There are a number of obvious and remote reasons for the negative distant attitude of many kids towards their parents who are no longer together. It is true that not every one is happy about the homes being shattered. Still, there are some who take it more to heart than others and this is mostly the case with the children.

A major reason for this attitude is the feeling of deprivation the kids have. Very easily, kids feel they have been deprived by their parents of the privileges of the home. They find it hard to accept that their parents are not longer together and the once united family they had is no more.
Along with this sad state of mind comes the thought that their parents did not care and love them. Kids will likely think that if their parents cared so much about them, they would have stayed together to look after them.

At times, kids may feel less important to the parents and thus, unwanted. Factually or erroneously, they can nurse the thought of parents being selfish and insensitive. By feeling left alone, they get detached from these parents or parent who they feel does not have them in mind and thus become distant.

It is also common to have kids feeling a parent or both were being immature and careless about the family and in handling the issues in the home. Hence, towards such parent, kids may express gross disrespectful and disregard as well as strong dislike for.

Kids love to feel relevant and cherished, if for one reason or the other they are lacking this attention as a result of their parents pulling apart, this deficiency leads them to build these characters.

Whenever parents are not living up to their expectations and are not living up to the standards expected of them, they are bound to invite negative reviews to themselves from their kids. With this bad reviews also come bad response and reaction in terms of attitude.

Thus, we see as one prominent one, the recoil into shell and closing up of kids. They build the defensive mechanism or physically and emotionally resisting the parent. The walls created in such kids can grow so tall that it becomes impossible to scale.

Consequently, it is wise for parents to explore all available avenues to resolve their issues and disputes before settling for the final decision of splitting. Therefore, separation should only become an option as the last resort when all other means fail.
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/08/30/why-do-kids-become-bitter-towards-separated-parents/

Normally cha,no kid deserves that....I mean,the side effects of separation of parents na the children lives e for dey show.....

Why won't you be bitter towards the person who deprived you of a happy childhood Simply because of his/her selfish reasons

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The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

Parental love is very essential to children.. Once there is divorce through conflict... One of the parent tend to paint the other parent bad in other to be on the good side of the children. It happens a lot these days... Since the woman usually get the custody of the kids.. They mostly poison the kids mind of the bad events of their father so that the children can forget about him and stick to her. That's devilish mehn.

There isn't peace...and children will likely pick sides against who is at fault. Of course, they are watching.

No matter what one party tells them, they are watching.

They may not readily hate any parent, but they will be closer to the one they are more comfortable with.

Many children grow up thinking they have a deadbeat father,not knowing all they really had was a bitter mother.(men are not saints either but will never go to the extreme a woman will in tarnishing their ex's image to their kid/s)

The pains of separation is caused. By the selfishness of both parents

Children need BOTH parents to grow. Some children are even embittered if one or their parents have kids outside the marriage and they find out about it

why not?

Because both parents try to make them hate each other

Because kids are made to suffer for the selfishness of their parents.

After selfishly bringing children into the world, parents (through their obvious imperfections) end up leaving the children to struggle through life (in most cases).

J

Nice article, children deserve the best, and you can't get the best from a separated home

The kid will grow up to understand nothing new here

Listen to my sorry by lucky dube n u will understand better

My step brother comes to mind

See better post.

Davash222:
The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

That is why I must have the custody of my kids at all cost if I divorce my wife.

Men are free thinkers, they naturally don't like to shift blames.
Women on the other hand will naturally play the victim card and either confuse or convince the kids to make them believe that their father is evil.

I don't know why women are like that!

Life is a set up.
It doesn’t always work the way we plan.
If not for kids, no man would ever think of getting married.
Marriage it’s self is the greatest scam.

Really... I think parents should try and make their children understand that even if the both party are separated they still love them(the children), parents should also try and say good things about their separated partner to their children. I believe everyone has the chance to look for their happiness elsewhere when the marriage doesn't suit them anymore.

I noticed some parents use the slightest chance to remind children how useless their father or their mother is. This kind of thing can also be bad for the child, the feeling of hurt will be immerse.

My mother never said a bad word against my father, so I've never had a wrong feelings towards him. Instead it is motivating me to look for him.

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[quote author=Davash222 post=106147315]The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your

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