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Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by duduade: 8:25am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Mutemenot: Sorry dear. Be strong 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Tolams16(m): 8:38am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Mutemenot:JESUS is the way. He can save and deliver u from any form of pain and give u enormous strength. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by boyjo: 8:41am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Mutemenot: Come here honey...*big big hugs*...sorry dear. So sorry. I am so sorry. God is your strength and comfort. Ndo oh? Sorry ehn...take heart 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by boyjo: 8:47am On Mar 27, 2018 |
arstot: Not true. I come to Nairaland to vent sometimes. Just knowing that people will respond is very comforting. He can`t cry before others in real life but knows that the humans on Nairaland will understand and offer him the comforting words his soul desperately needs. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by boyjo: 8:49am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Bjgirl1: ooooh! I`m so sorry Sweetie. This really got to me. You must have really loved yourselves. Wow! So painful. Sorry oooooo 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by redsun(m): 9:01am On Mar 27, 2018 |
The more dependent you are on your loved ones,the more you will missed them when they are dead.Love is selfish but if you try more to be selfless about it,the less heart broken you will be in the event of tragedy or disappointment. Death is the same as birth,it is inevitable,especially in nigeria where a contaminated glass of everyday water can kill you. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by ImaIma1(f): 9:01am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Prognose: True. Crying helps. It helps release the emotions and you feel lighter. Op you will be fine. I have lost both and i am fine. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Elviswifey1(f): 9:02am On Mar 27, 2018 |
The bible says in ecclesiastes 3-1-10.there is time for everything. Time to cry n time to be consoled so all I will tell u is that (time) heal all wounds.give it time,it will surely pass away,cry if u want to,feel free believe me u wont die but do not cry like them that have no hope.embrace d situation that's when u can be consoled.[color=#990000][/color]I have been there 2times so I know.sorry for ur loss.take hrt 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Nobody: 9:16am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Loosing someone close or something dear hurts so bad, You feel empty and worthless, the feeling of reality is savage will overwhelm you and nothing will matter anymore. This is the lowest point of any person life and soon enough depression might set it, crying wouldn't do nothing but to relive the momentary pain. Change location for some time, find new place and at this point, you are emotionally drained and vulnerable, you need love and lots of hug/cuddle to elevate your spirit. Hard bro.....Never lost any one that close and I have no right to tell how you how you feel but trust me, I respect this phase you going through. It's will pass, your brain is only having a hard time processing loss. when it does finally, you would also advice me when I get in your shoes. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by amokeme(f): 9:30am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Mutemenot:So sorry for the loss. Go through the pain and allow the pain go through you. Never try to suppress it, whenever you feel emotional? Please cry it out! Never allow all the "you are a man, be strong" get to you. You are first human before you are a man. I notice most consolers don't understand that kind of pain ( especially when you are very close to your father),some haven't been in your shoes before... so its easy to just say "it is well, he is in a better, be strong for your mum" everybody expects you to be strong for somebody, nobody really tells you to be strong for yourself. Which is sad. Be careful not to loose yourself to this situation (depends on the circumstances that surrounded his death.) Because getting your real self won't be easy. Now let me shock you, TIME is not going to heal the pain! No, it's not going to do that. You hear all the "time heals everything"? Is not applicable in this situation, so you can as well prepare your mind and don't think time will heal or take the pain away. TIME is only going to change the way you react towards the pain, not heal it. You see they are totally different. Lastly, and very importantly, please, surround yourself with good support system. Good friends, be happy, whatever it is you were doing before he died, be it a project, and exam, work or anything, get yourself busy with it. Don't let the grief stop you. Because your daddy is gone, abandoning anything you ought to do won't bring him back. Do them so you don't regret it later. Please and please take care of yourself, don't bottle any emotions you feel, everything is going to forever remind you of him, you can't escape that. So like I said earlier, go through the pain and allow the pain go through you. May the holy spirit comfort you and your family. Yeah... I'm talking from experience. It's been 4 years and it still seems like yesterday. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by xeros20(m): 9:32am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Mutemenot:sorry for the loss, u have to tell yourself that he is gone. my dad right now is in the mortuary. is so painful. I feel ur pains. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Analysiscorner: 9:39am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Nnaa, sorry. That’s how life is; but we must learn to let go. He has finished his earthly journey, and has been called home by his maker. The responsibility of living in this world and making your family better rests on your shoulders. Be strong and let go. I actually felt the same way when I lost my mum about four years ago. |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Rubyventures: 9:52am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Mutemenot: Sorry for your loss may his soul rest in peace. The pain is still very raw, the worst thing you can do is bottle it up. Talk about it, keep talking about it and cry when you need to. Also concentrate on the good times you had with your dad and consider yourself lucky to have had the opportunity to know this wonderful person. Then ask yourself will your Dad want you to be sad or in pain? He will want you to celebrate his life and move on but not forget him. Time is a great healer and later when you think of him it will bring smiles to your face. May the good Lord give you and your family the strength to overcome this great loss. Amen 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by amokeme(f): 10:04am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Bjgirl1:Crying won't bring him back... you need good support system. My mum was in your shoes, she could help, if you don't mind. |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by iamtardey: 10:16am On Mar 27, 2018 |
I'm not sure but TIME will heal the pain for sure...
everybody dies |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by fummylolah: 10:42am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Please accept my sympathy. I can so relate to the pain you feel because today marks 11 years I lost my dear sister. I know you heart feels so heavy that you feel it might explode. its a normal feeling, shed the tears if you want to cause it relieves you of the pain. Above all, pray to God to help you bear the pain. it might sound funny, but it works like magic. Everytime you feel that heaviness in your heart, silently pray and say "Please God help me go through this". Be strong and courageous. RIP to your dad. |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by AXYZ: 11:04am On Mar 27, 2018 |
alexistaiwo: Truth be told, I am a fan of yours. You write educatedly as exemplified on the betting thread! You can just go to make it a formality. Cheers! 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Nobody: 11:16am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Nobody: 11:16am On Mar 27, 2018 |
I feel your pains cos I have been there. Believe me it will be well. Don't hold back tears because you want to please people that say"be a man"... Real men cry when they are hurt. But most importantly you will find comfort in Christ Jesus cos he is the only comforter as he promised us in Matthew 5:4 "blessed are they that mourn, they shall be comforted" You will only be comforted if you draw closer to God. This is a trying time for you. May God be with you. |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Olii(f): 11:22am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Prognose:yea, it helped me when I lost my dad, I didn't want to cry at 1st but one day in the bathroom I let it out, I cried like a baby and washed my tears with my bath water after that I felt better. |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by kenevision(m): 11:25am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Jhayeahsam01: And the mods couldn't ban this brainless dimwit permanently.. On the day of your sorrow, people will talk trash on you, then you see how it feels. @OP, be strong. I can only imagine the kind of pains you are going through.. But be strong, time will heal every pain. Be strong bro. |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Myself2(m): 11:27am On Mar 27, 2018 |
Sorry for your loss bro.What you are feeling is normal, with time it will ease off, but if you have children, try and be strong for them.If you are married, though your wife too is bereaved, she does not share the full package of memories of your dad which you have,so let her console you in the way only a dear loving wife can,then you will be just fine. |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Nobody: 11:59am On Mar 27, 2018 |
alexistaiwo: Amen bro I so much like your Instinct. God bless us. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Dameni: 1:20pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
just try to forget as am also trying here, I lost my dad in December last year to cancer of intestine I still cry every day on it but I kno one day it will pass. |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Bjgirl1: 1:58pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
We got 3 kids together(11,7 and 3). It's not easy because I can't just accept the fact that he's gone. It's so painful and unbearable. Crying as I'm typing this, I just can't accept that he's gone. This life is vanity. kennymartinz: |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Bjgirl1: 2:12pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
I know crying can never bring him back but that's the only way I can grief,I can never talk or think about him without shedding painful tears. I invited my mom over to stay with me but that doesn't help at all, I knw she's not happy I'm not healing but it's my fault, I just can't let go. amokeme: |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Bjgirl1: 2:24pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
Thank you. His death taught me alot, we should appreciate ourselves as if that'll be our last moments,I left him at home for work Hale and hearty but was called my last daughter called 911, I still met him alive when I rushed home but died within hours, it was like a dream to me. boyjo: |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by madgoat(m): 2:53pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
Mutemenot: So sorry to read this bro. I understand how you feel because i have been on that path to. When my dad passed, i thought the world would come crashing down on me. I was in pains but i tried to make myself strong by consoling myself that my dad has done his own in this life and its now time for me to do mine. I also consoled myself with the thought that we would all die someday. I can assure you its only time that will heal the pain |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Rubyventures: 2:56pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
Bjgirl1: So sorry for your pain. When things like this happen, it forces us to put live into perspective and we find out that the most important things in life cost nothing and we begin to appreciate those things that most people take for granted. Continue to talk about it. Draw your strength from your religion, your friends and family. Don't push them away. |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by Jhayeahsam01(m): 3:27pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
kenevision:back to sender holy ghost fire |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by boyjo: 3:52pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
Bjgirl1: Oh dear LORD Jesus... Big big hugs Sweetie, I`m so so sorry. That image of him may remain with you for a long time, but you know what? The pain would ease...... The LORD is your strength. Comfort to you my dear |
Re: Please Help!! My Dad Passed Away. Please How Do I Overcome The Pains? by kingsbuoy: 4:04pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
It is okay to feel the pain but don't let it rule you. I have been in your shoes so let me tell you what i did to overcome the pains. 1. Keep his legacy alive. Working on a project that he was working to benefit others. 2. Keep his memory alive . Ensure what people identify him with stays that way for a very long time. 3. Stay in a supportive system. Religious organisations / social societies can provide that kind of support. 4. Don't let tear wear you or family apart. Inheritance talk, Debts should be avoided as soon as possible. 5. If possible work with a therapist or professional help if you can afford it. 6. Dont Mind the trollers, flamers, mockers on this thread. 7. Dont ask too many far reaching questions , why now , why me, why this , gone too soon? God where are you? 8. Celebrate his achievement here on earth 9. Ensure that you seek for spiritual Help / guidance |
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