Feminism have become the watchword of many instead of simply being a 'FEMALE' OR 'WIFE' of valour. Its a sad state of mind, because, (what is work without labour? what is family without head & children? what is flock without a shepherd? what is money without value(value for self esteem & exchange in return)? what is life without 'TRUE' love(love endures suffering, dont keep malice, gives in a relationship, helps the neighbour/needy, don't bow to pressure or circumstances and love dont quit)? Even when things are tough, say to yourself, i won't bow to pressure. In the Holy Bible & Holy Quran, no women are chasing shadows by comparing themselves with the statute of men (Standing shoulder to shoulder with men). Sometimes, I think what you know too much often conflicts with things you've worked for and can destroy such as family & friends - the strong relationship which you've sweat to built over the years with all your might, body, soul, spirit, resources, hands, time and even your knowledge(brain) as well. WOMEN BE WISE, there is no perfect marriage or relationship. The Holy Bible says, ''A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish one uses her hand to destroy it.'' That is why you see that all successful companies have MANAGEMENT BOARD. And every management board has a CHAIRMAN (Though he's not the only decision maker, but the head of the board). This they do, in order to secure the future of the company to success and the present day-to-day activities of staffs for profitability. And all key/preference shareholders are part of the management to make decision for others to abide with. and most decision comes with technical advice and cumulative funding, with an eagle eye to get their dividends at the end of the year of that particular business. you need a partner to succeed in life. Success is not only on monetary values, our cultural values, human dignity, self esteem, emotional help, love & care, intimacy talk, the promise and the assurance. these things and more are very key and must be taken serious before considering any divorce or racing a child/children as a single mother. Remember, 'A tree can not do alone in a forest'.

My message is simple: please go back to the drawing board with your husband and discuss the issue, the pains you've endured but never forget the gains you've enjoyed, accept faults, resolve issues and settle down together again. He belongs to you. ''all men are like dog, but if you can create time, you can train him to become your pet" & do as you like without any charm/spell. Remember, if the gains you've enjoyed is more than the pains you've endured, forgive quickly & go back to him and if there are more pains in the relationship, go back and talk about how you can make it work. divorce is not an option at all, its the Devil plan to lead us astray...God knows a woman can't be alone and 'God also hate divorce'. Do all things possible to manage your partner to succeed together, even if there are no child yet, believe it soon, reconciliation & agreement will bring you the fruit of marriage (Children). Again remember, there is nothing called perfect marriage or human being. Don't even compare your marriage to anybody's own, accept responsibilities and pray hard for your husband & vise versa. A family that prays together stays together & enjoys together.

God Bless your union, please don't quit!!!

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Since men are the head of house then the responsibility and duty of preserving the family should be more on the man as the leader. If a marriage fails the man should carry more blame than the woman so direct your thread to men.

Tell them to stop sleeping around and expecting their wives to 'tame' them.

Tell them to put the welfare of their kids first and provide for them instead of giving one mistress outside.

I don't understand how men keep claiming to be superior and better than women but can never accept responsibility for keeping the family together. Always shifting blame like buhari.

nahzyla:
Since men are the head of house then the responsibility and duty of preserving the family should be more on the man as the leader. If a marriage fails the man should carry more blame than the woman so direct your thread to men.

Tell them to stop sleeping around and expecting their wives to 'tame' them.

Tell them to put the welfare of their kids first and provide for them instead of giving one mistress outside.

I don't understand how men keep claiming to be superior and better than women but can never accept responsibility for keeping the family together. Always shifting blame like buhari.

this is nothing new. Men of this generation are extremely feminine and take no accountability for their actions. Everything is the fault of someone else. Whether it’s infidelity, failure or just general life obstacles. Women are becoming more masculine, taking the place of men, being the wife and husband of the household. But what are we to do when women are raising male children by themselves? Men are being raised by women so they have no masculine energy to learn from. Sad.

Safiaa:
this is nothing new. Men of this generation are extremely feminine and take no accountability for their actions. Everything is the fault of someone else. Whether it’s infidelity, failure or just general life obstacles. Women are becoming more masculine, taking the place of men, being the wife and husband of the household. But what are we to do when women are raising male children by themselves? Men are being raised by women so they have no masculine energy to learn from. Sad.

You mind all these lefulefu men?

Imagine somebody confidently saying a woman should be held responsible for taming a randy husband. The man shebi na imbeci..le him be? so he can no longer control himself abi wetin??

Men these days are getting more and more worthless.

raising an ideal Christian home shouldn't start after your wedding its starts years before you even meet your spouse. now these helps you to plan your home before it arrives. I think some men do not understand the pain that women go through when they find out that their husband's are cheats. it really hurts. if only we can find our way back to the author of this great institution then and only then will our marriages be heaven on earth.

Safiaa:
this is nothing new. Men of this generation are extremely feminine and take no accountability for their actions. Everything is the fault of someone else. Whether it’s infidelity, failure or just general life obstacles. Women are becoming more masculine, taking the place of men, being the wife and husband of the household. But what are we to do when women are raising male children by themselves? Men are being raised by women so they have no masculine energy to learn from. Sad.

I say it everytime,every shifting power the woman has today was given to her by a man ,cos of there failure to be upright and be the head they so much want and yhat which God called them to be. I like ur right up.

Evacroft:


I say it everytime,every shifting power the woman has today was given to her by a man ,cos of there failure to be upright and be the head they so much want and yhat which God called them to be. I like ur right up.

But it d3oesn't change the fact that, men are the head of any Godly household & they are architect of raising Godly children. ''A woman alone can't raise a Godly child". Pls quote me.

FKMagazine:
Feminism have become the watchword of many instead of simply being a 'FEMALE' OR 'WIFE' of valour. Its a sad state of mind, because, (what is work without labour? what is family without head & children? what is flock without a shepherd? what is money without value(value for self esteem & exchange in return)? what is life without 'TRUE' love(love endures suffering, dont keep malice, gives in a relationship, helps the neighbour/needy, don't bow to pressure or circumstances and love dont quit)? Even when things are tough, say to yourself, i won't bow to pressure. In the Holy Bible & Holy Quran, no women are chasing shadows by comparing themselves with the statute of men (Standing shoulder to shoulder with men). Sometimes, I think what you know too much often conflicts with things you've worked for and can destroy such as family & friends - the strong relationship which you've sweat to built over the years with all your might, body, soul, spirit, resources, hands, time and even your knowledge(brain) as well. WOMEN BE WISE, there is no perfect marriage or relationship. The Holy Bible says, ''A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish one uses her hand to destroy it.'' That is why you see that all successful companies have MANAGEMENT BOARD. And every management board has a CHAIRMAN (Though he's not the only decision maker, but the head of the board). This they do, in order to secure the future of the company to success and the present day-to-day activities of staffs for profitability. And all key/preference shareholders are part of the management to make decision for others to abide with. and most decision comes with technical advice and cumulative funding, with an eagle eye to get their dividends at the end of the year of that particular business. you need a partner to succeed in life. Success is not only on monetary values, our cultural values, human dignity, self esteem, emotional help, love & care, intimacy talk, the promise and the assurance. these things and more are very key and must be taken serious before considering any divorce or racing a child/children as a single mother. Remember, 'A tree can not do alone in a forest'.

My message is simple: please go back to the drawing board with your husband and discuss the issue, the pains you've endured but never forget the gains you've enjoyed, accept faults, resolve issues and settle down together again. He belongs to you. ''all men are like dog, but if you can create time, you can train him to become your pet" & do as you like without any charm/spell. Remember, if the gains you've enjoyed is more than the pains you've endured, forgive quickly & go back to him and if there are more pains in the relationship, go back and talk about how you can make it work. divorce is not an option at all, its the Devil plan to lead us astray...God knows a woman can't be alone and 'God also hate divorce'. Do all things possible to manage your partner to succeed together, even if there are no child yet, believe it soon, reconciliation & agreement will bring you the fruit of marriage (Children). Again remember, there is nothing called perfect marriage or human being. Don't even compare your marriage to anybody's own, accept responsibilities and pray hard for your husband & vise versa. A family that prays together stays together & enjoys together.

God Bless your union, please don't quit!!!

cc: lalasticlala uboma davide470

#FKMagazine

Pls read below some so-called life loving feminists and their odeals.

https://questionnigeria.com/question/nigerian-woman-laments-over-house-maids-getting-good-husbands/

FKMagazine:


But it d3oesn't change the fact that, men are the head of any Godly household & they are architect of raising Godly children. ''A woman alone can't raise a Godly child". Pls quote me.

But same men want to run out of marriage not because of infedelity on the women part which the bible clearly quotes, but mostly because divorce favours them most,and there by leaving the children most of the time with the woman ,forgetting that everybody has their role to play in modelling a childs life. Am not disputing the fact that men are the head,am just saying they have failed in handling that role thus making some women take the baton as single mothers.
Most men now also wants to share responsibilities equally as a matter of right;but wont want the woman to share in d decision making.

dont quit that marriage

Evacroft:

But same men want to run out of marriage not because of infedelity on the women part which the bible clearly quotes, but mostly because divorce favours them most,and there by leaving the children most of the time with the woman ,forgetting that everybody has their role to play in modelling a childs life. Am not disputing the fact that men are the head,am just saying they have failed in handling that role thus making some women take the baton as single mothers.
Most men now also wants to share responsibilities equally as a matter of right;but wont want the woman to share in d decision making.

there is no man, I mean no responsibly-married man, who will say, he & the wife should share the bills equally! however, if the wife earns more money than the husband due some factors that we already know i.e. education, socio-economic background, exposure, career-line, connection, entrepreneurial wizardry(i have seen a woman, if she sells anything consumable, she makes more money than her Doctor husband) etc, trust me, you have to give more to your family & not only to your family alone, to others out there as well...because, ''To whom much is given, much is expected''.

single mother is dangerous for the future of our children, pls don't subscribe to it

Before or after marriage?
Abi there are no single FATHERS too?

Being a single parent is not a choice AFTER MARRIAGE. Divorce or separation can happen by fate. God or man can PROPOSE and DISPOSE abi?

[quote author=nahzyla post=67280153]Since men are the head of house then the responsibility and duty of preserving the family should be more on the man as the leader. If a marriage fails the man should carry more blame than the woman so direct your thread to men.

Tell them to stop sleeping around and expecting their wives to 'tame' them.

Tell them to put the welfare of their kids first and provide for them instead of giving one mistress outside.

I don't understand how men keep claiming to be superior and better than women but can never accept responsibility for keeping the family together. Always shifting blame like buhari.I wish you well

Evacroft:

But same men want to run out of marriage not because of infedelity on the women part which the bible clearly quotes, but mostly because divorce favours them most,and there by leaving the children most of the time with the woman ,forgetting that everybody has their role to play in modelling a childs life. Am not disputing the fact that men are the head,am just saying they have failed in handling that role thus making some women take the baton as single mothers.
Most men now also wants to share responsibilities equally as a matter of right;but wont want the woman to share in d decision making.

You can write a thesis on the hypocrisy of Nigerian men.
They want you to contribute financially but they will never share kitchen work,
they want to cheat and be naturally polygamous but wives Must stay faithful,
they want unconditional submission from their wives but can not follow Bible instruction to love their wives like Christ loved the church

etc

FKMagazine:


But it d3oesn't change the fact that, men are the head of any Godly household & they are architect of raising Godly children. ''A woman alone can't raise a Godly child". Pls quote me.

Men are created to be head of households but how much effort is being directed in raising our sons to be the Chief Priest of Godly households? How they play a key role in moulding their children' character and personalities etc. Rather emphasis is being placed on his validation being tied to bringing money to the house and his control over his wife and children as against Godly inspired leadership.

There is a thread on front page yesterday where the man was boldly saying he has been cohabiting with a woman for the past 13 years and they have 2 daughters together but not thinking about marriage, how do one expect those girls to perceive commitment and marriage?

great write up, are you referring to wedding ceremony or real marriage (joining of a man & a woman AS =ONE body?
wedding is not the goal, but marriage born out of love is the real deal. but if it's cohabiting, it's ungodly & illegal.

FKMagazine:
great write up, are you referring to wedding ceremony or real marriage (joining of a man & a woman AS =ONE body?
wedding is not the goal, but marriage born out of love is the real deal. but if it's cohabiting, it's ungodly & illegal.

Wedding is an event, Marriage is a journey.

We need to raise our sons not to see having baby mamas as a shortcut to fatherhood, just as we need to drill it into our daughters that there is nothing cool about intentionally looking forward to being a single mother.

best real life

Get real life, don't embrace mediocrity

dear op, it should have been..' why you must avoid being a single parent' not mother....
again.. you said something like God knows a woman can't be alone, actually God knows a man can't be alone, that's why he created a woman...
and hey.....you've got a nice write up but you can't force someone who has lost interest in a relationship or marriage to continue with it,it will only bring you frustration and depression ...
making a marriage work is not only a woman's responsibility, it takes both partners....

FKMagazine:
single mother is dangerous for the future of our children, pls don't subscribe to it

what happened to single fathers ?
its better to raise your kids as a single mother than raise them with an irresponsible husband. what if the male kids emulates the characters of the irresponsible dad ?

Adamummya:


what happened to single fathers ?
its better to raise your kids as a single mother than raise them with an irresponsible husband. what if the male kids emulates the characters of the irresponsible dad ?

to raise children takes two to tangle, seek counselling if you have husbands like that. dont lean on your talent alone in handling issues like this, remember, God will ask you your husband & the future will also ask you your husband. dont ever think of raising children alone, try all you can to rebuild your home. And it's never too late. Divorce is not an option. GOD HATE DIVORCE MALACHI 2:16

Adamummya:
dear op, it should have been..' why you must avoid being a single parent' not mother....
again.. you said something like God knows a woman can't be alone, actually God knows a man can't be alone, that's why he created a woman...
and hey.....you've got a nice write up but you can't force someone who has lost interest in a relationship or marriage to continue with it,it will only bring you frustration and depression ...
making a marriage work is not only a woman's responsibility, it takes both partners....

THANKS. SAME WAY, GOD CAN'T FORCE HUMAN BEING TO CHANGE. EVERYONE HAS A CHOICE, LIKE ADAM & EVE(OUR FIRST FATHER & MOTHER), BUT I'VE COME TO REALISE THAT CHOICES ARE EVIL & WONT DO US ANY FAVOUR, EXCEPT DESTRUCTION. BUT WISDOM IN THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOD CAN.

nahzyla:


You can write a thesis on the hypocrisy of Nigerian men.
They want you to contribute financially but they will never share kitchen work,
they want to cheat and be naturally polygamous but wives Must stay faithful,
they want unconditional submission from their wives but can not follow Bible instruction to love their wives like Christ loved the church

etc

You are correct,i was watching a programme on cnn this morning where they did a short documentary on men behind bars and what i deduce from that is not so far fetched from what i always say. Men are the cause of all this things going wrong,from objectifying women ,domestic violence,rape,drugs,etc. some men always feel they must prove a point to people eg ,men dont cry,its a sign of weakness to love a woman,women are only after money.
Society also doesnt help,telling a man he needs to get married so he can get someone to clean up after him. Our mothers did the house work with either a sibling staying over and with a light weight work load that ensures u close early. Reverse is the case now . Men want u to work,share all responsibilities and also take care of the home front while u close from work at almost same time and still expect you to take the cheating aspect like its a normal thing in marriage.

chiommy123:
raising an ideal Christian home shouldn't start after your wedding its starts years before you even meet your spouse. now these helps you to plan your home before it arrives. I think some men do not understand the pain that women go through when they find out that their husband's are cheats. it really hurts. if only we can find our way back to the author of this great institution then and only then will our marriages be heaven on earth.

In as much as I agree with you, I disagree on the fact that women should be feeling the need to get all twisted about men playing away match.

From time past, there has always been polygamy.
Abraham, Moses...they all had more than one wife.
Solomon....the guyman ... was a legend.

Even Christianity today...every person in Christ can be seen as a "Bride of Christ".

This is because from time past, a family consists of ONE man, but one-to-many women.
It is not in the nature of virile men to maintain themselves with just one wife.

That he gathers his loins and attempts to for her sake, should be met with appreciation...as it was back in the day.
But no, trust the 21st century female to start throwing all manner of stupid shade, disrespect and feminazi attitude in his face until he can't but go back to original programming and reach out for a concubine to balance his sanity.

Get your historical facts straight.
If you really want to "Make Marriage Great again", shift for polygamy/side-chicks and everyone can have their peace.

That's like saying "Make America Great Again" while also trying to say that slavery was not a major part of america being great before.

what do you mean by ''shift for polygamy''?

avoid single mother-hood

Potential single mothers commenting.

nnamdibig:
Potential single mothers commenting.

pls emancipate yourself from this mentality...It's a disease, that needs an immediately assistance

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FKMagazine:


pls emancipate yourself from this mentality...It's a disease, that needs an immediately assistance

Are you married?