Please I need advice on this urgently

I have a niece who I love so much. She stays with her grandmother (her father has passed) and the woman has been complaining that she is misbehaving and sometimes goes out and return late. Mind you she is just 17, I have been intervening and trying to talk to her and she seems to listen to me. But there was a time a paid them a surprise visit (we are about 10 hrs apart ) and this girl went out without even telling me or the grandmother and I had to give her two slaps in the morning, because I was so pissed off for the utter disregard to my presence and what I have been telling her, but I later apologised to her and spoke to her to stop what she is doing. That was in December.

Yesterday again work brought me to their region and I decided to lodge with them. She has gone to school while the the grandmother went to the market. So I am alone in the house. I don't know what pushed me but I looked beside her bed and I found packs of pregnancy prevention pills.

I am so disheartened and confused at the same time. I don't know how to approach her because I am not sure beating her will yield positive results but I am so angry and disappointed in her. Because honestly, I sometimes think the old lady exaggerates her doings because the looks so innocent.

I need advice from experienced people in the house.

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If at 17, she already has a stockpile of birth control pills at her disposal, my inference from this is she's not a rookie anymore and also an ardent fan of unprotected sex.

I don't think you can make her stop to be honest, once they start at that age they don't stop, not with all those adolescent hormones raging.
The best you can do is advise her to keep to just one sexual partner and replace her collection of birth control pills with a collection of condoms. Pregnancy isn't the only outcome she should be worried about from having unprotected sex.

Where is her mother and why isn't she living with her?

Statistics have proven that children who are under the guardianship of a grandmother become more socially exposed to negative vices than those living with biological parents. I haven't seen a mother or father who will take kindly to their 17year old daughter returning home late.

She's almost an adult, and if we must be honest and truthful, you know how weird and sexually exposed a boy or girl of 17 can be these days, I think it'll be difficult to stop her so long as she's still staying with her grandmother, but it's not impossible to STOP REDUCE her sexual drives.

If her lifestyles really bothers you, then you'v got to make a sacrifice, what sacrifice?

Get your grandmother a helper and take her along with you for a proper watch and discipline, if you seems to be a busy type that doesn't stay at home that much, then you can register her in any girls boarding school.

NOTE: Do well to know that any of all these doings won't STOP her from knowing a man, it can only REDUCE her sexual mindset.


And Biko!.. Don't allow her seduce you oo

OP
No fear
Na normal thing

I think you mean niece not nephew. Nephew is for male.

crackhaus:
If at 17, she already has a stockpile of birth control pills at her disposal, my inference from this is she's not a rookie anymore and also an ardent fan of unprotected sex.

I don't think you can make her stop to be honest, once they start at that age they don't stop, not with all those adolescent hormones raging.
The best you can do is advise her to keep to just one sexual partner and replace her collection of birth control pills with a collection of condoms. Pregnancy isn't the only outcome she should be worried about from having unprotected sex.

Where is her mother and why isn't she living with her?

Statistics have proven that children who are under the guardianship of a grandmother become more socially exposed to negative vices than those living with biological parents. I haven't seen a mother or father who will take kindly to their 17year old daughter returning home late.

Thank you so much for your input. The grandmother insisted she stay with her so she could help her. When we disagreed she sounded like we wanted to deprive her of her grand child.

What of her mother??.... Where is she .... I mean Wia is that motherly slap that can reset a girls hard drive to default setting.... she needs such.. 3x daily for 3 month.. Thank me later

harryfeese:
I think you mean niece not nephew. Nephew is for male.

Yes please, thank you for the correction.

I would advice you first of all change her location. Get her really busy and above all,always have heart-hheart talk with her on regular basis.

You can also take her around to see how those that engaged in those things early have ended up.

Finally,if you think her libido is just too her,get her married asap and let her continue with her education there,that way,she can minimise the fornication.

PS:Don't forget to back all these up with fervent prayers.all the best.

donstan18:
She's almost an adult, and if we must be honest and truthful, you know how weird and sexually exposed a boy or girl of 17 can be these days, I think it'll be difficult to stop her so long as she's still staying with her grandmother, but it's not impossible to STOP REDUCE her sexual drives.

If her lifestyles really bothers you, then you'v got to make a sacrifice, what sacrifice?

Get your grandmother a helper and take her along with you for a proper watch and discipline, if you seems to be a busy type that doesn't stay at home that much, then you can register her in any girls boarding school.

NOTE: Do well to know that any of all these doings won't STOP her from knowing a man, it can only REDUCE her sexual mindset.


And Biko!.. Don't allow her seduce you oo

Thank you so much for your advice and I promise you she can never seduce me lol.

Hybridz:
I would advice you first of all change her location. Get her really busy and above all,always have heart-hheart talk with her on regular basis.

You can also take her around to see how those that engaged in those things early have ended up.

Finally,if you think her libido is just too her,get her married asap and let her continue with her education there,that way,she can minimise the fornication.

PS:Don't forget to back all these up with fervent prayers.all the best.

Yeah, thank you a lot.

Amoshie:


Yeah, thank you a lot.

You welcome bro!

Amoshie:


Thank you so much for your input. The grandmother insisted she stay with her so she could help her. When we disagreed she sounded like we wanted to deprive her of her grand child.

This is funny. So her mum is even in the picture and this is happening?

Take that girl back to her mum, grannie has failed and I don't blame her. She should be enjoying old age in peace and not meant to keep tabs on a teen.

Amoshie:


Thank you so much for your advice and I promise you she can never seduce me lol.

Why don't you take her then?

crackhaus:

Why don't you take her then?

I have just started working and I want her to complete her O levels. She is in SS2 and I don't want to abrupt her studies.

Take her shopping and then have a sit down with her. your duty is to present her with evidences of what she's likely up against.

HIV/STI'S/STD'S or 9 months relegation. Take her to an abortion clinic if possible to witness things first hand or get her YouTube videos.

crackhaus:

This is funny. So her mum is even in the picture and this is happening?

Take that girl back to her mum, grannie has failed and I don't blame her. She should be enjoying old age in peace and not meant to keep tabs on a teen.

I doubt if the mother can handle because she is those soft and emotional ladies. She their last with her and I see how she struggles to control him whenever I visit. I am considering taking her myself but I want to get settled properly.

Amoshie:


I doubt if the mother can handle because she is those soft and emotional ladies. She their last with her and I see how she struggles to control him whenever I visit. I am considering taking her myself but I want to get settled properly.

Good idea

Chubhie:
Take her shopping and then have a sit down with her. your duty is to present her with evidences of what she's likely up against.

HIV/STI'S/STD'S or 9 months relegation. Take her to an abortion clinic if possible to witness things first hand or get her YouTube videos.

I can testify to the wonders of this...

Bring her for proper counselling.....

Good advice up there. I think change of environment will help cos once girl don know man for dat age, na pregnancy and subsequent abandonment fit stop her.