yesoo:

i married my husband as a virgin but have endured marriage since i got hooked.my hubby is always tired and not in the mood for lovemaking.i always initiate the act.most times i'm turned down.infact,i am fed up.i've spoken to him concerning this and he keeps telling me that[b] he felt i was his kind of person that doesnt like intimacy that was one of the reasons he married[/b] me.what else do you think i should do to make him like it.suggestions are highly welcomed(meanwhile i am a mother of two kids)

@labiyemmy:

then you didnt marry him as a virgin - you lied to him?

rokiatu:

I'm sorry, but you married a non-sexual person.
Since he's been this way a long time, the chances that he'll change are quite low. frankly if it was always low desire for intimacy,
then you got into this knowingly. dont try to change him/it anymore

yesoo:

Thanks jennykadry:ive actually tried soo many things to lure him to enjoy intimacy but all to no avail.the only time he succumbed to my desire soo freely without much aguements was when i told him he was indirectly pushing me out to have sexual partners outside wedlock.this really hurt him and we made love that day.infact,that month was one of my best months as a married woman.after some time he changed to his 'I'm not in the mood attitude'

jennykadry:

not true,all hope is not lost, alot of pple lose interest cos they find their partner boring, or have some emotional problem that they need to see a psychologist or a counselor for, in this case these is marriage, and sacrifices should be made, that is both of them should be able to meet at the middle

rokiatu:

You have a point, and since you are married, I wouldn't argue with you

yesoo: I'm fed up of all of these.I'v tried all u'v said and as well decided to b patient with him but the issue has gotten out of hand.The moment you complain about his attitude towards sex he changes for few weeks(say 2weeks)and returns to his old attitude

ileobatojo: I hate to be the one to say it but have you considered the possibility that your husband is on the downlow? Him saying he chose you because he felt your sex drive would be low sounds very suspicious to me.

jidegirl12:

You mean cheating! did I just say that?

ileobatojo: I hate to be the one to say it but have you considered the possibility that your husband is on the downlow? Him saying he chose you because he felt your sex drive would be low sounds very suspicious to me.

debrief08:
No she meant he might be gay and just married to fulfill all righteousness,

debrief08:
No she meant he might be gay and just married to fulfill all righteousness,

baby_123:



A big possibility as being gay is a sin in Nigeria. So many gay men are married to unsuspecting gullible girls who dont know the signs. trust me, a lot of Nigerian's are very gullible when it comes to gays. It could also be that the guy is older and has some erectile or sexual issues. Any hot blooded man that can resist his sexy naked wife is suspect.

yesoo: Thank you soo much for responses.@Chaircover;I doubt he has any medical condition cos we both have 2children.But I must say I was the one that virtually forced him those days I conceived.As for being gay I really can't say,he comes back home immediately he's done with work&at weekends we visit our family members.I'm really soooo sad and honestly wish I had known his lack of interest before we tied the not

yesoo: Thank you soo much for responses.@Chaircover;I doubt he has any medical condition cos we both have 2children.But I must say I was the one that virtually forced him those days I conceived.As for being gay I really can't say,he comes back home immediately he's done with work&at weekends we visit our family members.I'm really soooo sad and honestly wish I had known his lack of interest before we tied the not

yesoo: Thank you soo much for responses.@Chaircover;I doubt he has any medical condition cos we both have 2children.But I must say I was the one that virtually forced him those days I conceived.As for being gay I really can't say,he comes back home immediately he's done with work&at weekends we visit our family members.I'm really soooo sad and honestly wish I had known his lack of interest before we tied the not

yesoo: Thank you for the responses.
@Chaircover:I don't think he has a medical problem.We have 2children together.
As of being gay,I really can't say cos he comes back home immediately after work and during weekends we both visit our family members.So when cld he have had the time to engage in such act
Please I'll appreciate any more suggestions.I'm gradually beginning to loose my sanity

yesoo: Thank you for the responses.
@Chaircover:I don't think he has a medical problem.We have 2children together.
As of being gay,I really can't say cos he comes back home immediately after work and during weekends we both visit our family members.So when cld he have had the time to engage in such act
Please I'll appreciate any more suggestions.I'm gradually beginning to loose my sanity

yesoo: i was a virgin when i married my husband but have endured marriage since i got hooked.my hubby is always tired and not in the mood for lovemaking.i always initiate the act.most times i'm turned down.infact,i am fed up.i've spoken to him concerning this and he keeps telling me that he felt i was his kind of person that doesnt like intimacy that was one of the reasons he married me.what else do you think i should do to make him like it.suggestions are highly welcomed(meanwhile i am a mother of two kids)

P406:
@ yesoo, have you had an affair in these 2years?I am just curious because of your expression above.I for one,truely have no councel to give.