Respect55:

Data just my fear-her moving on. But she should show enough understanding. Come to think of it, will she stay if I fail in life?

Respect55:

Data just my fear-her moving on. But she should show enough understanding. Come to think of it, will she stay if I fail in life?

Lalas247:

Just take it easy ,,,, if she is still single then start again but this time let her know your true intentions ... that way the ball is on her court

Shalom

greiboy:
honestly bro, I have to ask a question? hope you won't mind

What type of work do you do?, why is it so hard for you to leave ph?

if you don't see yourself leaving ph any time soon, I mean not even for a day. let her move on.

Eyop:


You are in portharcourt yarning dust and creating a topic that you are about to lose your girlfriend when you are even not making move to sustain the relationship. Do you think gifts and calls can substitute the physical presence? If that's your own level of understanding, then a long distance relationship isn't for you.

So you can't create time even if it's for days to meet with her to discuss extensively with her? You are just not ready to fight for the relationship so i have nothing else to add.

DaySpringer:
You are not a serious human being Poster.
What nonsense.

if you want to face business, face business and leave relationship and if you want to face both relationship and business then you should be able to make time for both. You are completely neglecting this girl. How can you be in a long distance relationship and you have not seen her in seven months?!! And you are both in the same Country. You cannot just go home, spend two days minimum and then travel on the third day? Something that you promised to do in the first place. Not only are you looking like an unserious person, you're looking like someone who doesn't really care about her or values the relationship.

You are obviously underestimating how difficult long distance relationships are.
The girl needs to see you physically, touch you, hold you. You guys need to make memories together. That's what keeps a relationship strong.
You're selfish because you cannot see beyond your personal reasons for not going and see why she needs you to come.
You're even lucky, by now she should be cheating on you or have left you.
And you're still too daft to go back. You think she is a savings account you leave in a bank that will always be there for you.
If you know you want to hustle, let the girl go and face your hustle, Don't leave her there for 7 months without seeing you and you are deceiving yourself that you care about her.

Respect55:

I can't afford to loose her. I d t pray for it at all

Respect55:

Dnt even make it sound as if I'm the first. What do u say of husbands who travel outside the country for greener pastures for up to 2 years yet their wives haven't killed themselves?
I'm occupied to travel, why can't the you her to come??

Whoever told u hustling and relationship can't go hand in hand

mikejj:
i wish you well brother.i hope you dont loose the gold soon

DaySpringer:

You see that you don't have sense?

Have you married her? No. But you using husbands and wives as an example.

You know exactly why she cannot travel. You said it yourself so why are you asking the question again?

210 days and you have no space to go and see her for even just two days.

My brother stop lamenting here. Since you know that you cannot travel and she too cannot travel then whatver you see you take.
Your business is more important. if you stand, you find another girl.

Shekina.

Andracarles:
I wish i could talk to her, i'd advise her to RUN far away from such an unserious space blocker. 7 months in the same country and ur making noise about business. Na only you dey do hustle abi? Abeg free the girl let her make herself useful. Mtcheew. Nonsense and hustle. Time waster.�

Respect55:

I dnt pray for such too. But should she have another plan, I can't stand on her way. It will be a silly decision to keep a girl that isn't happy with u

mikejj:
what are trying to say....are sure another girl is nt keeping u in ph.

Respect55:

Sorry bro. I dnt double- date

Respect55:

Sorry bro. I dnt double- date

Respect55:

Here parents are holding out that she can't visit unless something official has bn done. About my going home, I have my mind made up on that-I'm not going. Why can't the mum later dad's late) allow her since our relationship isn't a secret anymore

mikejj:
well just wanted to be sure....anyhow u want to twist the maths...u stil need to find to go c ur woman..even if it is one day..den u cum bak to ph..

mikejj:
well just wanted to be sure....anyhow u want to twist the maths...u stil need to find to go c ur woman..even if it is one day..den u cum bak to ph..

NeeKlaus:
You are not even ready for this relationship. It's obvious you are considering just yourself and it's clear this girl loves you a lot.

See eh, when a girl truly loves you, your physical presence will mean a lot to her. Gifts and calls can never substitute physical contact in a relationship. It's not possible except that girl doesn't love you at all.

For crying out loud, you haven't visited her in 7 whole months and she's complaining, even when you promised her you would visit? Honestly, if I were that girl, I will break up ASAP and face someone that is ready to give her that attention.

You know what to do. Relationships and Love matters are all about sacrifices. If you can't sacrifice just two days in an entire 7 months, so she can relish your presence, then I can boldly say that you are not ready for that relationship. For Chrissakes, are you the first person to do business? How busy can you be??

Bros, you know what to do. Do it fast.

rickyboss333:


now u can clearly see ur at fault. u r simply punishing d babe for something she didn't do. she is not d parent that has refused her not to go visiting. more over u should understand parents are like that, even ur own parents will not let ur sister visit a man knowingly no matter how close d relationship. when I said plan for her to visit, I never meant she should take permission from d parents, ur not a kid, I believe both of u could come up with some story to see her leave her home for a few days. about u making up ur mind never to go home... that sums up everything. she feels u don't love her enough to make trips to visit her cos perhaps u don't miss her that much, or perhaps u have someone else over there ur keeping. u have to make sacrifices sometimes, even if it means going back on our words, just for the one u truly love.


BTW, I notice u have an excuse for every advice u have been given here. ur beginning to sound like a "mister know it all". we r all saying virtually same thing n there's no how we could all b wrong at dsame time. I am beginning to wonder how ur previous relationship went, that's if this isn't ur first. try not to be too ranthoneous. take our advice n u will not regret it

Respect55:

It's alright. I think I will go next weekend. I have spoken with a friend to help me and manage my business. I will keep u posted

mikejj:
goodluck man!!!

Respect55:

I appreciate ur concern bro. I will go by next weekend.
I will update u people on how things turn out when I might have gone to see her.
I'm ready for the relationship bro. Very much ready

NeeKlaus:

Fine. Please go next weekend o. It's hard to see girls that would love you that much these days. You can mention me when you want to update again.