nkemdi89:

Staying alone is not the solution, when the time for your rightful husband to come, he will, so many men takes advantage of single ladies staying alone, they will always like to use your apartment as a getaway . free food, comfort and sex loading, you just have to be principled enough to stand your ground when living alone, because most men will perceive you as a vulnerable lady who no matter how strong she exhibits will always need a male around her. I am talking from experience because I started living alone since I was 18, your parents knows what they see.

ndy87:
My own is ever ready to make your life unbearable, wen your phone rings who is that? I want to go for reunion why is it in the evening? I want to Make my hair, pack your hair after all u have a long hair. Wat do I even do self. Last week it got to its peak and I rebelled Na so momsie cry for me like I kill person. Yesterday own was a tribe I cant marry from Na so she talk oo. And I just decided to be quiet, weekend is always annoying to me. Now its u cant marry him because he's from here and u are a christian, and dude created himself. One day Na to run comot from house for months wen she see me she go behave..

Tosinex:
eeyah sorry to hear that. I hope they will understand soon

Celepope:
So many people are suffering this same fate as yours.The aftermath is mentally wrecking.Even in western countries like America and UK where there is high level of freedom,Nigerian parents still want to dictate for their children.I went through same from my mum.When I finally left my parents home at my early twenties after graduating from college,I became a loosed canon.Any given opportunity I have with members of the opposite sex, I will want to make sure I get them down.I found it hard to settle with a girl because I was always searching for a lady whom my mum won't find any fault in.Up till now, me being in my mid thirties and with a good career,I still can't find that girl all because I want to please my mum.At 30 OP u stayed too long with them hopefully your life don't get screwed just as others are because of the draconian nature of Nigerian parents.May God help u in this step you are about to take.

Desirae:
Hello everyone.

I come from a very overprotective and irrational family. I just turned 30, I’m gainfully employed and doing so well in my career.

However, my social life is suffering. Most times I want to spend weekends with friends, or just hang out with colleagues after work, but by 7:00 I’ll already have over 15 calls from my parents asking if I’m on my way home. Yeah, I live with my parents.

Presently, I’ve been searching for an apartment so I would move out of their house. I need my freedom and independence. I feel like I can’t breathe!

Even weekends, when I decide to go out and chill with friends, they ask all manner of questions “who are you doing with, where are you going to, hope you’ll be back before 5”. Seriously! I’m 30 years old! And they’ll be the ones asking why I haven’t brought a husband. Where will I find him? In my office? Or in my bedroom?

The last straw was last week. My best friend lost her mum. When I told my own mum, her response was “oh she has finally died? Ehn, shey she’s been sick. Why do you now want to spend the weekend with her? For what”

I was furious, but I didn’t say a word so I won’t regret anything. How would she feel if her husband died and someone said “oh he’s finally dead?” Even my dad doesn’t help matters! How insensitive could people be?! They seem to forget death is inevitable. And anyone can go at anytime.

I’ve made up my mind to move out this month. I love them, I wish them well, but I can’t do all of this madness with them. I’m done being controlled and told what to do and what not to do. I’m not a kid. Most of my mates have more than 2 children.

I love them, but I’m done!

AreaFada2:


Look, most of the educated parents who left villages or semi-rural areas to bigger towns early in life got their freedom early. Just like you mentioned. Their time was a libertarian one. From the 1960s upwards. In that time many were up to no good and made mistakes while being students or young employees in the cities. Despite regaling you with stories of how decent they were, most actually weren't.

I have been shocked lately to find out just how many of the women got married because they got pregnant in the mid 1960s to 1980s! Those still alive are now about 55 to 75 years old. I thought pregnancy out of wedlock was VERY rare back then. It wasn't.

So many parents have secret regrets from own mistakes. They are trying to ensure their children do not do same.

It might seem hypocritical to expect you to keep very high standards they couldn't back then. But maybe they believe their own parents failed them through inadequate guidance. And they do not want to do same.

We are lately also in an era of conservative religious revival. The opinions of church members/clergy matter once again to parents.

They are basically trying to live the "perfect" life through their children. The result is parents becoming over-protective.

OP should make it clear that she wants to be close to her place of work if possible. Or any such half-way plausible excuse. They will be riled by it initially but will ultimately accept it.

Wagasigiungu:


Orisirisi something!!! Wonders shall never end. My people say who get cap no get head and who get head no get cap!!! Pls OP desist from using that word- despise- on your parents. There are literally millions of people desperately wishing they could have the love, attention and care (albeit suffocating according to you) of their parents, but alas, this can never be!!!!

Some don't even know their parents, some have lost theirs to the cold hands of death, some were never shown such love by their parents. The list is endless.

What am i driving at- appreciate what you have and look for a nice way to let them know how you feel. They obviously want the best and are looking out for you. How would you feel if you become a parent in future and your kids say such things about you?


[Addition] How would you feel if your future husband you love so much stays out very late into the night and you voice out your concerns for his late nights (out of love and care of course), but he sees it as you nagging and suffocating him with your actions (note that a spouse's love is very very minimal compared to that of parents IMO)

You are a very lucky person, you just don't realize it yet. As humans, we never appreciate what we have until we loose it (i pray this isn't your portion though)

A word, they say is enough for the wise!!!

Desirae:
Hello everyone.

I come from a very overprotective and irrational family. I just turned 30, I’m gainfully employed and doing so well in my career.

However, my social life is suffering. Most times I want to spend weekends with friends, or just hang out with colleagues after work, but by 7:00 I’ll already have over 15 calls from my parents asking if I’m on my way home. Yeah, I live with my parents.

Presently, I’ve been searching for an apartment so I would move out of their house. I need my freedom and independence. I feel like I can’t breathe!

Even weekends, when I decide to go out and chill with friends, they ask all manner of questions “who are you doing with, where are you going to, hope you’ll be back before 5”. Seriously! I’m 30 years old! And they’ll be the ones asking why I haven’t brought a husband. Where will I find him? In my office? Or in my bedroom?

The last straw was last week. My best friend lost her mum. When I told my own mum, her response was “oh she has finally died? Ehn, shey she’s been sick. Why do you now want to spend the weekend with her? For what”

I was furious, but I didn’t say a word so I won’t regret anything. How would she feel if her husband died and someone said “oh he’s finally dead?” Even my dad doesn’t help matters! How insensitive could people be?! They seem to forget death is inevitable. And anyone can go at anytime.

I’ve made up my mind to move out this month. I love them, I wish them well, but I can’t do all of this madness with them. I’m done being controlled and told what to do and what not to do. I’m not a kid. Most of my mates have more than 2 children.

I love them, but I’m done!

9Ebisco:
BBNaija: I'm In Love With Denrele Edun -- Alex Reveals


Alex who is a housemate in the ongoing big brother Nigerian has spoken out on people that inspire her and those that are disappointing.

During a honest question and answer session last night in the house, when asked if anyone inspires her, she said Missy Elliot, Cynthia Morgan regarding her style and hair color.

When she was going on mentioning these names, she quickly mentioned Denrele Edun which she corrected saying he was a disappointment.

According to her Denrele disappointed her prior to her coming to Big Brother Nigerian house.

After she found out she was going to be on Big Brother Naija, she reached out to Denrele, and after they talked, he refused to be there for her. She said he stopped answering her calls and DMs and totally avoided her.

Despite all of this, she said she is still in love for him and loves the way he expresses himself fashion wise.

Alex has said that since coming to the BBNaija house the only thing she did that she has regretted doing is crying when Leo was evicted in the house.

http://www.mcebisco.com.ng/2018/03/bbnaija-im-in-love-with-denrele-edun.html

Desirae:
Hello everyone.

I come from a very overprotective and irrational family. I just turned 30, I’m gainfully employed and doing so well in my career.

However, my social life is suffering. Most times I want to spend weekends with friends, or just hang out with colleagues after work, but by 7:00 I’ll already have over 15 calls from my parents asking if I’m on my way home. Yeah, I live with my parents.

Presently, I’ve been searching for an apartment so I would move out of their house. I need my freedom and independence. I feel like I can’t breathe!

Even weekends, when I decide to go out and chill with friends, they ask all manner of questions “who are you doing with, where are you going to, hope you’ll be back before 5”. Seriously! I’m 30 years old! And they’ll be the ones asking why I haven’t brought a husband. Where will I find him? In my office? Or in my bedroom?

The last straw was last week. My best friend lost her mum. When I told my own mum, her response was “oh she has finally died? Ehn, shey she’s been sick. Why do you now want to spend the weekend with her? For what”

I was furious, but I didn’t say a word so I won’t regret anything. How would she feel if her husband died and someone said “oh he’s finally dead?” Even my dad doesn’t help matters! How insensitive could people be?! They seem to forget death is inevitable. And anyone can go at anytime.

I’ve made up my mind to move out this month. I love them, I wish them well, but I can’t do all of this madness with them. I’m done being controlled and told what to do and what not to do. I’m not a kid. Most of my mates have more than 2 children.

I love them, but I’m done!

OvaSabi1:


I did not say anyone was spewing thrash. You need to calm down with the exclamation marks. An exclamation mark means you're shouting and that is rude. You also need to stop mansplaining.

Stallion93:
Very selfish, they just don't reason normally and that's the reason they're lots of confused youngsters out on the streets, they don't teach their kids how to be human with intergrity and independent rather they focus on their selfish desires so when the kids forcefully leave them or they the parents die; the whole world becomes like a Mazed labyrinth.

MasterRahl:
Its pathetic bro. That's why some 30 year olds can't take sound decisions. Too bad!!! I left my parents house when the exchange of words was becoming too much.

OvaSabi1:


She's not spewing trash. It's not by force to love your parents if they are bad to you. Just because they contributed sperm and egg to make you doesn't make them parents. It has been proven that black children are being held back from taking risks, in comparison to other races because of fear of reprimand from parents. If Zukerberg and Bill Gates were black there won't be Microsoft nor Facebook. A typical naija parent will disown you if you drop out of Harvard. Look at the way Parkland High school shooting survivors were confronting their senators over gun laws. In Nigeria, your senators will call you children of anger and you will cower in fear. Is it not this nairaland you will see a father that slept with his child or throw a child inside a well because of witchcraft suspicion? If you have a good relationship with your parents, that's great. But you can't speak for everybody. Let me tell you something Mr. 40 something year old man, there's a thin line between being possessive and being caring. The case with this poster, it's a control thing and not a love thing. There's a big difference. There are many of your mates that resent their parents for decisions they made for them. Be it career or maybe they didn't allow them marry who they want. Even some of our parents don't like our grandparents. Sit them down and observe... there's always that grandparent that they don't like talking about. They will quickly change topic or their mood will change.

coputa:
What is all this crave for freedom by the youths even when it's crystally clear that they are not ripe it.The fact that you're 30 years old or that you've gotten a degree does not make you matured.some of you will come over to social media to complain about your parents over protective attitude without also telling us your childish/not ready to learn attitude.some of you cannot even boil indomie or wash your cloth clean or some basic life etiquette.wearing saggy pant and opening your legs wide does not make you ripe for freedom.Stay with your parents and open your mind to learn,no parent will give their child scorpion instead of food.

OvaSabi1:


I did not say anyone was spewing thrash. You need to calm down with the exclamation marks. An exclamation mark means you're shouting and that is rude. You also need to stop mansplaining.

OvaSabi1:


I did not say anyone was spewing thrash. You need to calm down with the exclamation marks. An exclamation mark means you're shouting and that is rude. You also need to stop mansplaining.

Desirae:
Hello everyone.

I come from a very overprotective and irrational family. I just turned 30, I’m gainfully employed and doing so well in my career.

However, my social life is suffering. Most times I want to spend weekends with friends, or just hang out with colleagues after work, but by 7:00 I’ll already have over 15 calls from my parents asking if I’m on my way home. Yeah, I live with my parents.

Presently, I’ve been searching for an apartment so I would move out of their house. I need my freedom and independence. I feel like I can’t breathe!

Even weekends, when I decide to go out and chill with friends, they ask all manner of questions “who are you doing with, where are you going to, hope you’ll be back before 5”. Seriously! I’m 30 years old! And they’ll be the ones asking why I haven’t brought a husband. Where will I find him? In my office? Or in my bedroom?

The last straw was last week. My best friend lost her mum. When I told my own mum, her response was “oh she has finally died? Ehn, shey she’s been sick. Why do you now want to spend the weekend with her? For what”

I was furious, but I didn’t say a word so I won’t regret anything. How would she feel if her husband died and someone said “oh he’s finally dead?” Even my dad doesn’t help matters! How insensitive could people be?! They seem to forget death is inevitable. And anyone can go at anytime.

I’ve made up my mind to move out this month. I love them, I wish them well, but I can’t do all of this madness with them. I’m done being controlled and told what to do and what not to do. I’m not a kid. Most of my mates have more than 2 children.

I love them, but I’m done!

ndy87:



U wont understand o. 31 yrs old lady with a masters degree. Then she keeps telling you how men are not good and how u don't need a Man. Mommy oooo

OvaSabi1:


I did not say anyone was spewing thrash. You need to calm down with the exclamation marks. An exclamation mark means you're shouting and that is rude. You also need to stop mansplaining.

destinyy23:
This comment is kinda annoying. Now listen, I have excessively domineering parents, I do all the cooking, cleaning etc at home(my mum hardly does all that when I'm around) but why can't I just have some freedom? Not like I'm wayward or something. They don't care if you're happy with what they tryna impose on you. What do you call that?

Desirae:
Hello everyone.

I come from a very overprotective and irrational family. I just turned 30, I’m gainfully employed and doing so well in my career.

However, my social life is suffering. Most times I want to spend weekends with friends, or just hang out with colleagues after work, but by 7:00 I’ll already have over 15 calls from my parents asking if I’m on my way home. Yeah, I live with my parents.

Presently, I’ve been searching for an apartment so I would move out of their house. I need my freedom and independence. I feel like I can’t breathe!

Even weekends, when I decide to go out and chill with friends, they ask all manner of questions “who are you doing with, where are you going to, hope you’ll be back before 5”. Seriously! I’m 30 years old! And they’ll be the ones asking why I haven’t brought a husband. Where will I find him? In my office? Or in my bedroom?

The last straw was last week. My best friend lost her mum. When I told my own mum, her response was “oh she has finally died? Ehn, shey she’s been sick. Why do you now want to spend the weekend with her? For what”

I was furious, but I didn’t say a word so I won’t regret anything. How would she feel if her husband died and someone said “oh he’s finally dead?” Even my dad doesn’t help matters! How insensitive could people be?! They seem to forget death is inevitable. And anyone can go at anytime.

I’ve made up my mind to move out this month. I love them, I wish them well, but I can’t do all of this madness with them. I’m done being controlled and told what to do and what not to do. I’m not a kid. Most of my mates have more than 2 children.

I love them, but I’m done!