Headlesschicken:
90% of d things we fear bout in life never happens, d other 10% when they do happen we barely feel a thing, I thought u was gon say dat yuh a Muslim or some sh!t,n!gga u ain't got any issues,go ahead n wife that chick....#Bye#

Pearl05:
This is serious.


This isn't Christian/Muslim marriage sef which some people do but same religion only a matter of different sect. Submissiveness starts here. What's the essence of wedding in your church if she will return to her mother's church? As a woman, her place is beside her husband biko.

But then, it doesn't really matter as long as it's a living church (bible beliving). Let her continue with the one she want. As long as ur children will be trained in the fear and ways of the Lord.

raydatluvs:
See eh,I just want to point out the need to have an understanding now as to what is acceptable to both of you. I saw you write whether to marry her and later enforce she attends your church,that wouldn't be very healthy in the long run.

My 2 kobo.

Gentlesniper:
Good Day Nlanders and Romancelanders, this is my first thread on this forum and i seriously need your candid advice pIease.

I met this wonderful ibo girl in Enugu about 4 years ago when i was still at the 82 division, Enugu(NB: I am a northerner geographically but spent most of my growing up in the south, especially Lagos cos my dad served more in the southern Nigeria).
I became friend with this babe and one thing led to another and we started dating, then she was still a student. we dated for like 6 mnths before I was later deployed to the north. Though we communicated on phone and social media but gradually we lost touch. I met other ladies but to me none was as good and homely like this ibo girl, so i had to resuscitate the relationship and worked her nysc posting to Abuja and coincidentally i was also deployed to Abuja last yr, so we became serious again.

Now she just finished her service last dec. and has gone back to Enugu , we really want to take our relationship to the next level but the wahala here is that she is a catholic and her parents are staunch ones. I have no issue marrying a catholic neither do my parents, but she said her parents would prefer she marries a catholic and gets wedded in a catholic church, but she doesn't care since she is the one in love and not her parents. Also she stylishly told me that she would still like to continue a catholic even after marriage but she would be coming to my church occasionally.( My parents attend ECWA but i attend living faith).

Now, i believe she can sort out the issue of whom to marry with her parents but my worries are: will it be a good idea that i attend a different church from my wife? what will be its influence on the kids or should i insist she must attend the same church with me and expect the worst from her?
Please brothers and sisters, I need your honest advice here. thanks


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Apina:
As a Catholic, I definitely understand where she's coming from. Marriage isn't just about I love you, understanding and trust is also vital for its survival. She has told you what it's gonna be after marriage, if you have any objection, say it now not that you would keep quiet and want to impose yourself after marriage, which might bring about avoidable issues. I'm almost certain that she going to your church isn't likely to happen and mind you, it isn't because her parents are staunch Catholics

Gentlesniper:

but bros i dont understand, ain't we all serving the same God? At least i was thinking in this time and century, that we have passed that stage where issues like this should pose as a stumbling block to marriages. I am yet to hear Muslims have such issues, and pardon me, but why is it very common with Catholics.

Apina:

Sorry to say but it's just like asking someone who drives a Bentley to exchange it for a Beetle. LASU and Harvard are both universities but the difference is clear, not trying to berate any church but the Catholic church is second to non and the doctrines are different.

Castroii:

hmmm........ nothing wey person no go hear on this forum. Such division among so called xtains........ nawao.

Apina:

Sorry to say but it's just like asking someone who drives a Bentley to exchange it for a Beetle. LASU and Harvard are both universities but the difference is clear, not trying to berate any church but the Catholic church is second to non and the doctrines are different.

Apina:

Sorry to say but it's just like asking someone who drives a Bentley to exchange it for a Beetle. LASU and Harvard are both universities but the difference is clear, not trying to berate any church but the Catholic church is second to non and the doctrines are different.

Gentlesniper:
mehn, this wan just dumb found me sha. it is well

Apina:

Did i say something that isn't true?

Gentlesniper:

U kind of berated other bible believing churches too, tho in a subtle way. I believe as a xtain, being christ like and making heaven at last should be the sole aim. I dont even know why there is soo much division between catholics and pentecostals.

Gentlesniper:
Good Day Nlanders and Romancelanders, this is my first thread on this forum and i seriously need your candid advice pIease.

I met this wonderful ibo girl in Enugu about 4 years ago when i was still at the 82 division, Enugu(NB: I am a northerner geographically but spent most of my growing up in the south, especially Lagos cos my dad served more in the southern Nigeria).
I became friend with this babe and one thing led to another and we started dating, then she was still a student. we dated for like 6 mnths before I was later deployed to the north. Though we communicated on phone and social media but gradually we lost touch. I met other ladies but to me none was as good and homely like this ibo girl, so i had to resuscitate the relationship and worked her nysc posting to Abuja and coincidentally i was also deployed to Abuja last yr, so we became serious again.

Now she just finished her service last dec. and has gone back to Enugu , we really want to take our relationship to the next level but the wahala here is that she is a catholic and her parents are staunch ones. I have no issue marrying a catholic neither do my parents, but she said her parents would prefer she marries a catholic and gets wedded in a catholic church, but she doesn't care since she is the one in love and not her parents. Also she stylishly told me that she would still like to continue a catholic even after marriage but she would be coming to my church occasionally.( My parents attend ECWA but i attend living faith).

Now, i believe she can sort out the issue of whom to marry with her parents but my worries are: will it be a good idea that i attend a different church from my wife? what will be its influence on the kids or should i insist she must attend the same church with me and expect the worst from her?
Please brothers and sisters, I need your honest advice here. thanks


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