Love is not something that can happen in an instant. There is no such thing as love at first sight. That kind of love is not really love but lust..... It's a lust at first sight. Love takes time to grow, it is natured by friendship, that's why most people who have had long happy marriages always say that they have managed to be together for a long time because they are best friends, it's rare to find them saying we have been together this long because we found each other attractive or we had money. It's all about getting along with your partner. About enjoying his or her company before you even jump in to sex. These days marriages are all based on material lust and not the solid foundation of friendship hence the ridiculous divorce rates. When you seek for a wife, first seek a friend in her. Can you confide in her, is her company what you enjoy? Ask yourself those questions, don't just look at her looks. Those things fade, don't rush into marriage without having laid a foundation of friendship.