Hi guys it's been a while ...I've been lurking but haven't seen any serious topic for a long time .

I was thinking the other day and I asked myself when it comes to marriage is there anyone without red flags . Well you see most people go to the internet with their problems in relationships and marriage . And you always see comments like didn't you see the signs ? Red flags .

Questions to think about and respond ?
1. What are major and minor red flags ? What can you cope with or what's your deal breaker .

2. Do you think that you don't have red flag trait or behaviour ?

3. If your partner can cope with that character trait ...does that mean it's not a red flag ?

4. What is your red flag ? And how do you expect your partner to cope with this .

5. What's the weirdest weird flag you have ever experienced or heard of ?

Thanks will be reading comments . Let's discuss .

Info on my state of mind - not married not really into the idea of it .

what's red flag?

tobianthony:
Hi guys it's been a while ...I've been lurking but haven't seen any serious topic for a long time .

I was thinking the other day and I asked myself when it comes to marriage is there anyone without red flags . Well you see most people go to the internet with their problems in relationships and marriage . And you always see comments like didn't you see the signs ? Red flags .

Questions to think about and respond ?
1. What are major and minor red flags ? What can you cope with or what's your deal breaker .

2. Do you think that you don't have red flag trait or behaviour ?

3. If your partner can cope with that character trait ...does that mean it's not a red flag ?

4. What is your red flag ? And how do you expect your partner to cope with this .

5. What's the weirdest weird flag you have ever experienced or heard of ?

Thanks will be reading comments . Let's discuss .

Info on my state of mind - not married not really into the idea of it .

1. I don't know what is "minor red flags". I'm a very black & white person. Either I'm with something or I'm totally against it.
I cannot deal with the following:
a) Cheating
b) Lies
c) Inconsistency

2. Yes, of course I do.

3. That's completely up to him what he can or cannot
cope with. With me, what you see is what you get.
Take it or leave it.

4. To put it succinctly, I can be emotionally unstable
Be patient. Or leave. I can't change this about
myself. It is what it is.

5. A cousin told me a story about a guy she dated for
3 months. In that 3 months they had sex only once
before she decided to end the relationship.
Reason: The guy suffered from premature
ejaculation, but he couldn't own up to it, instead he
blamed it on random things, like the position of the
bed! She said they spent almost half the night
pushing the bed around, just so the guy could be
satisfied with himself. Of course it never happened
because that was not the solution to his problem! I
found the story hilarious & odd.

XhosaNostra:


1. I don't know what is "minor red flags". I'm a very black & white person. Either I'm with something or I'm totally against it.
I cannot deal with the following:
a) Cheating
b) Lies
c) Inconsistency

2. Yes, of course I do.

3. That's completely up to him what he can or cannot
cope with. With me, what you see is what you get.
Take it or leave it.

4. To put it succinctly, I can be emotionally unstable
Be patient. Or leave. I can't change this about
myself. It is what it is.

5. A cousin told me a story about a guy she dated for
3 months. In that 3 months they had sex only once
before she decided to end the relationship.
Reason: The guy suffered from premature
ejaculation, but he couldn't own up to it, instead he
blamed it on random things, like the position of the
bed! She said they spent almost half the night
pushing the bed around, just so the guy could be
satisfied with himself. Of course it never happened
because that was not the solution to his problem! I
found the story hilarious & odd.

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Position of the bed laughing my ass off ...wow poor dude .

But don't we all lie ? Well I guess some are in the hall of fame of liars .

Thanks for sharing .

When you say emotionally unstable ...care to give an example ? You can use a fictional character for reference if it will make you more comfortable .

tobianthony:
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Position of the bed laughing my ass off ...wow poor dude .

But don't we all lie ? Well I guess some are in the hall of fame of liars .

Some people are pathological in their lying. Lying when it's not even necessary makes it difficult to build trust & put your guard at least mid-air

XhosaNostra:


1. I don't know what is "minor red flags". I'm a very black & white person. Either I'm with something or I'm totally against it.
I cannot deal with the following:
a) Cheating
b) Lies
c) Inconsistency

2. Yes, of course I do.

3. That's completely up to him what he can or cannot
cope with. With me, what you see is what you get.
Take it or leave it.

4. To put it succinctly, I can be emotionally unstable
Be patient. Or leave. I can't change this about
myself. It is what it is.

5. A cousin told me a story about a guy she dated for
3 months. In that 3 months they had sex only once
before she decided to end the relationship.
Reason: The guy suffered from premature
ejaculation, but he couldn't own up to it, instead he
blamed it on random things, like the position of the
bed! She said they spent almost half the night
pushing the bed around, just so the guy could be
satisfied with himself. Of course it never happened
because that was not the solution to his problem! I
found the story hilarious & odd.

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its this pre ejaculation that hits me like a hurricane........the worst of it is that the guy in question will never own up and work towards a better perfomance,rather he would claim its your fault

amakadihot87:
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its this pre ejaculation that hits me like a hurricane........the worst of it is that the guy in question will never own up and work towards a better perfomance,rather he would claim its your fault

LMAO. How will he even dare try to flip the script around? I'd simply tell him: Sorry I'm too hot for you to handle How is it a woman's fault you're a two pump chump? It wouldn't even bother me, I'd take it as a compliment

XhosaNostra:


LMAO. How will he even dare try to flip the script around? I'd simply tell him: Sorry I'm too hot for you to handle How is it a woman's fault you're a two pump chump? It wouldn't even bother me, I'd take it as a compliment

banana fall on you

Martin0:


banana fall on you

Lol, I will duck & dive.

XhosaNostra:

Lol, I will duck & dive.

hummm OK ooo banana girl