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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 3:01pm On May 19, 2018
Shugarlord213:


Useless bet9ja addict with no job

Pauperized tout and beggar who can't even eat once a day

Thief fraudster and a a criminal
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 3:03pm On May 19, 2018
isaiah chapter 4 verse 1. rule no 1. never tell a lady u like she s beautiful else she ll think she s too good to date a looser like u. tell her she looke like a she-ape and she stick around u to find out why u think differently... lol
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by stellarita(f): 3:06pm On May 19, 2018
Isn't it funny that we close our eyes to reality? The op just stated obvious reasons for the many divorces we hear of. everyday. We call them little mistakes. How then do you feel when your partner belittles your sense of reasoning all in the name of winning an arguement even when you are right? for me I wont like to be with such person.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by ImaIma1(f): 3:11pm On May 19, 2018
zeedof:
These are the reason y most of single ladies will remain single till they expire..

He's full of excuse because YOU NEVER GIVE HIM JOY

He Break Promises because YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A BURDEN

He Doesn't put you first because HE HAS PARENT B4 YOU

He likes to win argument because YOU ARE ALWAYS STUPID

He won't take responsibility because YOU ARE ALWAYS DEPENDENT

He has an Unhealthy lifestyle because YOU ARE NOT GOD and you don't love him





Op drezzyx this must be what you meant by giving excuses.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 3:12pm On May 19, 2018
NairaMaster1:


I cannot really understand the write up.

For the bachelors you mean you will allow your wife to be go hang out or catch up with another guy on weekend?

I fear for this indomie generation.

Very soon no woman will marry in Africa again and that may be favorable to guys. Just back her baby mama and allow her to be catching up with male friends.
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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Daeylar(f): 3:16pm On May 19, 2018
All true op, @ drezzyx very nice one advice.


Don't be discouraged those on this thread writing writing trash.
Trying to get women to accept mistreatment.

If you had written don't marry girls who have these 10 habits and wrote the exact damn thing you wrote but changed the male to female, you would have seen millions of post hailing you, then doing their favourite, calling women all types of names. And launching into tirades about how women are this and that's undecided

But they don't want to accept the post because it's against men, and as far as they are concerned, women are supposed to accept the BS of men, because it is part of being a man or a "human being" but would quickly change tune if it is a woman who had these attributes, after all, the women should be saints.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by tballeyy(m): 3:20pm On May 19, 2018
drezzyx:
Are you one of these as listed above?
tell one reasonable thing in the article
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by kense88: 3:24pm On May 19, 2018
tee59:
Lies, some guys do these and still have girls trolling over them. So far money is involved, girls of today will never mind d trash you wrote up here. shocked
Very observant lady
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by okenwa101(m): 3:26pm On May 19, 2018
WHY NOT PACK CLAY AND MOULD THE GUY YOURSELF, BEAUTIFUL RUBBISH!!! grin grin grin

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 3:30pm On May 19, 2018
stellarita:
Isn't it funny that we close our eyes to reality? The op just stated obvious reasons for the many divorces we hear of. everyday. We call them little mistakes. How then do you feel when your partner belittles your sense of reasoning all in the name of winning an arguement even when you are right? for me I wont like to be with such person.

He'll belittle your sense of reasoning cos it's oozes stupidity...of course you don't wanna be with a person who's on a higher plane
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by ImaIma1(f): 3:33pm On May 19, 2018
TonyeBarcanista:

Only a fool will not stop his girl! I rather stay stuck in 2nd century than be with a lady that sees such act as "cool"

Meanwhile, any Lady that expect me to put her "first" is on a long road to frustration.

My family come first, others follow...


When you get married, your wife becomes your family

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by kense88: 3:34pm On May 19, 2018
Funmibi01:
Most guy are chronic pretenders and liars.
It takes the grace of God and a "very" observant lady. Also, a lady that's not carried away by flashy things.
do we pretend more than ladies
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by kense88: 3:41pm On May 19, 2018
vivie01:
No.11: A lazy man and a cheat.
Also note that not making it yet, does not mean he is lazy. Finally, your ambition/success has to match his.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by davroca16(m): 3:46pm On May 19, 2018
drezzyx:
Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits.

Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

He Has An Unhealthy Lifestyle

If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this kind of guy.

Stay happy!

so you are saying there is a guy out there who is free of of all these bad habits... Hehe dream on...

Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by kense88: 3:48pm On May 19, 2018
Pavore9:
It is a requirement for both male and female.
Is easier to deal with someone who might actually want to fulfill a promise, but due to hardship of our country, he might just fail to fulfill all the promises than someone that has never made any promise since you met her, talkless of fulfilling one.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by yoged(m): 3:49pm On May 19, 2018
Greenbullet:
You are insane, I put my mother first, my wife is next.
but if women put their mother first, we guys will still complain. Why is that?
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 3:53pm On May 19, 2018
AmazonTopaz:

So what happens when you are married you would listen or choose your mother over your wife?Does your mother not have a husband?
My mom is always first cheesy

Although my future wife is going to be a close second

My mom has always been there for me, even when most ladies were not interested in me.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by kense88: 3:54pm On May 19, 2018
yoged:
but if women put their mother first, we guys will still complain. Why is that?
Can you justify ways women put there boy friend ahead of there mothers
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Geesaintagape: 3:56pm On May 19, 2018
Nice observations.
Even if a man doesn't not do ur list but weak in bed gals will runaway smartly
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by seunjungle1(m): 3:56pm On May 19, 2018
I am very sure that the stupid write up will distract some mugu ladies to leave their present man.
The writer is not under any man's umbrella why won't she write an unhealthy write up to mislead other ladies out there...Yoruba will say "da bi mo se da"~" become what I have become".
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by safarigirl(f): 3:56pm On May 19, 2018
That shouting one is a no-no for me. I hate guys who are quick to raise their voice, gives me shock.

Promise breakers and shouters I can agree. The rest is here and there really undecided

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Greenbullet(m): 4:01pm On May 19, 2018
yoged:
but if women put their mother first, we guys will still complain. Why is that?
all girls put their mothers first
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 4:09pm On May 19, 2018
tee59:
Lies, some guys do these and still have girls trolling over them. So far money is involved, girls of today will never mind d trash you wrote up here. shocked

And they are to be pitied. He didn't write trash.
The fact that you worship money doesn't mean all girls do.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by ajaymina(m): 4:13pm On May 19, 2018
drezzyx:
Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits.

Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First He doesn't Put God First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

He Has An Unhealthy Lifestyle

If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this kind of guy.

Stay happy!

Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Iceberg3: 4:14pm On May 19, 2018
LZAA:

So in other words ladies should not marry sarrki or Roger3D ehhn OP?

And a certain toothpick kinikon,expert234

grin grin

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by sexdoll: 4:15pm On May 19, 2018
okomile:
Don't marry a guy who goes to his family for advises on how to act in situations. If u marry such, u r doom for life

personal experience?

sorry for your terrible and hopeless situation. grin grin grin
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by LZAA: 4:21pm On May 19, 2018
Iceberg3:

And a certain toothpick kinikon,expert234
grin grin

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by ACE1010: 4:24pm On May 19, 2018
braine:
Is that all?? Everyone does these things. The women's side is way worse

Good talk my brother...... grin grin grin grin don't be surprise the poster might be guilty of ALL of the above !!

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by MirJay: 4:25pm On May 19, 2018
story for the gods.. who all this one epp...the fact is 21st century ladies will not marry you if your pocket empty...money money eh ego
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Rozaytee: 4:26pm On May 19, 2018
some men are professional concealers... they hide their character till u marry dem...a lady should just watch out and pray for any man she intends to marry
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by happyfm: 4:33pm On May 19, 2018
Good one, keep it up.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by enemyofprogress: 4:34pm On May 19, 2018
No wonder weddings dey scarce these days. Keep searching for angels to marry

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