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Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Samayus: 11:07am On Oct 29, 2017
supersystemsnig:
If we have the mindset of contentment, we won't be caught in the contraption the fear of sex performance throw people into.

There are people in hell for over 100 years for silly reasons. If only they didn't allow their numbers subject them to the actions they took. Men deal with what ever comes with the package you chose, same goes for women, doing this is the answer and not subject yourselves to rigorous experimentation. It is the will of God that brings satiety, not tedious mechanical overtures, less God gives you a series of under-performing sexual mates and you keep experimenting over and over, on and on....


Am sure u will agree with me that a lot of people will also go to hell as a result of failed marriages and sex is a very important part of marriage. I am not trying to promote pre marital sex, i am just an advocate of/for practical Christianity
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by adepeter2027(m): 11:08am On Oct 29, 2017
tuniski:

Killing human of any kind is a no no to me worse still that of terrorism.
But are you aware of the fact that they're killing for Allah? There is reward for their killing.

And moreover, if they pray to god, hope you know god will forgive them.

In conclusion, if I'm to go by your level of reasoning, I see no reason why you should see boko haram killing as a bad thing.
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by OkoAnike(m): 11:08am On Oct 29, 2017
supersystemsnig:


Bless your soul. The sane one can easily be determined between us both if our comments are anlayzed carefully..

Good day

Op, Thanks for your mature response...
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by peterphd(m): 11:09am On Oct 29, 2017
supersystemsnig:
If we have the mindset of contentment, we won't be caught in the contraption the fear of sex performance throw people into.

There are people in hell for over 100 years for silly reasons. If only they didn't allow their numbers subject them to the actions they took. Men deal with what ever comes with the package you chose, same goes for women, doing this is the answer and not subject yourselves to rigorous experimentation. It is the will of God that brings satiety, not tedious mechanical overtures, less God gives you a series of under-performing sexual mates and you keep experimenting over and over, on and on....




High IQ and you believe in the Christian God? How and why?

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Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Nobody: 11:17am On Oct 29, 2017
tuniski:

He is a forgiving God. In as much one has sinned going down in prayers and seeking forgiveness is not hypocrisy but, recognizing God!
u must think God is a fool. U seek forgiveness den go bk to it den seek forgiveness again. Mtcheeew
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Successdude(m): 11:18am On Oct 29, 2017
GAZZUZZ:
when a virgin meets a virgin, they do not require any compatibility program, they have no history/prior sexual encounters to compare with current one.

If you want to use scripture as standard. Both vessels must be pure.

If either has tasted the forbiden fruit, bible cannot help.
hmm....brilliant
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by crystalmi(f): 11:54am On Oct 29, 2017
Nnemuka:


Bro which sheep are you pastoring? I honor God and just like David and solomon with 300 wives and concubines i fail in my flesh.... i think my failure in that aspect is the deity's way of saving me from long years of incompatibility and misery. Don't you see the hand of God in this?
You are suppose to live in the spirit as a christian not in the flesh. You are suppose to say no to things of the flesh. That is what make you a christian, what diffrentiate you from people of the world. The bible says without holiness no man can see God. So stop bragging about living in the flesh and claiming christianity. It's not healthy for new believers
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Temysteve(m): 12:00pm On Oct 29, 2017
supersystemsnig:





Now this is the problem ... This generation has been lied to, with the notion of sexual compatibility, this never existed back in the 90s, but to make people drift off course, a seduction was required. The answers lies in the heart and not in the sexual organs. The heart because, the will of both individuals involved in the relationship is where the answer lies. If both individuals wish to honour God than pleasure ( DOn't forget the book of Ecclesiastes in this matter), both will honour God, have good sex lie, and won't be easily dissatisfied with lack of expectations, but too much experimentation brought this generation with a staunch fear that has perverted and contaminated people into a " fixed " state...where the fear of will he/she match my sexual prowess exists..


First, we need to deal with the fear, and deal with our hearts. If we have a God first approach, and God above other things, then we will be fine. So the answer lies in finding someone that has the same reverence with God as us, so the downsides can be complemented in our devotion to God and other areas.

If we truly love God, then the bedmatics won't take the front seat, we accord it.

If we truly want to honour God, then we would deny ourselves pleasure

If we truly are true to honest standards, being single should have impacted some lessons in self denial and restraint and control

If we truly want to honour God, and follow His standards, then we won't give this issue the level of concern we give it
Hope this helps
baba! I dnt just understand ur preaching.... Is their holy sex As long as u are couple you can both work on urself day by day to increase your sexual lives..... Make person no con tell me say their 1 style God hates.
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by preshdiva(f): 12:00pm On Oct 29, 2017
Sexual compatibility is a very important issue, albeit dicey. In a relationship where the partners are committed to having sex only after marriage, they must discuss this, because there's no point of avoiding what you'll see everyday till death or divorce do you part. Roll out your sexual fantasies, honey, let him know you can be a bad bitch in bed; men are flesh and blood no matter how spiritual and disciplined they look. Don't be prim and proper in this area; discuss areas you'd like to explore; it'd make him long for you in a way he can't explain. Enough of all these hypocrisy biko.

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Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Oct 29, 2017
GAZZUZZ:
when a virgin meets a virgin, they do not require any compatibility program, they have no history/prior sexual encounters to compare with current one.

If you want to use scripture as standard. Both vessels must be pure.

If either has tasted the forbiden fruit, bible cannot help.

Lool grin grin
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by tuniski: 12:15pm On Oct 29, 2017
yeyerolling:
u must think God is a fool. U seek forgiveness den go bk to it den seek forgiveness again. Mtcheeew
Your thought process is exactly why he is God not man!
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by tuniski: 12:17pm On Oct 29, 2017
adepeter2027:

But are you aware of the fact that they're killing for Allah? There is reward for their killing.

And moreover, if they pray to god, hope you know god will forgive them.

In conclusion, if I'm to go by your level of reasoning, I see no reason why you should see boko haram killing as a bad thing.
Anyone killing for Allah, God, yaweh is a lost soul.
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by emmyN(m): 12:41pm On Oct 29, 2017
It's very necessary to have a chat with your partner on sexual compatibility before marriage. I recommend you do it in a public-private setting. By that I mean somewhere in public but where you have the privacy to communicate without interruption. It may be in the home of your mentor or counselor. Don't go'an do it in the confines of your bedroom o.

I wonder though what makes you think you will be polluting your spirit when discussing such with your betrothed. Sex is an integral part of marriage; discussing it may understandably get you aroused, but polluting your spirit, I don't think so. As long as you are in control of your body, you are good.

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Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by mrdino(m): 1:01pm On Oct 29, 2017
GAZZUZZ:
when a virgin meets a virgin, they do not require any compatibility program, they have no history/prior sexual encounters to compare with current one.

If you want to use scripture as standard. Both vessels must be pure.

If either has tasted the forbiden fruit, bible cannot help.

Man, you hit the nail on the head. End of discussion
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by imstrong1: 1:04pm On Oct 29, 2017
GAZZUZZ:
when a virgin meets a virgin, they do not require any compatibility program, they have no history/prior sexual encounters to compare with current one.

If you want to use scripture as standard. Both vessels must be pure.

If either has tasted the forbiden fruit, bible cannot help.
Bless you
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by HerXLNC(f): 1:43pm On Oct 29, 2017
Brb
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by HerXLNC(f): 1:55pm On Oct 29, 2017
GAZZUZZ:
when a virgin meets a virgin, they do not require any compatibility program, they have no history/prior sexual encounters to compare with current one.

If you want to use scripture as standard. Both vessels must be pure.

If either has tasted the forbiden fruit, bible cannot help.

U spoke well buh it doesn't always work like this.... I once analysed it this way before buh the fact remains that

If as a virgin you have sex with a virgin partner.... One may turn out to be nympho/pervert while the other party cant cope with d frequency of sexual demands....this is a standing fact

As many nympho/pervert don't know they are until after first two experiences
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by aytuns(m): 1:56pm On Oct 29, 2017
If both parties are virgins (both in mind and body), there will be no issue of compatibility, cos you are entering the marriage with a clean heart, and have the knowledge of just your spouse.

The problem comes when one or both parties have either had Sex ( disvirgined both the body and mind), or have engaged in activities that didn't lead to Sex, but corrupted the mind.

Matthew 15 :19 - For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies. 20 These are the things which defile a man, but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile a man.”

Job 31:1 - “I have made a covenant with my eyes; Why then should I look upon a young woman?

Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by successking: 2:53pm On Oct 29, 2017
elantraceey:
Happy Sunday Y'all. smiley



So practical Christians that strictly practice and are practicing no sex before marriage how can sexual compatibility be discussed without 'polluting' the spirit? smiley




What is sexual compatibility and where does the concept come from? Is it from the Bible or the traditional institution? Are you a product of such discussion or asking out of youthful exuberance? please respond.
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by jaxxy(m): 3:06pm On Oct 29, 2017
I believe in practicals not theory off course within the correct and righteous perspectives cheesy
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by crunchyg: 3:49pm On Oct 29, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Here to learn.
I can teach you if you want
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by crunchyg: 3:50pm On Oct 29, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Here to learn.
I can teach you if you want !
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Crieff(m): 5:13pm On Oct 29, 2017
supersystemsnig:





Now this is the problem ... This generation has been lied to, with the notion of sexual compatibility, this never existed back in the 90s, but to make people drift off course, a seduction was required. The answers lies in the heart and not in the sexual organs. The heart because, the will of both individuals involved in the relationship is where the answer lies. If both individuals wish to honour God than pleasure ( DOn't forget the book of Ecclesiastes in this matter), both will honour God, have good sex lie, and won't be easily dissatisfied with lack of expectations, but too much experimentation brought this generation with a staunch fear that has perverted and contaminated people into a " fixed " state...where the fear of will he/she match my sexual prowess exists..


First, we need to deal with the fear, and deal with our hearts. If we have a God first approach, and God above other things, then we will be fine. So the answer lies in finding someone that has the same reverence with God as us, so the downsides can be complemented in our devotion to God and other areas.

If we truly love God, then the bedmatics won't take the front seat, we accord it.

If we truly want to honour God, then we would deny ourselves pleasure

If we truly are true to honest standards, being single should have impacted some lessons in self denial and restraint and control

If we truly want to honour God, and follow His standards, then we won't give this issue the level of concern we give it

Hope this helps




Thank you for your sound contribution. It's a terrible cycle to fall into when you exalt pleasure over God...and such couple with such worldview of "sexual compatibility" still fall into the sin of adultery. Thank you for the wholesome perspective.
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by IamEmem(m): 5:16pm On Oct 29, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Here to learn.

We can learn together but theory only wink cheesy
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by micxwell(m): 6:09pm On Oct 29, 2017
jaxxy:
I believe in practicals not theory off course within the correct and righteous perspectives cheesy
Lol, Issokay cheesy
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Mryacks: 6:17pm On Oct 29, 2017
supersystemsnig:





Now this is the problem ... This generation has been lied to, with the notion of sexual compatibility, this never existed back in the 90s, but to make people drift off course, a seduction was required. The answers lies in the heart and not in the sexual organs. The heart because, the will of both individuals involved in the relationship is where the answer lies. If both individuals wish to honour God than pleasure ( DOn't forget the book of Ecclesiastes in this matter), both will honour God, have good sex lie, and won't be easily dissatisfied with lack of expectations, but too much experimentation brought this generation with a staunch fear that has perverted and contaminated people into a " fixed " state...where the fear of will he/she match my sexual prowess exists..


First, we need to deal with the fear, and deal with our hearts. If we have a God first approach, and God above other things, then we will be fine. So the answer lies in finding someone that has the same reverence with God as us, so the downsides can be complemented in our devotion to God and other areas.

If we truly love God, then the bedmatics won't take the front seat, we accord it.

If we truly want to honour God, then we would deny ourselves pleasure

If we truly are true to honest standards, being single should have impacted some lessons in self denial and restraint and control

If we truly want to honour God, and follow His standards, then we won't give this issue the level of concern we give it

Hope this helps



God bless you for this
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 6:47pm On Oct 29, 2017
LordReed:


It can and should be discussed in the context of preparing to be married. The challenge is the way sex has been represented or rather been misrepresented. We are exposed to sex in ways that present it simultaneously as something to be ashamed of and to crave wantonly. Sex is presented like a competition for who has the longest dick, can last the longest in bed or how many sexual partners you've had while at the same time making it seem like a dirty, base act. This distortion will not allow people to speak properly about it because they are caught between being sex freaks or self Righteous repressed "virgins".

The first step will be to reorganize what you know and think about sex. Drop the idea that you have to be a porn star to know about or like sex. Drop the idea that sex is a dirty act. Embrace the idea that you are adequate for sex even if you don't have a big dick or gigantic boobs. Embrace the idea that sex is a healthy act to be enjoyed with your life partner.

Next is to obtain information on what exactly you should do before, during and after sex. People think sex is just like sleeping on a bed facing up or facing down. No people, sex is more than that, sex starts way before the action itself. Learn these things and be educated so that you can prepare yourself to speak intelligently and act appropriately when the time comes.

The biggest challenge in sexual matters is self control. Whether single or married this challenge will hit you every day. This is one thing that personalizes this issue because nobody can stop you from feeling "Hot", you will have to control yourself in those moments, no one can do it for you.

In discussing sex, speak honestly about your desires and your views on sex. If you are with someone who is sensible they will also open up to you about their own desires and views and you can begin the process of examining sexual compatibility. Be careful though "sexual predators" can seize the opportunity to make moves because you might be vulnerable.

All in all ask God for wisdom because it is profitable to direct.



Wow... if there was a love button and it were possible I'll love this post a thousand times over.... you simply hit the nail on the head. Thank you very much.

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Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 6:52pm On Oct 29, 2017
jaxxy:
I believe in practicals not theory off course within the correct and righteous perspectives cheesy

lol... what kind of practicals exists within the correct and righteous perspective?
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by jaxxy(m): 6:54pm On Oct 29, 2017
micxwell:
Lol, Issokay cheesy

Broda maxwell or is it micxwell I'm serious sir.
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by yummy2017: 7:01pm On Oct 29, 2017
supersystemsnig:





Now this is the problem ... This generation has been lied to, with the notion of sexual compatibility, this never existed back in the 90s, but to make people drift off course, a seduction was required. The answers lies in the heart and not in the sexual organs. The heart because, the will of both individuals involved in the relationship is where the answer lies. If both individuals wish to honour God than pleasure ( DOn't forget the book of Ecclesiastes in this matter), both will honour God, have good sex lie, and won't be easily dissatisfied with lack of expectations, but too much experimentation brought this generation with a staunch fear that has perverted and contaminated people into a " fixed " state...where the fear of will he/she match my sexual prowess exists..


First, we need to deal with the fear, and deal with our hearts. If we have a God first approach, and God above other things, then we will be fine. So the answer lies in finding someone that has the same reverence with God as us, so the downsides can be complemented in our devotion to God and other areas.

If we truly love God, then the bedmatics won't take the front seat, we accord it.

If we truly want to honour God, then we would deny ourselves pleasure

If we truly are true to honest standards, being single should have impacted some lessons in self denial and restraint and control

If we truly want to honour God, and follow His standards, then we won't give this issue the level of concern we give it

Hope this helps


You are on point. The Bible tells us that in the last days, people shall be lovers of themselves. Sexual compatibility? Jesus have mercy. Too much of knowledge has killed this generation.
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by jaxxy(m): 7:10pm On Oct 29, 2017
elantraceey:


lol... what kind of practicals exists within the correct and righteous perspective?


Read songs of Solomon in ur bible ma
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 7:27pm On Oct 29, 2017
successking:



What is sexual compatibility and where does the concept come from? Is it from the Bible or the traditional institution? Are you a product of such discussion or asking out of youthful exuberance? please respond.




Perceived sexual compatibility is defined as the extent to which a couple perceives they share sexual beliefs, preferences, desires, and needs with their partner.(copied) and as far as I've studied it wasn't discussed in the bible, I see it as an excuse coined by those practicing sexual immorality..... I asked based on curiosity and not any of the options you listed above.

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