Hi everyone.I do really need your advise on what to do before taking action. Im a young married guy and married to a single mother. initially i never knew she had a son but when i got to know i accepted my fate and moving on.we now living together and had my own daughter for me.The step son started school now under my roof cos hes just a year plus now close to 2. i just discovered the surname the mother used to register the boy is her real dad that they never lived nor stay together.what should i do? is this really true love or i'm fooling myself? ive been taking care of this boy for more than a year now and this is happening.pls what should i do? Thanks and God bless.

Man, I would have loved to be silent but I just wish to say a view words. Frankly speaking, I think your wife did the right thing by registering the child with his father real name. You wouldn't advice your wife to register him in your name do you? By such move it saves you all from future incidences likely to occur if at all who knows...? The fact that you love the child does not guarantee you as his biological father. Show him all the love you can, he will also call daddy even till adulthood.

hmmmm..and if later the father come for him whats do u think of my labor?

something is really fishy abt ur wife, she is personally taking very sensitive decisions herself and it's very bad. Well, I don't no ur tradition bt mine says if d biological father didn't pay her bride price den he owns nt d child, which means, if u paid her bride price, den dat child is Urs and shud nt in anyway bear any oda name. Go back to her pple and let dem clarify u on hw theirs is done, if at d end, dey say d child cnt b Urs, den d real father shud take his responsibility

Thanks to everyone to contributing to this. I really care abt the boy, but as my lawyer said, u cant adopt a child when the father is not dead, and without his consent.Maybe coz the father family is a well known Nigeria this is why she chose to use the name i dont know coz the father is a younger brother of a current sitting governor of one of our states. And the guy never even accepted the baby from birth. Im just worried about it all. And like my brother rightly said up there, we hardly talk about all of these.maybe im too busy or i dont want to hurt her by bringing certain topics up as it might take us another 3 days before we will ever talk to each other again in the house. its just a deep one ..