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the idea that one should accept ridicule from a cheating husband but not from the neighborhood (they are already gossiping about your cheating husband anyway) is ludicrous.

they have a lesser chance than the men of finding another partner, especially if they had children from their previous partner.

her priorities should be taking care and being a ROLE MODEL for her kids, there are men in her family who should be willing to step up as father figures to those kids.  Aren't there widowers in Nigeria who raise and send their kids to school? a relationship would come later but no kids should be forced to stay in an abusive household because the mum doesn't want to be humiliated.  Hasn't she been humiliated enough by a SERIAL CHEAT.

when it becomes a pattern, there is nothing that can be done until the man admits he has a problem (see tiger woods).  the good ole nigerian thinking of siddon look while praying for God to miraculously transform the cheater into a saint doesn't work (it may work in nollywood though).

Beating up the mistresses doesn't work either.

If you keep waiting till u catch HIV na for your pocket.Society my a*s *s.Where is society when he's beating u black and blue? Is society also there when u r treating the gonorrhea he gave you? Where is society when he talks down on you and flaunts his mistresses shamelessly?

abi o. Nigerian society is full of show-offs.
what's actually common today are women who separate from their husbands without actually divorcing them. It's usually the independent ones that are able to do this.

Okay.

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good points being made here.

the question here is have Nigerian women being conditioned to accept philandering men?

@ bawomolo

of course giving a second chance means agreeing to my conditions including counseling. am not just going to give a word of mouth " if you dare ever cheat again, am leaving"bs.

I'm sure glad i got the XY chromosomes. I cant imagine what a woman goes thru suspecting her husband of cheating.

I partially blame the woman outside too . . . if she had any principles there'd be no one to cheat with.

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Cyberfreak:

Mrbrownjay,
why I considered your statement an insult was because I am definitely not one of the women who think like that and you went ahead to call me one of them without understanding my posts first. I find it insulting to be associated with such foolish thinking.

my bad i did misunderstood your post. i apologize.

Serial Cheat That slowpoke is out of the door. We don't need to be married to be successful parents and he should have thought about the "family" before he started jumping from one skirt to another. And PLEASE women a bit of independence won't hurt, nothing irritates me more than a woman saying "I can't leave him because I don't have the funds" or "He takes care of me". If you have 10hours free everyday, instead of sitting at home watching tv, get a job.

Seriously im not staying with such a man, thinking about it alone is enuff to make the love i have for him go away, so if someone asks me this question, why would i be dumb about the whole thingy?my whole being will scream [size=32pt]DIVORCE[/size]

Divorce the man or shut up and take it.

What is hard in that. Your children will understand as they become adults. This is life please live it.

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Pray for him and make sure u always use protection during intimacy.

as long as women in any society,more so in nigeria,make it a life-long achievement to drag a man to the altar,and those who haven't are ridiculed or seen as low-class,men will always be kings.

Cheating will never stop.The more successful,good-looking and suave a man is,the more propensity he has of cheating

@topic

Women rarely leave serial cheats.Its the one-off unsmart guys who get their wives demanding divorce,especially in Nigeria

lol @ the one off unsmart guy
These serial cheats ehh, i wonder how their wives just stay there,
God please ooo, I cannot go through all that.
I will kill E, i know i will,

goodbye

Divorce never pays. Not for any reason. stay and fight for your marriage and the kids. Thats the honourable thing to do

As for trying to get back at the man, dont be surprised that at 3 kids, you will be lucky if a low life as much as notices you. You will loose both ways!

Interesting Topic . . . . . If you against Divorce, then, just pray for him.

@poster (Chaircover)

The all knowing approach you are using suggest that you are indeed the real character in the story you are telling. So why are you cheating on your husband with a married man? Just because he is a serial cheater? Remember Tiger Wood's wife had a similar problem. How did she handle her own case? A word is good for the wise!!!!

dancewith:

@poster (Chaircover)

The all knowing approach you are using suggest that you are indeed the real character in the story you are telling. So why are you cheating on your husband with a married man? Just because he is a serial cheater? Remember Tiger Wood's wife had a similar problem. How did she handle her own case? A word is good for the wise!!!!

hahahahahah . . . . If you know Chaircover well, you will know that she will never do that, so she is obviously not the one in the story . . . the woman love her husband die.

Ordinarily i would not dabble into this topic but i think this particular subject has been paraded severally under different heading. On the subject my candid believe is that naturally nature has designed the man's body to give out while the womans body is to receive. when a man is a serial cheat he is just being himself showing the animal in him, especially if his orientation is skewed to the left. On the other hand a woman is designed to be gentle, calm but sometimes some pervert ladies abound so they can do and undo. My response to the poster is that if you married a man unknown to you that he is a beast inside then the best thing to do is to take precautions with him. You cannot afford to be sleeping around to square up the deal except you too you are a pervert. A time comes when his libido must cool down due to age and time factor then he returns back home to you but if you follow his ways how many can you possibly date to balance the equation.

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chaircover:


Ahhhhh Femi First of all receive one big beating Where have you been? How come you abandoned the family section for the Auto seciton, Are cars more important?  

But as you came to my aid, all is forgiven  

@dancewith, a beg don't cause kata kata o! For the record I am not the lady in question but I can understand your displeasure at the story.

Since i am into exportation of Automobiles and Technologies, i have been busy with business oh . . . .BTW, u cld have stayed in touch too . . .i really missed the family section though

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I try as much as possible not to be a cheat cos I never had my father around when I was growing up. It bothers me a lot until now cos he was never there for me but wants to be there now cos there's been changes. I can only count 2 nights, that I remember seeing my parent together under the same roof. One of which was 2 years ago when I went back to Nigeria. Its really sad.
So I wont say the woman should just pack her things and leave.
When you approach fire with another fire, ashes will be the left over. The kids will loose more than the parent will.

Let me give this tread another twist:
Most times the lady is the one driving her husband into the hands of another woman. some even as single ladies has sown seed  n now they are reaping what they have sown, its all cries,

chaircover:

OK let me say it with all my mouth (ka fi gbogbo ebu soro) We have miseed you on here, so while you are waiting for the next shipment of your X5's and ML's please pay us a visit and you can tell us who is the best person to keep the engagement ring

I will be visiting frequently now.
One the ring, i still blv the woman shd keep the ring, cos it was a gift to her . . .

I'd rather go through that humiliation than stay with a man who will totally wreck my self esteem,
be it nija or no nija,divorce is nothing new in my family,3 and counting( all happily remarried).Not that i'm proud of it but im proud that i have examples of women who know their self worth.[/b]my dad's sis was a victim of physical abuse,after years and 5 kids, when her sis found out,she had to leave the man.

My mom's sis found pictures and videos of live n a k e d women on her husbands camcorder, (several bush rats)after so much,she's happily divorced.

@hispinkolo, ladies like you need deliverance! These are part of the reasons why men tag some women as "not a wife material", how can you go into a marriage with such a mentality? Did you hide your brains under your wedding dress when saying "in [b]sickness and in health, till death do us part", "i do"? It is obvious that a serial cheater is sick and needs help, instead of trying to find solution to your marital problems, you are running stupidly away from it like a loser.
Do people really know what it means to be married? Most people these days just get married without knowing the true meaning of marriage. Who says marriage is a bed of roses? We all know that marriage has different sides to it( the good, the bad and the ugly) just the way life in general is patterned.
divorce is nothing new in my family,3 and counting( all happily remarried).Not that i'm proud of it but im proud that i have examples of women who know their self worth.
I think men should try as much as possible to do some family background check before marrying some ladies or else they will be sorry

Hand him over to God.