Nigerian Writer Ozzy Etomi is of the View that as a Responsible Husband that you are or will be, It is only right that you pay your wife for staying at home, If not for anything, for the fact that she takes care of the children, According to her if you want to be a good husband, you must pay your stay at home wife, Because the job she puts in is equivalent to the work you do, Her words not mine. Quite a lengthy post, but it worth it, read below!



''Husband is away, Nanny had an emergency, had to work from home today while handling an extremely precocious 10 month old. I’d pick going to work over staying in with a baby/toddler all day. Stay at home mom’s dont get enough appreciation, admiration or respect. PAY YOUR WIVES.



I truly believe stay at home mothers should earn a salary, paid by their husbands. I dont want to start another twitter war, so instead I will write an article about this because I can ignore medium comments I also believe they should insist on pension payments.



Why? Because more often than not, the exchange that is meant to be occurring is that husbands are “working for the family”, while the woman is manning the domestic/childcare homefront. But the reality, especially in Africa is that husbands are working for themselves.



Wives hardly ever have unmonitored & unrestricted access to the man’s earnings. A lot of us get to enjoy the “trappings” without actually being in control of any considerable assets. You enjoy benevolent gifts & ppl say “you’re lucky your husband is generous”.



But in truth it is not generosity. It is YOUR money too. That is the agreement. The wealth gap never closes because as husbands get richer, wives do not get richer. Stay at home wives do not get their monthly share of their husbands salary as theirs to keep/ save/ invest.



A lot of women with wealthy husbands get tickets bought, houses to stay in, clothes & expensive gifts, and “spending money”. But most times do not have 2 cents to rub together without their husbands despite working together to build up the family for years. It is HIS money.



Thennnnn after years of being married, that nigga dies and lives everything to the kids. And then the cycle starts over with your children handing you pocket money. I’ve already said too much. Men, pay your wives sha. Build up her wealth too. Let her have a retirement plan.



It’s not a curse to stay home and take care of kids, women shouldn’t have to suffer for it.



When she does that, she is still using many considerable skills to keep the home organized, the house finances straight, making sure the kids are good, keeping staff in line, etc. She is doing a LOT OF WORK which is essentially unpaid labor.



You on the other hand are doing a lot of work which you are freed up to do because you dont have to worry about your home or your kids. When you bring home your share aka the finances. It is for you & your wife & kids. Not yours to mete out as you see fit.



Your wife, being someone who is at home, is not EARNING AN INCOME. Therefore if youre income isnt shared fairly with her, she is essentially living a life of poverty only offset by your ‘generosity’ and those are the men who even bother giving their wives an ‘allowance’.



In a good % of this situation, women make money off skimming off the top of household expenses they have to inflate just to get extra money. Which is why when couples break up after years of marriage, or when a man dies, their wives can barely afford to take care of the kids.



Your wife deserves her fair share of your salary. Choosing to focus on the home/kids shouldn’t result in financial exclusion for women as it often does. Suggest to me then other ways in which a full time stay at home mother can grow wealth, have investments and savings?



I have seen too often in many ppls situations how the household budget doesn’t include the wife. Everyone gets taken into consideration except her. There is money for kids. Money for feeding. Money for house expenses. Staff gets paid.



But the woman is doing/supervising the cooking, shopping, managing, organizing, caring, etc, working herself to the bone exhausted every day for FREE, and the general sentiment is “what do you need YOUR own separate money for, everything is paid for” like she isn’t her own person



Man, whatever, examine the lives of many couples around you and you know what i’m saying is true. Men spend the family money whenever and however they please with little or no permission. “Oh i feel like a new watch”..BAM!



But you see women strategizing how best to ask/request money for their husbands especially when it is something that is simply for them and not tied to household or kids. Thesis & speeches justifying the spend. Its such a scam.



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and how much should the husband be paid, considering he works his ass every day of his life

Paying motherhood in monetary terms...how funny! Is that the condition your mother raised you with? If you're paid money to be a mother, you're a failure, in fact you shdnt have been one until he has saved enough millions to pay you. And when he doesn't have enough to pay, your baby should be the sufferer. A privilege that some women have been crying to God for years to have, you have it and want to grow proud wings over it as if you can make yourself one. The money you want to make by not sitting at home, for what purpose is it in d first place?

justiniyke29:
and how much should the husband be paid, considering he works his ass every day of his life

good question... maybe she thinks men go out all day to eat rice and chicken... and I wonder if she was forced against her own will to get married and have a child... mtcheeeew, some women complain a lot and are really annoying ,if they don't get married b4 30,wahala...if they marry and give birth, wahala...i think her likes need to ask widows how they coupe,maybe they might understand the roles and importance of a man in the house.

Okay......now i understand from those angles but why salary ?

Requesting salary from Husbands makes it sounds like an employees-employers relationship


Why not encourage women to marry men that truly loves them ? instead of going into relationship based on calculations...........a man in love is nothing but a fool that will kill for you. just sit and watch the outcome of this Davido/Chioma's affair


if she eventually marry him......Davido will serve her all his life.......Good peoole dont just change overnight

if she break his heart, the next women will surely be a victim

Why not encourage men to be open to their wives. let men understand why wives deserve these demands.


Love and more love is the only elixir not making mistakes and ranting about it

Family is/over everything and sacrifice is the glue in family bond

I dunno in Africa but here in Asia, generally married women are the "treasurer" of the house...

The wife will be always be in charge on how to budget her husband's salary.. I can't call it a tradition, but it's very common practice here & it never been a BIG DEAL.

Some women are really confused in life. Today they are clamouring for inequality, tomorrow,they want to ve it all. Nawa o.

Chaiiiiiii THOSE IGBO GIRLZ WILL NOT KILL SOMEBODY .. THEY LIKE MONEY ALOT Chaiiii nawa hooo shaa!! Na only igbo girlz like money pass abii

To those ladies their points makes sense.


Like the ones in pics below


By the way, I don't support housewifery

QueenSuccubus:



I dunno in Africa but here in Asia, generally married women are the "treasurer" of the house...

The wife will be always be in charge on how to budget her husband's salary.. I can't call it a tradition, but it's very common practice here & it never been a BIG DEAL.

Thats an idea marriage and is same in many cases here

That only happens when the man trust you
not when you've started exhibiting some attitude towards him...........

trend of women of 2018:
demand more
offer less

kazyhm:


Thats an idea marriage and is same in many cases here

That only happens when the man trust you
not when you've started exhibiting some attitude towards him...........

that's very rare here...

Elder001:


that's very rare here...

yeah it was the norm before things escalated and women began straying away from morality and common sense

loool they should pay you for taking care of your own child or what?

Shebi u know the thunder that fire kemi olunloyo is still alive.

Lalasticlala