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Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by openmine(m): 7:55pm On Oct 29, 2017 |
elantraceey:The highlighted assertions are not true! Sexual compatibility is as important as knowing your partner inside out! Many marriages have crashed due to sexual incompatibility hence it must be taken seriously!! Lets stop treating S.ex as if it is one untouchable or sinful subject that is engaged by those who practice immorality!! Thats totally wrong!! 1 Like |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by bigerboy200: 7:56pm On Oct 29, 2017 |
Nnemuka:that one na small thing naa.besides u are already nacking each other to know he is a 15sec guy.so there is nothing godly about the situation,tell them as it is ..me I'm wondering how i will ask even her if she can do different styles..like snake in the monkey shadow style... |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by skydancer: 8:23pm On Oct 29, 2017 |
There is nothing like Sexual compatibility. We have compatibility itself -- which is largely about spiritual maturity, and we have emotional and sexual education. And of course beauty/physical compatibility which is obvious. Any other thing is deceit |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by michaelwilli(m): 8:55pm On Oct 29, 2017 |
GAZZUZZ:word |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by graciella(f): 10:17pm On Oct 29, 2017 |
Nnemuka: Say it as it is! Its your life not theirs.. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by graciella(f): 10:19pm On Oct 29, 2017 |
supersystemsnig: God bless you! |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by nemynely(m): 5:30am On Oct 30, 2017 |
GAZZUZZ: Point bro. There is no such thing as sexual compatibility in the bible. However married couples are made to realize that their bodies belong, no longer to themselves, but to their partners. Also that they must endeavor to please each other as much as possible. It's best to marry as virgins as there will be no "prior experience" to compare with. Abstinence is very possible! My wife and I married as virgins at 28. We started practicing sex from our wedding night, awkward at first, but got better over a few months. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by micxwell(m): 4:02pm On Oct 30, 2017 |
jaxxy:It's obvious na... Lol |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Lush100(m): 11:59am On Oct 31, 2017 |
what I know, 1) God created sex or made it " wired" in our life. 2) God hates fornication /adultery =sexual immortality. 3) God by the scriptures fully approves sex /sexual pleasure in marriage. 4) even to the point of prayer/abstinence,(for the married )u want to stay off sex, your partner must be informed & it must only be for a short time( check the book of Corinthian) therefore is seem to be a need (by implication) now my own perspective, openness/sincerity in courtship is key to intending couples to understand each other sex inclusive. before u get to talk about anything including sex, u have to settle it in your mind and as companion/or intended couple that this is the person you are going to marry-100% it is not to know if u are compatible with someone that u now decide to marry them. why? because the two of u are on a life long journey and u will go through 1001 things in life (things that u never have passed through) which u have to resolve to stick together and solve or overcome (overcome is the more appropriate word) . this include sex. take Joseph & Mary as an example, they were betrothed already ( my interpretation is both already decided that this is my life partner). now a new problem emerges, marry is pregnant, they now need to solve. option1: Joseph could leave,. this is acceptable by biblical standard. but remember in doing so, he wanted to do it quietly and without disgracing her. option 2: Joseph listened to God and accepted to go ahead after God spoke to him. option 3, even after hearing God, Joseph might still want to leave, (this is what most people will do) why because they have not settled it in their mind that that is the person they are going to marry. take Isaac and Rachael, take Zachariah & Elizabeth, it is because they have settled it in their mind and to themselves that they are life partner not samplers. I remember I once asked my wife (during courtship) that what happens if I want sex and she is very tired or having her period. her answer: (not word for word): we would have had great time of sex before such would happen, because I love her ,I can feel her being tired inside me, I would likely subdue my thought to give her time to rest a while before I bring it up again. however where I am not able to control, she would take a shower & do what needs to be done. 1 Like |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Nobody: 4:56pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Sup elantraceey, Your thread is of good interest to me, Can we just chat here ? Just reply this msg when you're ready |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 11:44pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
cruchenutii: Now would have been a good time but I don't know if it's the same for you. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Nobody: 11:59pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
elantraceey: Not really, but i can still chat & say some few things before I sleep. ---- Here we go, First of all, I'm a Male & Christian. This has been one keen issue bothering me for a while. First problem is, I know the Word of God says we should NOT commit fornication or otherwise. Even so, I find it really hard to keep up & abstain in a relationship being that I used to be active sexually before entering a Christian Courtship. Moreso, I also discover (From personal experience) that women are more emotionally connected when sex is involved. This is really paramount in any relationship. -- So About sexual compatibility, As someone said "If both parties are virgins (both in mind and body), there will be no issue of compatibility, cos you are entering the marriage with a clean heart, and have the knowledge of just your spouse" So what if one of the two parties (OR BOTH) are not virgins? Once you start discussing Sex in a Christian Courtship , The temptation will crawl in. Its only a matter of time, So sometimes I ask myself If these Rules are actually meant for us. I am confused honestly. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 12:13am On Dec 28, 2017 |
cruchenutii: @ the bolded this primarily is the reason I created this thread, it's only a very few people today that became real Christians without having engaged in any sexual activity but some people that commented chose to give a blond eye to this. Lol the rule I believe is meant for everywhere and here's where grace comes in to give you the ability to do what you can't ordinarily do on your own. If you must, you don't have to discuss about sex all the time and if at all, it should be when you both are not together. There's one thing I hold on to dearly, if you're truly led by God, he won't led to into marrying a wrong woman or someone that isn't fit for you, his ways are perfect and his thoughts towards us are good to lead us to an expected end which certainly won't be a failed or unhappy marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Nobody: 12:47am On Dec 28, 2017 |
elantraceey: But this is where you get it wrong though, Being led to someone doesn't mean the person will be compatible sexually. Sex is an Art & has nothing to do with Spirituality, this is the part that people don't understand. & that is why some Pastors still have some sexual issues in their Marriage. You need to be sure of what you want. The right size of Dic.k. How long it takes you to get an Orgasm. Does your partner take you to that length? Answers you should know. These things may sound dirty. But when you enter the marriage, You will know how important it is. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 12:53am On Dec 28, 2017 |
cruchenutii: Not everyone that claims to be led by God are actually being led by God. I'f God is true and his word is true, do you think it should be difficult for him to actually lead us to someone that'll satisfy us sexually? Shouldn't God know us and what's actually best for us more than we do? |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Nobody: 1:02am On Dec 28, 2017 |
elantraceey: True, So how do we know we are actually led by God?. That's another issue. Reason is you had fallen in love with that person (Man OR Woman) already, So what If God says he's not the one? Many people will hear that voice & ignore OR not even recognize it at that point. Or how are we led by God again? Except for his voice & through dreams? Another is to consult a Pastor or Prophet concerning our spouse (Which usually results to them telling you what God hasn't said). Honestly I have heard cases, bad ones. Sometimes, its just good to verify by yourself. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 1:17am On Dec 28, 2017 |
cruchenutii: Before searching for a spouse we should ensure we've mastered to an extent the act of being led by the spirit, the issue is that a lot of us are impatient and what we call falling in 'love' most times is not love, could be lust, an attraction or anything else. There are marriages today that had more than enough premarital sex and still ended up badly, there are people that their lifestyle, attitude, etc changes after marriage that even after getting married to someone that aced or your requirements you can still get highly disappointed later on, you can never to be too sure of anything and that's life, it's preferable to just follow God and his leading because he alone knows the end from the beginning. 1 Like |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Nobody: 1:22am On Dec 28, 2017 |
elantraceey: it's preferable to just follow God and his leading because he alone knows the end from the beginning. True. Before searching for a spouse we should ensure we've mastered to an extent the act of being led by the spirit This is not actually realistic, but I will say my reasons in the morning, I want to sleep now. Cheers thanks for the good chat. God bless |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 1:31am On Dec 28, 2017 |
cruchenutii: I'll be waiting for your reasons then. Do have a lovely night rest. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by castro316: 8:21am On Mar 27, 2019 |
elantraceey:I disagree with you elanraceey. Even in the old days women eloped with their lovers, discovered their men where not who they wanted they only reason some suffered in silence is because divorce was highly frowned at and widows were ostracized so I will obect to you notion that internet doesn't necessarily play a. Major role in this |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by AududuNine11: 3:50pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
OfficialAwol: You spoke as a carnal man will speak. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by AududuNine11: 3:52pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
GAZZUZZ: Best comment ever on this post. Thumbs up |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by AududuNine11: 3:59pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
Beautiful... This goes to show we still have sane Christians who has swarm like the dead fishes do with the tides. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by Thugnificent(m): 9:09pm On Dec 23, 2020 |
LordReed:Did you really say this Lordreed. I thought you are a atheist |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by LordReed(m): 9:24pm On Dec 23, 2020 |
Thugnificent: Said it when I was still a Christian. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 9:33pm On Dec 23, 2020 |
LordReed: I still wonder what came about the change. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by CodeTemplar: 9:39pm On Dec 23, 2020 |
elantraceey:Do you sit down a village girl who hasn't eaten cake before about her favorite cake before taking her to the city as a maid? That how you topic is sounding to me. Illogical. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by LordReed(m): 9:39pm On Dec 23, 2020 |
elantraceey: Well, you could say my eyes got opened. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 9:41pm On Dec 23, 2020 |
LordReed: How's the family though? Baby girl will be all grown up now. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by LordReed(m): 9:42pm On Dec 23, 2020 |
elantraceey: Doing well thanks for asking. She is, even has a lil sister now. |
Re: Sexual Compatibility : How Can It Be Discussed In A Christian Relationship? by elantraceey(f): 9:52pm On Dec 23, 2020 |
LordReed:Wow, awesome! Congratulations. |
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