[quote author=Funkybabee post=64168361]You too keep saying u don't have nah....but they warned u before[/quote
] instead of you to blame ur colleague in crime, u are blaming the guy abi?
Had it been he dumped her earlier, you would have be among people asking where is true love? Telling him that he is not man enough to stand for his woman or take his own decision. God is watching u people sha

keepingmum:
I dont understand what your anger is. She should have told you about the property shes building....YES
But have you built or acquired assets in your name alone during thr course of the marriage? Are ALL assets in the marriage acquired in both your names?
What is wrong in a woman owning a property to her name solely?
How has your relationship been during the course of your marriage?
Have you cheated ot given her course to doubt your loyalty and fidelity in the marriage?
Finally you talk about not beating or cursing her in the marriage.....are you expecting to be rewarded or given a medal?? Or you think its thr norm to be abusive to women?
You talk about maintaining 2 homes in lag and abuja so what about that? If you are tired relocate back to Lag or move your wife to Abj to join you.
There are people that maintain 4 homes ...one with the kids in uni...the other wifey stays there for work...3rd they stay there for their own work and then 4th extended family stays so what exactly are you doing that no other person has done?

Finally keep your family in check cos its clear from your write up your family has played a role in making your wife feel unsecured in her marriage

I just pray your wife will do that to you. U will come back to read what u wrote to console urself

Respects to the op, I pray for more blessings your way, may you be more elevated in life, thanks on behalf of all Men for dumping that woman.
I know it was hard but it was the right choice.

Guy, don't ever,ever look back

Adamrealman78:
She can't change. I saw this attitude long ago,but thought pure love and affection could reform her.if I continue in the relationship, she would ruin me into debt.

Like something is fundamentally wrong here. Divorce might be an option to me. Building a whole house without telling and denying it even when you know isn't small case. May God lead you through the right path

Adamrealman78:
After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

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The Presidency on Tuesday night requested the General Secretary of the Christian Association of Nigeria, CAN, Dr. Musa Asake, to
to face his religious responsibilities and not to meddle into politics.

The Senior Special Assistant to the President on Media and Publicity, Malam Garba Shehu stated this in response to the position of the CAN general secretary that the President Muhammadu Buhari administration poses a threat to democracy.

Reacting to killings by herdsmen
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Adamrealman78:
She can't change. I saw this attitude long ago,but thought pure love and affection could reform her.if I continue in the relationship, she would ruin me into debt.

Adamrealman78:
She can't change. I saw this attitude long ago,but thought pure love and affection could reform her.if I continue in the relationship, she would ruin me into debt.

Adamrealman78:
sorry for yourself, this happened last week Monday, on Tuesday I bleeped my new wife.she is on her way to Abuja to replace the other one.life goes on always have plan b,c,d-z

correct man. Men with plan B never get frustrated.

madridguy:
Divorce is not the answer sir.

is it the question?

Everything is wrong in a woman you call your wife not opening up to you despite going agsinst the wish of your parents. This man's pain is brewing from the fact he asked his wife for just 20k knowing she has 200k in her account. So if truly the chips were down, is this how he would have been treated? The OP is saddled with so much responsibilities, do you know the pressure he's facing after going against his parent's wishes and they are yet to have a child? If you do not understand the pain of a man pls do not aggravate it with your words. Divorce certainly might not be the best option but sometimes ladies need to be taught the hard way.

keepingmum:
I dont understand what your anger is. She should have told you about the property shes building....YES
But have you built or acquired assets in your name alone during thr course of the marriage? Are ALL assets in the marriage acquired in both your names?
What is wrong in a woman owning a property to her name solely?
How has your relationship been during the course of your marriage?
Have you cheated ot given her course to doubt your loyalty and fidelity in the marriage?
Finally you talk about not beating or cursing her in the marriage.....are you expecting to be rewarded or given a medal?? Or you think its thr norm to be abusive to women?
You talk about maintaining 2 homes in lag and abuja so what about that? If you are tired relocate back to Lag or move your wife to Abj to join you.
There are people that maintain 4 homes ...one with the kids in uni...the other wifey stays there for work...3rd they stay there for their own work and then 4th extended family stays so what exactly are you doing that no other person has done?

Finally keep your family in check cos its clear from your write up your family has played a role in making your wife feel unsecured in her marriage

Adamrealman78:
sorry for yourself, this happened last week Monday, on Tuesday I bleeped my new wife.she is on her way to Abuja to replace the other one.life goes on always have plan b,c,d-z

well done oga fire dey go. we the entire members both new and old wish you gud luck,but don't come back here and complain about ur New wife

keepingmum:
I dont understand what your anger is. She should have told you about the property shes building....YES
But have you built or acquired assets in your name alone during thr course of the marriage? Are ALL assets in the marriage acquired in both your names?
What is wrong in a woman owning a property to her name solely?
How has your relationship been during the course of your marriage?
Have you cheated ot given her course to doubt your loyalty and fidelity in the marriage?
Finally you talk about not beating or cursing her in the marriage.....are you expecting to be rewarded or given a medal?? Or you think its thr norm to be abusive to women?
You talk about maintaining 2 homes in lag and abuja so what about that? If you are tired relocate back to Lag or move your wife to Abj to join you.
There are people that maintain 4 homes ...one with the kids in uni...the other wifey stays there for work...3rd they stay there for their own work and then 4th extended family stays so what exactly are you doing that no other person has done?

Finally keep your family in check cos its clear from your write up your family has played a role in making your wife feel unsecured in her marriage

Some one came with a problem and needs advice, and this whole devils advocate thing is all you can come up with ?

And he seems like a man that could afford ivf
Why not give it a try

madridguy:
Divorce is not the answer sir.

Easy to say, when you are in his shoes, people like you will do worse.

Our situation is different sha but I wish both of you well. I have 4 adorable kids and I am planning to build a self contained house for my in-law in a couple of months but I pray my wife will secretly do that for me as a surprise

Adamrealman78:
After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

I would advice you not to divorce her. Be a man and take control of the whole matter. The saying "for better for worst" , is not just mere words start applying it now. Take a break,think and act wiselu

keepingmum:
I dont understand what your anger is. She should have told you about the property shes building....YES
But have you built or acquired assets in your name alone during thr course of the marriage? Are ALL assets in the marriage acquired in both your names?
What is wrong in a woman owning a property to her name solely?
How has your relationship been during the course of your marriage?
Have you cheated ot given her course to doubt your loyalty and fidelity in the marriage?
Finally you talk about not beating or cursing her in the marriage.....are you expecting to be rewarded or given a medal?? Or you think its thr norm to be abusive to women?
You talk about maintaining 2 homes in lag and abuja so what about that? If you are tired relocate back to Lag or move your wife to Abj to join you.
There are people that maintain 4 homes ...one with the kids in uni...the other wifey stays there for work...3rd they stay there for their own work and then 4th extended family stays so what exactly are you doing that no other person has done?

Finally keep your family in check cos its clear from your write up your family has played a role in making your wife feel unsecured in her marriage

The above is crap. Op story was clear enuf. he expected the wife to be open but he got was betrayal and you are typing this bullshit. Op, kindly withdraw all husband responsibility towards her. let her take the cue from there. don't touch her nor try to talk to her about it. Let her marry her so called successes and move on.

For better for worse...

Adamrealman78:
After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

Not nice like seriously what the hell was she thinking if she'll build a house let it be in you guys name...... but I still don't know why some ladies behave like this..... a man is showing you love and your mumu level is on a long thing..... the only problem I have with men is if they don't love their wives..... but you're showing her love and care despite all this year's of barrenness I just don't want to go hard on her cause she's your wife.......please if you're married or in a relationship there are something's you shouldn't do when angry biko..... I wish

Adamrealman78:
,her test results show, blocked fallopian tubes, uterine fibroids and no ovulation.. What magic do you expect I do?

I believed your story till I read this. If this is true and you've not tried surgery to remove the fibroids and then IVF, then its you that doesn't want a chid.

When you got the job in Abuja, why not get shop for here there too. So you can be together and control better your finances So that she won't run you aground

Adamrealman78:
sorry for yourself, this happened last week Monday, on Tuesday I bleeped my new wife.she is on her way to Abuja to replace the other one.life goes on always have plan b,c,d-z

No time to waste time....life always go on

Adamrealman78:
After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

Don't let inferiority or ego cloud your judgement bro, obviously there have been other issues you didn't talk about here, what made her go build a house of her own, she must have been afraid her future isn't secure with you, have you considered that?

Iseoluwani:
What an elder sees while sitting, even if you climb cocoa tree, una no go see am... They warned you, you said their mouth is smelling.... Broda, carry your cross..

Divorce isn't an option


Your problem started when your parents never blessed your union.. But toto won't make u think well



Oyo is your case.

Madridguy, that place isn't for you, you stole it continue ooo



Op...

If u don't have anything else to say just ignore, must u insult the op? Haba

anibirelawal:
DIVORCE HER before she get you killed...

For sure.

OP, please divorce her like yesterday. In fact throw her out like dirty underwear.

Don’t even bother spending good money on a bad investment.

If indeed this nonsense is true, then I am sure your first wife will have a different side to this story.

Leaving her on Monday and getting another woman on Tuesday, sums everything up!

Adamrealman78:
After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

My brother u have seen the light. That's basically why ee say if ur parents who trained and watched over u object to a lady to marry. Listen attentively 1st cos dey may be seeing wat ure not! Ur judgement is not at its best wen judging a person u love.

Bt let me ask was she like dis b4? If No then It cud be the pressures of delay in childbirth and uncertainty and advice from her family. Shes trying to protect herself from bring homeless and on the street one day. Shes on self preservation Mode which is only normal looking at d fact ur family didnt like her.

U need to know if she still loves u and wants to stay in the marriage. Then give her the assurance not by money alone bt love. She maybe going tru alot.

Vyolet:
Imagine o, all these men know is to see that a woman suffers and loses in everything.
She has been married to you for 6years,no child, you went ahead to marry another woman which your wife is aware of,as well as all your other escapades all in a bid to father a child, now you expect her to carry you along in all her plans as who exactly? She moved on faster than you and doesn't want to be left behind. It will be her fault when she loses her marriage with no child nor any asset to compensate for the years she wasted with you. African women are getting wiser, the world does not revolve around men alone.

A piece of advice, check again to be sure you are not the one with infertility problem, once you new wife says she is pregnant, be sure to do a DNA test after the delivery.

Are you guys intentionally ignoring the part where he said that even though she never informed him before building the house, she asked for 800k for roofing which he obliged but when he asked her for just 20k she refused? Am I the only one that saw that part?

Women, you can never know them. There was a man who rented a house close to 10 years not knowing that the house actually belonged to the wife.

amazon14:
She is right you know. If your parents didn't chase her out because of childlessness, you will eventually bring another woman at long run. Trying to divorce her have confirmed her fears

How did u arrive at that conclusion? So you knowv the OP more than himself?

Adamrealman78:
After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

Mr.man call her and have a heart to heart talk with her. Ending the marriage isn't the solution

Adamrealman78:
sorry for yourself, this happened last week Monday, on Tuesday I bleeped my new wife.she is on her way to Abuja to replace the other one.life goes on always have plan b,c,d-z

Oga fear God na. No be so dem dey do something o! You really vex gan.

OP just divorce the mur'fvcker