Many of gals/ladies have came across happen to be a baby mama.
1. Is it that am destiny to marry a baby mama or is just a coincident?
2. Is there any crime in marrying a baby mama?
Kindly help with a gud advice

There's no crime in marrying a baby mama.

What's with the stereotype about them? At least they didn't abort their kids.

Nedfed:
Many of gals/ladies have came across happen to be a baby mama.
1. Is it that am destiny to marry a baby mama or is just a coincident?
2. Is there any crime in marrying a baby mama?
Kindly help with a gud advice

I don't know about number 1 because I believe we make our own destinies.

As for number 2, no crime bros. Just be prepared to be a father to the child, understand the position of the baby daddy in the hearts of the child and the woman and also the position of the child in the heart of the woman. Too many obstacles but all surmountable.

makydebbie:
There's no crime in marrying a baby mama.

What's with the stereotype about them? At
least they didn't abort their kids.

But what of the baby father
Don't u think he might be causing prblm in future?

Elparaiso:


I don't know about number 1 because I believe we make our own destinies.

As for number 2, no crime bros. Just be prepared to be a father to the child, understand the position of the baby daddy in the hearts of the child and the woman and also the position of the child in the heart of the woman. Too many obstacles but all surmountable.

Aiit bro
Tnx for ur contribution

Don't Marry A Baby Mama cos, She'll Cheat On With The Baby Daddy. Marry Only A Divorcee Or A Widower

Shedrack777:
Don't Marry A Baby Mama cos, She'll Cheat On With The Baby Daddy. Marry Only A Divorcee Or A Widower

It seems you speaking from xperience, tnx man.
But do you think a Divorcee or Widower don't cheat?

Elparaiso:


I don't know about number 1 because I believe we make our own destinies.

As for number 2, no crime bros. Just be prepared to be a father to the child, understand the position of the baby daddy in the hearts of the child and the woman and also the position of the child in the heart of the woman. Too many obstacles but all surmountable.

Good one up here. Also remember that the woman in the midst may have a special soft spot for the Baby Daddy and are likely to het intangled occassionally when they converge especially on the child's special moments

Nedfed:


But what of the baby father
Don't u think he might be causing prblm in future?

It depends on the maturity of the woman and her baby daddy.
He should understand that you've a place in his baby mama and baby's heart/life. I think from there, things can be sorted out.

BabbanBura:


Good one up here. Also remember that the woman in the midst may have a special soft spot for the Baby Daddy and are likely to het intangled occassionally when they converge especially on the child's special moments

You're right, there are lots of factors to consider. One should even try to see if she's getting married out of desperation instead of love. A marriage that stems from desperation cannot last.

Nedfed:
Many of gals/ladies have came across happen to be a baby mama.
1. Is it that am destiny to marry a baby mama or is just a coincident?
2. Is there any crime in marrying a baby mama?
Kindly help with a gud advice

Guy baby mamas have one problem or the other, that's why they are single mothers. I came to this conclusion after dealing with a couple of them, I realized there must be a reason for a man to reject the mother of his child .

Some men say ladies have fish brain, if you want to know the truth ehn? Test the IQ of a single mother, you will realize that fish is even smarter

makydebbie:
It depends on the maturity of the woman and her baby daddy.
He should understand that you've a place in his baby mama and baby's heart/life. I think from there, things can be sorted out.

A baby daddy is just that, a father to the baby. I don't think he's a problem unless he's also a boyfriend. One still has to be careful though.

Netanyahu1:


Guy baby mamas have one problem or the other, that's why they are single mothers. I came to this conclusion after dealing with a couple of them, I realized there must be a reason for a man to reject the mother of his child .

Some men say ladies have fish brain, if you want to know the truth ehn? Test the IQ of a single mother, you will realize that fish is even smarter

Haba! There are many reasons she could be a baby mama. What if she only wanted a child and not a husband? Or if the baby daddy is a player that used and dumped her? Don't label all baby mamas as dumb, it's wrong. I know a few of them and the ones I know are smart.

Elparaiso:


A baby daddy is just that, a father to the baby. I don't think he's a problem unless he's also a boyfriend. One still has to be careful though.

You've not seen mad baby daddy before. Some baby daddies wouldn't like the idea that their kid will have a second dad, yunno?

makydebbie:


You've not seen mad baby daddy before. Some baby daddies wouldn't like the idea that their kid will have a second dad, yunno?

Mad baby daddy has not seen mad husband. Does he expect BM to remain single till death? If he wanted to have complete control over his kid, then he should have popped the question.

That's why we have children custody laws sha.

Elparaiso:


Mad baby daddy has not seen mad husband. Does he expect BM to remain single till death? If he wanted to have complete control over his kid, then he should have popped the question.

That's why we have children custody laws sha.

That's why they're mad na, they never see reasons.
Some situations are complicated though, where the man really couldn't pop the question. And it cannot be taken as his fault.

makydebbie:
That's why they're mad na, they never see reasons.
Some situations are complicated though, where the man really couldn't pop the question. And it cannot be taken as his fault.

You could conceive, but you couldn't pop the question? Why?

Elparaiso:



You could conceive, but you couldn't pop the question? Why?

Maybe the woman isn't worth the question after all?

What abt single fathers??

makydebbie:
Maybe the woman isn't worth the question after all?

But she is though. OP wants to get married to her.

Also why would a man want to impregnate a woman he has no intention of marrying?

ouzo1:
What abt single fathers??

No crime bro. Love na free for all. Everyone is capable of loving and being loved.

Elparaiso:


But she is though. OP wants to get married to her.

Also why would a man want to impregnate a woman he has no intention of marrying?

Ever heard of; high libidos, one night stand, lust..?

makydebbie:
Ever heard of; high libidos, one night stand, lust..?

True sha. Contraceptives and abortion would have helped though.

Elparaiso:


True sha. Contraceptives and abortion would have helped though.

And we still have unwanted pregnancies? Abortion never helps, that's murder.

makydebbie:
And we still have unwanted pregnancies? Abortion never helps, that's murder.

Unwanted pregnancies are mistakes that can still be corrected. With procedures like abortion, nobody has to put their life on hold because of a mistake. Besides it's done when the fetus hasn't fully developed so it isn't technically murder.


Before you use the word "technically" against me, I know why I used it.

Nedfed:
Many of gals/ladies have came across happen to be a baby mama.
1. Is it that am destiny to marry a baby mama or is just a coincident?
2. Is there any crime in marrying a baby mama?
Kindly help with a gud advice

the question you need to ask yourself IS..... is there anything wrong with a babymama?!

Elparaiso:


Unwanted pregnancies are mistakes that can still be corrected. With procedures like abortion, nobody has to put their life on hold because of a mistake. Besides it's done when the fetus hasn't fully developed so it isn't technically murder.


Before you use the word "technically" against me, I know why I used it.

Jeez!
I'm not arguing with someone who justifies abortion.
A three months old fetus, is technically a baby.

makydebbie:
Jeez!
I'm not arguing with someone who justifies abortion.
A three months old fetus, is technically a baby.

Yes ma. Let it slide.

Elparaiso:


Yes ma. Let it slide.

I'm not ma.

makydebbie:
I'm not ma.

Sorry.

Elparaiso:

Sorry.

It's okay, no need for apologies.

To makydebbie,and Elparaiso
Tnx to u both
U both make a gud points.
It was my brother that wanna go into dis, he wants 2 marry a lady dat has already av an issue with anoda man but the family opposed.
Cos the baby daddy has being coming to our family house to warn us not to marry his baby mama.