Your best friend is dead, leaving behind a young widow with kids. You are currently single and there is a mutual attraction. Should you attempt to date and if there is a connection, marry her, or transfer your feelings to another eligible single woman?

I would not. I will only lend a helping hand. I must have been coveting my best friend's wife to want to marry her after he is gone and that feels wrong.

thank you but No. cant handle it neither can i carry the luggage. however, i did support her financially and emotionally if she needs it

Well, legally and morally (especially if there was no infidelity), you can marry her, but still, you wont be able to contain rumors that there was nothing going on during the duration of the marriage.

Ndipe:

Well, legally and morally (especially if there was no infidelity), you can marry her, but still, you wont be able to contain rumors that there was nothing going on during the duration of the marriage.

true. some might even argue you eliminated him so to be with him/her

mama-gee:

That's abominable!

How is that abominable?

^^^ I tire oh!

People just get unnecessarily sentimental on this forum!

Has it ever occured to you guys that maybe the late husband will rest easier if he knew his wife and beloved kids were in the hands of no other than his best friend, than a total stranger   

Yes, provided i have spoken with her and we understand each other and reach an agreement. Love & understanding should come first.

Depends on the circumstances of his death. Assuming, he did a high jump from a skyscraper 40days ago and you and the wife are now jollofing or planning to get married,you too will experience black magic!

it's not an abomination, but its a decision one would live to regret, people around you would see your happiness as a planned deal while if twas your trial times, it would be seen as a curse by the late husband.

I can't marry my friend's widow.

Ndipe:

but still, you wont be able to contain rumors that there was nothing going on during the duration of the marriage.

~Sissy~:

true. some might even argue you eliminated him so to be with him/her

You can never stop people from talking, but can always stop yourself from listening!

No

I have no problem with anybody doing it, but am not sure I can.

I can only guarantee my support to her and her kids.

coolier:

You can never stop people from talking, but can always stop yourself from listening!

true. but some rumors and suspicion can be very powerful that you cant just simply ignore them. some does get to you

Why should a man marry his best Friend's widow of all people?

mama-gee:

Why should a man marry his best Friend's widow of all people?

Is it morally or legally wrong?

There is nothing wrong marrying your best friend's widow for as long as you are not guilty or in some ways responsible for his death. Your intention to marry her must be on the basis of mutual love, understanding & commitment but not out of pity.

you will get hunted by your friend dead image for the rest of your life after being with her.honour your friend more by helping her to raise the kids and marry your own wife.is she also your missing rib?

I find that weird, but HEY if both of you have feelings for each others why not.

Cant do that for personal reasons, but its not an abomination if theres mutual feelings btw the two

I see nothing wrong with it unless they had an intimate relationship while the friend/partner was alive. People will talk no matter what you do.

You can marry her if you both so desire. There is nothing wrong in that. afterall most likely she will not remain a widow for ever, she will marry someone.

As long as you were not dating before the death of the husband, who the hell cares whether you marry a widow or not.

If you marry someone else, you can never help your friend's family as much as you want, your new wife will ensure you are not too close to give valuable help. women have a way of doing that.

But donot marry anyone out of pity. you might regret it.

and do not take advantage of her. She might just be down now due to the death of her spouse. Do you really think you are good for her?
She might marry you out of her current depression and later regret it

Nah

Yes, if she has no kids yet. But that will depend on the circumstances sorrounding my friends death.

Omo ehn . . this matter get weight oo . . . but wetin man pikin go do na? . . . we must commend.

Topic - I see no big deal for someone to marry his best friend's widow, afterall, there'r millions of women in nigeria

that'r under their 2nd marraige after their 1st husband died, and nothing is wrong with that.

some men are even aware of the womans problem before gettin married to them and they found nothing on it.

meanwhile, some are saying, if such happen's, the husband of the woman will hunt the friend. but i don't think so,

so long as both of them are 'best friends' it's not gonna happen, afterall, no be him friend kill am.

if a whyte man can even marry the wyfe of his enemy, why will it be a problem for a friend to marry the wyfe of his

best friend? omo nothin lyke dat abeg, d only tin wey dey dia be say, pipu go dey talk rubbish against u daz all!

yes and only if she's the only single lady left on earth,

yes i can. and i will!

y not i can if i love her after all d supposed husband is dead so?

there is noting too bad in marring your best friend's wife after death as long as you don't have hand in his death.

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