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Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by nalijah07(f): 7:45pm On Apr 22, 2010 |
How do you mentally prepare youself for this type of conversation? How do you deal with the emotional effect it will have on the other person? I was prompted to ask this question from another topic on nairaland- https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-880.0.html |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by snowdrops(m): 7:46pm On Apr 22, 2010 |
It is only being honest. You need to free them from an unreciprocated loveless relationship. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Nobody: 7:55pm On Apr 22, 2010 |
It's best to tell them, rather than allow them to live a lie, and give them false hope. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by snowdrops(m): 8:02pm On Apr 22, 2010 |
I cant agree more. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Mmmbop: 8:05pm On Apr 22, 2010 |
It's both |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by nalijah07(f): 8:08pm On Apr 22, 2010 |
I think it is worse for the person who has to deliver this news |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Orikinla(m): 8:11pm On Apr 22, 2010 |
The sooner you know the truth the better. But it is best to be sure, so that the dog will not return to its vomit later. I have seen a case of someone who later regretted it. How can you love someone and then you do not love the person anymore later? When the sweet grape becomes sour? Does true love expire? I advise that it is best to be sure before saying so. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by labiyemmy(m): 8:14pm On Apr 22, 2010 |
it is being honest - you are telling them the truth/. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Kgdavid(m): 2:29am On Apr 23, 2010 |
its both. honesty and cruelty are not mutually exclusive. in fact they can even be said to be directly proportional and thats why its called the[i] ugly[/i] truth. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by iice(f): 3:49am On Apr 23, 2010 |
It's cruel to lie and aid another in his/her delusions. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by snowdrops(m): 4:54am On Apr 23, 2010 |
Be ready for any repercussions though; eg a slap lol |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by daduke2k(m): 5:02am On Apr 23, 2010 |
Get serious dawg. By telin d truth, u free he/she frm emotional bondage. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Areaboy2(m): 11:31am On Apr 23, 2010 |
@ poster, there is no such thing as not loving someone anymore, just goes to show that u never did love them in the first place, its as simple as that, |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Nobody: 11:47am On Apr 23, 2010 |
nothing cruel about it, its just the honest truth. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by kemisuga(f): 1:44pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
Honest truth! Dont need to beat about the bush. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by nalijah07(f): 2:52pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
@ area boy - I think that is a matter of opinion. People love differently. You definition of love is not the same as someone else. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by cindy200(f): 3:48pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
Honest definitely. It will save u both in d end. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by indie22(f): 4:27pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
It's kinda painful to have that said to you, but i guess in the end it makes sense to tell someone you dnt love them anymore, if you feel that way. what a way to break up tho! |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by olayinkaj2(m): 4:35pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
If u know u wouldn't love them later on then don't love them in the 1st place. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by fashionkid(m): 4:39pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
Just tell them.i know its nt d easiest thing in d world 2 do.but trust me it beter dan dragin d relationship out of pity |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Flashfast1: 4:48pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
I think its honest to do so. But if it's done in an insensitive manner then it becomes cruel. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Nobody: 4:59pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
I think it's both! I mean why did you use the L-word before if you knew you didnt mean it Why continue saying it when it's a lie |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Flashfast1: 5:12pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
Ujujoan: Its possible you meant it while you were saying it. Maybe some where along the line the love just withered away. Like they say, love is like a flower that needs to be nurtured and cared for otherwise it dies. For instance, I know some folks that have gotten divorced after decades of marriage. I mean if you can fall in love you can equally fall out of it (although not easily). |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by ruskiee(m): 5:25pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
It's cruel. . . but the honesty overshadows that,i think |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Voned(f): 5:50pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
Flashfast1:I think no matter what form is been said as far as the other person loves u it will still hurt, just imagine someone you ve been dating and love so much came crying to you or begging you and telling you she loves you no more |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Flashfast1: 6:04pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
Voned: Of couse I know that given the circumstance, there is no way that you can possibly put it for it not to hurt. But my point is that you should try and make it easier and lighter for the person to take. That way it won't be seen as cruel. Though it will still hurt but the person won't feel as bad as when you just drop the bomb without taking into consideration how the person will feel. For example you may first try to make the person understand that the fault is not theirs (even when its a lie). You may also say nice things you'll miss about them before droping the bomb. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Voned(f): 6:57pm On Apr 23, 2010 |
Flashfast1:yeah you are right, the important thing is that the person will heal with time |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by InesQor(m): 5:18pm On Apr 24, 2010 |
Be very honest And if necessary, be cruel about it. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by agathamari(f): 5:50pm On Apr 24, 2010 |
its honest |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by unitee(f): 8:35pm On Apr 24, 2010 |
Truth breaks no friendship |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by topup: 12:33am On Apr 25, 2010 |
It's not cruel to tell someone you don't love them, what is cruel is telling them you love them when you don't, to make them believe that the feelings are mutual once you've discovered that you no longer care. |
Re: Is It Cruel Or Honest To Tell Someone You Don't Love Them Anymore? by Bluhazel: 1:08am On Apr 25, 2010 |
It's good to tell them the truth but most girls don't love honesty. |
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