My fiance and I have been dating for the past 3years. I attained 24 last week, I wanted to get married to her last year but I just wanted to wait till I attain 24.

The problem I have now is my mom. She is opposing our marriage because my fiancee is 5 years older than me, I'm 24 while she's 29. My dad has already endorsed the marriage, I'd have liked to go on with the marriage but I don't think going into marriage without both parents blessing is sensible that's why I need my mom's blessing and endorsement.

My fiance has good character, she's very kind and intelligent, I can't afford to lose her because of pressures from my mom at least I'm an adult.

I don't know what's happening, my mom endorsed our relationship but she doesn't endorse our marriage just because she's 5years older than me. The thing is, I can't leave this lady ,not now not ever, she have done so many things for me.

in fact she even promised to provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage!. She is rich, yes she is, the house I'm in living in now belongs to her, I moved in with her in 2016.

The truth is I love her and I can't afford to lose her because of my mom's wish. Both her parents and my dad have given us go ahead for marriage but my mom still doesn't want me to marry because of age and my fiance is beautiful.

I don't know what do now ,that's why I think I need advice from you guys,.I don't know if I should go ahead with the marriage without my mom's endorsement/blessings.

please advice

Boy, listen to your mother o!

SafetyFirst:
Boy, listen to your mother o!

please I need serious advice. I can't afford to lose her
.not now ,not ever.

it's only in this century that we see it as a bad thing..


there are many couples out there who are also like u .....just like Peter okoye amongst others.


URS is just 5yrs that of Peter is 7yrs ..

age is not a barrier.

later guys will start calling us golddiggers, so what are you guys going to call this one

thief go and marry your mate

oildigger!!
ole, you better go and marry your mate, ,no wonder biacan said you depend on a commissioner's daughter for livelihood.

thief

TheUpsetGirl1:
later guys will start calling us golddiggers, so what are you guys going to call this one

thief go and marry your mate

oildigger!!
ole, you better go and marry your mate, ,no wonder biacan said you depend on a commissioner's daughter for livelihood.

thief

Please don't do it.. Not again...he needs help OK..

prechbills1:


please I need serious advice. I can't afford to lose her
.not now ,not ever.

Pb.. I doubt if this is ur story.. Or even a true story..But whatever the case is, u should be sure if her main reason for not giving her consent is just the age snag? Cos its likey that she sees or feels something..like it dosent go well with her inner self.
I think some mums can be more intuitive when it comes to their sons trying to get married. You may wanna probe deeper into that..
Every man wanna stay married, maybe happily married not just get married..

May the Gods help you. Cheers.

Your mum is right and she is a woman so listen to her. In as much as the love is sweeting you, don't forget reality. Because it will set in anyways and you will realise how much mistake you made.

BdorianGray:


Pb.. I doubt if this is ur story.. Or even a true story..But whatever the case is, u should be sure if her main reason for not giving her consent is just the age snag? Cos its likey that she sees or feels something..like it dosent go well with her inner self.
I think some mums can be more intuitive when it comes to their sons trying to get married. You may wanna probe deeper into that..
Every man wanna stay married, maybe happily married not just get married..

May the Gods help you. Cheers.

what proof do you want? do you think I'm a jobless guy that waste hours to compose fake stories to Garner likes? I'm talking about reality and you're saying another thing.
yes, age is the main reason why my mom doesn't want us to get married. I don't know if she harbours other intentions but that's the reason she gave.

there are always things to joke about and things not to joke about.

my dear check yourself.. are you really ready to settle down ?.. do you really love this fiance of yours unconditionally regardless of the things you benefit from her...... because from your write up all i can see is a kinda naive boy who wants to shortcut his hustle by marrying an already made woman....... and lemme remind you..based on your write up.. i think the girl is the one proposing marriage here.

NB: if person help you.. tell am thank you. you mist not return the favour with marriage.

Bro... At age 24.. It depends what you see...

Some guys like you see just the money she have now more than you, or sees the sweet attitude she has now.. Hmm.. Human being changes when they get what they want..

Think well.. I am sure your mum is seeing something you are not.. And your dad accepting her, is all dad that will accept cos the lady will be Everly young in your dad face...
If you ready for all the challenge of friends in future getting to know your ages... Carry go.. If not.. Listen to your mum.. Work hard and get your own house.. Make your own money, then you decide..

Get your company registered through my signature..

Give your mom an ultimatum: I'm getting married that's final, either you come or you don't come. Age doesn't play any role in marriage.. if you are matured enough and so is she then I see why not? My GF is 10 years older than me and I currently don't care. Both our families know.

Cutehector:
Your mum is right and she is a woman so listen to her. In as much as the love is sweeting you, don't forget reality. Because it will set in anyways and you will realise how much mistake you made.

Dude there's no regrets. Let her marry someone that lives him and he live her. What if he leaves this lady now and enters an unhappy marriage? Let him marry the girl jare.

5years chaa.

TheUpsetGirl1:
later guys will start calling us golddiggers, so what are you guys going to call this one

thief go and marry your mate

oildigger!!
ole, you better go and marry your mate, ,no wonder biacan said you depend on a commissioner's daughter for livelihood.

thief

The lady is not complaining. Don't be jealous if no rich man come your way.

Poverty begats poverty!

TheUpsetGirl1:
later guys will start calling us golddiggers, so what are you guys going to call this one

thief go and marry your mate

oildigger!!
ole, you better go and marry your mate, ,no wonder biacan said you depend on a commissioner's daughter for livelihood.

thief

take it easy madam.

if she is earning morethan you sorry bro end it... or else after the marriage she becomes the husband u become the wife

lwanga1993:
my dear check yourself.. are you really ready to settle down ?.. do you really love this fiance of yours unconditionally regardless of the things you benefit from her...... because from your write up all i can see is a kinda naive boy who wants to shortcut his hustle by marrying an already made woman....... and lemme remind you..based on your write up.. i think the girl is the one proposing marriage here.

NB: if person help you.. tell am thank you. you mist not return the favour with marriage.

did you miss the part where I said we've been dating for 3years?
yes I need to settle down, I'm a graduate and she's too.

micgray100:
Bro... At age 24.. It depends what you see...

Some guys like you see just the money she have now more than you, or sees the sweet attitude she has now.. Hmm.. Human being changes when they get what they want..

Think well.. I am sure your mum is seeing something you are not.. And your dad accepting her, is all dad that will accept cos the lady will be Everly young in your dad face...
If you ready for all the challenge of friends in future getting to know your ages... Carry go.. If not.. Listen to your mum.. Work hard and get your own house.. Make your own money, then you decide..

bro at least at 24 I've achieved basic things in life.
I just want to know if I should go ahead without my mom's endorsement and bleasings.

OP, mother is trying to protect you from calling your wife aunty or madam in few years to come.

Your wife owns the house and probably gives money for upkeep like Okon the houseman.

Mr man go and look for a job or join gee boys. One must pay you.

You don't love that lady, you love her money and I'm reporting you to her.

phayvoursky:
OP, mother is trying to protect you from calling your wife aunty or madam in few years to come.

Your wife owns the house and probably gives money for upkeep like Okon the houseman.

Mr man go and look for a job or join gee boys. One must pay you.

You don't love that lady, you love her money and I'm reporting you to her.

I've my own money.

sorry our love is genuine

prechbills1:


I've my own money.

sorry our love is genuine

Marry her she is obviously better than some jobless girls with Mtn 1200 subscription

Make your own money and do your normal for her. If your mama no free no send am too. Na your life now not hers..

While I don't see anything bad in marrying someone older than you, you need to have something that would make her respect you. In your case, she is older, richer and you are also living in her house; honestly bro, I just pray you don't become the houseboy after marriage.

Shugarlord213:



Marry her she is obviously better than some jobless girls with Mtn 1200 subscription

Make your own money and do your normal for her. If your mama no free no send am too. Na your life now not hers..

thanks bro.. your comment is highly appreciated

once again, Thanks.

Darkseid:
While I don't see anything bad in marrying someone older than you, you need to have something that would make her respect you. In your case, she is older, richer and you are also living in her house; honestly bro, I just pray you don't become the houseboy after marriage.

okay.

U had mention she is rich and u stay with her. Guy u be gold digger.

yeyerolling:
U had mention she is rich and u stay with her. Guy u be gold digger.

I don't understand.

I need advice not insults please

prechbills1:


I don't understand.

I need advice not insults please

parental blessing has no impact on the success of a marriage. Call her bluff

You for kuku go marry your mama age mate na.

You no get shame

men age like wine while women age like milk. God created Adam first before Eve so a man should be older than the woman. in the next 20 years when she must have finished giving birth she will definitely look far older than you as if she is the one that gave birth to you. secondly for you to move into a woman's house and for her to agree to sponsor the marriage is an error. you will loose your authority and respect as the head of the Family because from the look of things she will still be the one to cater for you after marriage.

FromZeroToHero:
men age like wine while women age like milk. God created Adam first before Eve so a man should be older than the woman. in the next 20 years when she must have finished giving birth she will definitely look far older than you as if she is the one that gave birth to you. secondly for you to move into a woman's house and for her to agree to sponsor the marriage is an error. you will loose your authority and respect as the head of the Family because from the look of things she will still be the one to cater for you after marriage.

she'd only provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage, I'd provide 20.

I don't know why you guys reason this way