual compatibility be discussed without 'polluting' the spirit?

It can and should be discussed in the context of preparing to be married. The challenge is the way sex has been represented or rather been misrepresented. We are exposed to sex in ways that present it simultaneously as something to be ashamed of and to crave wantonly. Sex is presented like a competition for who has the longest dick, can last the longest in bed or how many sexual partners you've had while at the same time making it seem like a dirty, base act. This distortion will not allow people to speak properly about it because they are caught between being sex freaks or self Righteous repressed "virgins".

The first step will be to reorganize what you know and think about sex. Drop the idea that you have to be a porn star to know about or like sex. Drop the idea that sex is a dirty act. Embrace the idea that you are adequate for sex even if you don't have a big dick or gigantic boobs. Embrace the idea that sex is a healthy act to be enjoyed with your life partner.

Next is to obtain information on what exactly you should do before, during and after sex. People think sex is just like sleeping on a bed facing up or facing down. No people, sex is more than that, sex starts way before the action itself. Learn these things and be educated so that you can prepare yourself to speak intelligently and act appropriately when the time comes.

The biggest challenge in sexual matters is self control. Whether single or married this challenge will hit you every day. This is one thing that personalizes this issue because nobody can stop you from feeling "Hot", you will have to control yourself in those moments, no one can do it for you.

In discussing sex, speak honestly about your desires and your views on sex. If you are with someone who is sensible they will also open up to you about their own desires and views and you can begin the process of examining sexual compatibility. Be careful though "sexual predators" can seize the opportunity to make moves because you might be vulnerable.

All in all ask God for wisdom because it is profitable to direct.

GAZZUZZ:
when a virgin meets a virgin, they do not require any compatibility program, they have no history/prior sexual encounters to compare with current one.

If you want to use scripture as standard. Both vessels must be pure.

If either has tasted the forbiden fruit, bible cannot help.

Do not forget it is the blood of Jesus that's makes us pure not our actions or inactions and there are virgins who'll tend to like sex and others who don't, I believe the scriptures has help for every case and I'm here to find out.

elantraceey:


I just tire o, they say Christian ladies are boring and I'm like Issorait

Yes but not entirely true, Christian ladies need to free, God hasn't called us into captivity but to freedom, perfect liberty, the whole spirikoko thing is annoying. In my abode, i talk all things sex, educate and teach people. I flex like, but only guys who knew me to the house knew i was a practicing Christian, the whole carry the sadistic look can be annoying...I was at an occasion yesterday, a guy looked at me intently and said i know you're a born again.

But it took him time, the notion Christian girls are boring is simply because of how they live, many Christian ladies don't broaden their knowledge-base, just Bible, can can't function in a contemporary society. For me, if a person can't function in a Contemporary society, there's problem. Christian ladies, read news, listen to sport news, tech news, do things that aren't religious. Scripture says whatever is good doesn't mean you can't learn to interact in a contemporary society...So deal with it, the whole only Bible matters...

I'm a minister, i read from Geology, Physics, Economics, Politics in the end i'm a well-rounded Christian, just like Paul. To your humility, add knowledge, add wisdom, add soundness, add meekness, don't leave righteousness, hold all together. This is my counsel to Christian ladies, and that saddish look on their faces that makes people want to hate Salvation should be done away with.

supersystemsnig:


Fear induced thought mongered by the media. God has it all in control. I don't let these things worry me. If you honour God, He will give you the best of all things...Any decision motivated by fears and insecurities is of the devil not of God

Bro which sheep are you pastoring? I honor God and just like David and solomon with 300 wives and concubines i fail in my flesh.... i think my failure in that aspect is the deity's way of saving me from long years of incompatibility and misery. Don't you see the hand of God in this?

Nnemuka:


Bro which sheep are you pastoring? I honor God and just like David and solomon with 300 wives and concubines i fail in my flesh.... i think my failure in that aspect is the deity's way of saving me from long years of incompatibility and misery. Don't you see the hand of God in this?

A patient can't be the doctor at the same time. Your own ideologies is what is confusing you. Go submit yourself under sound indoctrination

elantraceey:
Happy Sunday Y'all.



We all know the stance of the scripture on premarital sex, for those of us that have doubts or have forgotten, let me refresh your minds.


Ephesians 5:3 (KJV) But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;

Hebrews 13:4 (ESV) Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

1 Corinthians 6:18 (ESV) Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God;


Just to mention a few.


That said and done, Inasmuchas as marriage is not all about sex but sex do form an integral part of marital union and it's benefits cannot be overemphasized. God created sex for our pleasure and enjoyment but when there happens to dissatisfaction from one party then problems are bound to occur.


So practical Christians that strictly practice and are practicing no sex before marriage how can sexual compatibility be discussed without 'polluting' the spirit?

sexual compatibility or not doesn't remove the unavoidable point where and when you get tired of one partner and want another. ..whether you physically address this tiredness is another point entirely

supersystemsnig:





Now this is the problem ... This generation has been lied to, with the notion of sexual compatibility, this never existed back in the 90s, but to make people drift off course, a seduction was required. The answers lies in the heart and not in the sexual organs. The heart because, the will of both individuals involved in the relationship is where the answer lies. If both individuals wish to honour God than pleasure ( DOn't forget the book of Ecclesiastes in this matter), both will honour God, have good sex lie, and won't be easily dissatisfied with lack of expectations, but too much experimentation brought this generation with a staunch fear that has perverted and contaminated people into a " fixed " state...where the fear of will he/she match my sexual prowess exists..


First, we need to deal with the fear, and deal with our hearts. If we have a God first approach, and God above other things, then we will be fine. So the answer lies in finding someone that has the same reverence with God as us, so the downsides can be complemented in our devotion to God and other areas.

If we truly love God, then the bedmatics won't take the front seat, we accord it.

If we truly want to honour God, then we would deny ourselves pleasure

If we truly are true to honest standards, being single should have impacted some lessons in self denial and restraint and control

If we truly want to honour God, and follow His standards, then we won't give this issue the level of concern we give it

Hope this helps

Yes it helps a lot, I believe if there was no internet or media, a lot of sex related issues couples face today will be nonexistent, we've unconsciously allowed what read and watch to conform our desires. Hmmmm I totally agree with you ' I'f we truly want to honour God and follow his standards, then we won't give this issue the level of concern we give it'.

supersystemsnig:


A patient can't be the doctor at the same time. Your own ideologies is what is confusing you. Go submit yourself under sound indoctrination

You are silly...
I thought i was discussing with a sane being

Nnemuka:

You are silly...
I thought i was discussing with a sane being

Bless your soul. The sane one can easily be determined between us both if our comments are anlayzed carefully..

Good day

elantraceey:


Yes it helps a lot, I believe if there was no internet or media, a lot of sex related issues couples face today will be nonexistent, we've unconsciously allowed what read and watch to conform our desires. Hmmmm I totally agree with you ' I'f we truly want to honour God and follow his standards, then we won't give this issue the level of concern we give it'.

oP, contamination will come, God knows we will go adrift, but what happens when the lost is found? Go back to the father, God wants to be number one in everything even in our romantic lives, He created romance, He knows we will be expressive...If we honour God, and make Him first, even the fear of lack of sexual satiety would be downplayed..


Do you know i've never been worried about sexual under-performance in my life? Why? i know it's the devil trying to steal my peace..I'm too confident i'll be sexually satisfied, because my satisfaction is in God first and because He knows my desire and will is to honour Him, He will give me someone who matches me in to to...If God knows the number of hairs on your head,do you think He won't find a match for you sexually?

yeyerolling:
Christains nd hypocrisy ehn. U will fuk a gal on saturday. Sunday she go call to ask if u went to church u say nope she go begin vex. Mtcheeew. She wey go church she no read wetin bible talk about fornication.

He is a forgiving God. In as much one has sinned going down in prayers and seeking forgiveness is not hypocrisy but, recognizing God!

yeyerolling:
Christains nd hypocrisy ehn. U will fuk a gal on saturday. Sunday she go call to ask if u went to church u say nope she go begin vex. Mtcheeew. She wey go church she no read wetin bible talk about fornication.

Talking about sex isn't fornication. This kind of reasoning is why people see committed Christians as fools. Don't pastors preach on sex on Sundays? You've never had a sexual thought on a Sunday? Oh ye Zealot, are thee without these desires?

supersystemsnig:





Now this is the problem ... This generation has been lied to, with the notion of sexual compatibility, this never existed back in the 90s, but to make people drift off course, a seduction was required. The answers lies in the heart and not in the sexual organs. The heart because, the will of both individuals involved in the relationship is where the answer lies. If both individuals wish to honour God than pleasure ( DOn't forget the book of Ecclesiastes in this matter), both will honour God, have good sex lie, and won't be easily dissatisfied with lack of expectations, but too much experimentation brought this generation with a staunch fear that has perverted and contaminated people into a " fixed " state...where the fear of will he/she match my sexual prowess exists..


First, we need to deal with the fear, and deal with our hearts. If we have a God first approach, and God above other things, then we will be fine. So the answer lies in finding someone that has the same reverence with God as us, so the downsides can be complemented in our devotion to God and other areas.

If we truly love God, then the bedmatics won't take the front seat, we accord it.

If we truly want to honour God, then we would deny ourselves pleasure

If we truly are true to honest standards, being single should have impacted some lessons in self denial and restraint and control

If we truly want to honour God, and follow His standards, then we won't give this issue the level of concern we give it

Hope this helps

SMH for you, you talk like you knew everyone in the 90's..as far back as before Christ was born, brothels existed, if there was "sexual purity" as you claim, what were they used for. Sexual compatibility is a thing, ever heard of nymphs? nymphs were once virgins too (forgotten what a male nymph is called). What happens when a nymph marries someone with a low/zero drive for sex? How does the adjustment occur?? A virgin with erectile issues nko??

If we have the mindset of contentment, we won't be caught in the contraption the fear of sex performance throw people into.

There are people in hell for over 100 years for silly reasons. If only they didn't allow their numbers subject them to the actions they took. Men deal with what ever comes with the package you chose, same goes for women, doing this is the answer and not subject yourselves to rigorous experimentation. It is the will of God that brings satiety, not tedious mechanical overtures, less God gives you a series of under-performing sexual mates and you keep experimenting over and over, on and on....

Lancelott:
SMH for you, you talk like you knew everyone in the 90's..as far back as before Christ was born, brothels existed, if there was "sexual purity" as you claim, what were they used for. Sexual compatibility is a thing, ever heard of nymphs? nymphs were once virgins too (forgotten what a male nymph is called). What happens when a nymph marries someone with a low/zero drive for sex? How does the adjustment occur?? A virgin with erectile issues nko?? PS, someone who has had sex before does not make the person unclean nor tainted, the heart counts too. Some virgins whom according to you are "pure vessels" will still end in hell, rephrase your point please.

Allow me reiterate, as far back as 1993, i knew the entire details of a nuclear reactor, so you can determine my age and I.Q. even back in the 90s, sexual compatibility wasn't a marketable term, it was accommodate yourself to the needs of your partner..I didn't seek your interest when i made my comment. It's easy to criticize. Make your own point and leave mine if it irks you... Please do not quote me any further

tuniski:

He is a forgiving God. In as much one has sinned going down in prayers and seeking forgiveness is not hypocrisy but, recognizing God!

Did you think about this statement of yours at all?

Chaiiii


It is finished.

Anyways, do you see anything wrong in Boko Haram killing people? Honest answer pls

supersystemsnig:





Now this is the problem ... This generation has been lied to, with the notion of sexual compatibility, this never existed back in the 90s, but to make people drift off course, a seduction was required. The answers lies in the heart and not in the sexual organs. The heart because, the will of both individuals involved in the relationship is where the answer lies. If both individuals wish to honour God than pleasure ( DOn't forget the book of Ecclesiastes in this matter), both will honour God, have good sex lie, and won't be easily dissatisfied with lack of expectations, but too much experimentation brought this generation with a staunch fear that has perverted and contaminated people into a " fixed " state...where the fear of will he/she match my sexual prowess exists..


First, we need to deal with the fear, and deal with our hearts. If we have a God first approach, and God above other things, then we will be fine. So the answer lies in finding someone that has the same reverence with God as us, so the downsides can be complemented in our devotion to God and other areas.

If we truly love God, then the bedmatics won't take the front seat, we accord it.

If we truly want to honour God, then we would deny ourselves pleasure

If we truly are true to honest standards, being single should have impacted some lessons in self denial and restraint and control

If we truly want to honour God, and follow His standards, then we won't give this issue the level of concern we give it

Hope this helps

NO. You did not address the main issue

adepeter2027:

Did you think about this statement of yours at all?

Chaiiii


It is finished.

Anyways, do you see anything wrong in Boko Haram killing people? Honest answer pls

Killing human of any kind is a no no to me worse still that of terrorism.

In the real world, you test your car before you buy it. If you like, marry a lady without testing whether you guys are compatible or not.

Be practical or live in religious fantasy. The choice is yours