So yesterday I decided to let go of masturbation and have a feel of what real sex is like.. I used to have girlfriends I had sex with, even when I didn't have one I went to brothel to get off once in a while. In other words I used to like sex very much..

But the story changed as soon as I got accustomed to the act of masturbation vehemently. I'm somewhat very handsome so I had no problem pinning down girls. But I saw no need as I could derive the same pleasure for myself by myself.

To me intuitively masturbation is bad and can cause more harm than good medically, psychologically and mentally. But counter-intuitively in me the urge was so strong when the need arises.

As a matter of fact I have masturbated for almost 8 years now. Since I realized marriage will soon be in the picture, as aformentioned I decided to have sex yesterday with this beautiful girl.. Awful isn't even close to what I would use to describe the sex. After fore play for about ten minutes, then I slide in my dick. If I said I cum in not less than ten thrusts I would be exaggerating my sexual condition, but if I also said I lasted more than 3 minutes then I'm being modest and giving myself a false hope. Nairalanders I lasted less than a minute on top my girl... And the most embarrassing part is that all her efforts to get my already flaccid dick erected again was fruitless..

The enthusiasm that overwhelmed me during pre-intimacy became short-lived and replaced with embarrassment during penetration.

Contrary to popular belief here on Nairaland that masturbation doesn't have any negative effects on sexual performance, it actually does. So I'm taking this time out to urge anyone who indulge in it to stop.

No religious attachments to my admonition, so that's why I would say it's better to have real sex with the opposite gender than masturbate.

And lastly I'd like to seek advice, cure or insight from anyone here who knows a thing or two about my predicament or anyone who has been where I am now before. Prescription of any herb, drugs, drinks, fruit and a lifestyle that can serve as cure would be good too.


Sorry for the long write-up..

Please lalasticlala do the needful and let this hit front page.

Nothing new

really? did u experience it before?

babyfaceafrica:
Nothing new

darol4real:
really? did u experience it before?

if I hear....this things are relative though....Some people masturbates and perform excellently.. Some below par.....how you arrive that your poor showing is due yo masturbation beats me.... Their are different reasons for poor show...bad food,stress,too much excitement.. E..t.c

Nothing serious there

The only issue is that it didn't come up again and that could be attributed to anxiety

After long abstinence, the first round is most often very short, so you relax, work yourself up to sweat out the second round

hmmmm...i like this...share more..

babyfaceafrica:
if I hear....this things are relative though....Some people masturbates and perform excellently.. Some below par.....how you arrive that your poor showing is due yo masturbation beats me.... Their are different reasons for poor show...bad food,stress,too much excitement.. E..t.c

Masturbation is very bad, I'm so so against it.

babyfaceafrica:
if I hear....this things are relative though....Some people masturbates and perform excellently.. Some below par.....how you arrive that your poor showing is due yo masturbation beats me.... Their are different reasons for poor show...bad food,stress,too much excitement.. E..t.c

In my case I don't stress nor do I eat any bad food...

I didn't get excited as I have had sex before with a more beautiful girl..

So I believe it's caused by my incessant masturbation.

youcanmakeit:
Masturbation is very bad, I'm so so against it.

I used to wanna smack people like you for not advocating for masturbation.

But now that I have witnessed the harmful effects of it I'm only your side.

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babyfaceafrica:
if I hear....this things are relative though....Some people masturbates and perform excellently.. Some below par.....how you arrive that your poor showing is due yo masturbation beats me.... Their are different reasons for poor show...bad food,stress,too much excitement.. E..t.c

You again. Can you mention chronic mastubation addicts that live up to their potential? Despite different people complaining of the same thing, you ignore the linearity for your biased view. Is it until your children or husband starts complaining about porn before you take this issue seriously?

It's true that there are factors that can cause poor show but that doesn't mean that mastubation isn't part of it. Hian!

GutsOverFear:

I used to wanna smack people like you for not advocating for masturbation.

But now that I have witnessed the harmful effects of it I'm only your side.

You didn't tell us the memory problems brought about by mastubation.

Masturbation kills faster than we think. Those who find pleasure in it only do so because they haven't attempt having sex. By the time you meet with a woman, you will cum as quickly as you least expect. Now the difference between pleasure derived from masturbation and sex is that while in masturbation your hand is involved (squeezing hard to derive pleasure), in sex, no p*ss* is firm enough to squeeze your d*ck as your hands would hence the reason for Cumming too quickly. Even if you have the one that is firm enough to hold your "guy" as firmly as possible, a little winding would quench it to that normal state you've always trained it to behave. What most people that masturbate don't know is that masturbation involves a process of programming your genitals to behave in a consistent manner. That's why during sex, it acts the process of its training, living you more embarrassed than ever. STOP MASTURBATION NOW!

Martinez19:
You again. Can you mention chronic mastubation addicts that live up to their potential? Despite different people complaining of the same thing, you ignore the linearity for your biased view. Is it until your children or husband starts complaining about porn before you take this issue seriously?

It's true that there are factors that can cause poor show but that doesn't mean that mastubation isn't part of it. Hian!

ok

Tempo1644:


@GutsOverFear, this guy here got the best advice for you.
From your post it, that was your first with the lady, if the lady is classy, very beautiful or hard-to-get the first round is always full of unnecessary excitement which your long abstinence as accumulated.

Here is my summary, avoid masturbation, go for more than 2 rounds and don't expect the second round to be immediately (when you are not a porn star) just focus on the girl (forepla y) not on your joystick after first round, you will be amazed how soon your joystick will rise again

My 2 cent.

Thanks bro..

Maybe too much porn also made me wanna perform like a porn star.

Martinez19:
You didn't tell us the memory problems brought about by mastubation.

No such thing as memory loss or blindness or laziness in my case.

All I'm experiencing is weak erection and quick ejaculation.

And before you say masturbate isn't the cause; I just want you to know that I didn't use to suffer from those before I started masturbation...

I even had intercourse most times without cumming.

chuzydon:
Masturbation destroys your social life, you can't make good relationships with ladies. People that masturbate are more likely to visit brothels all the time.

Exactly..

In my case I even saw brothel as a waist of time when I could just pleasure myself.

All ladies became repulsive to me no matter how beautiful they might b.

I completely lost interest in sex.

Martinez19:
You again. Can you mention chronic mastubation addicts that live up to their potential? Despite different people complaining of the same thing, you ignore the linearity for your biased view. Is it until your children or husband starts complaining about porn before you take this issue seriously?

It's true that there are factors that can cause poor show but that doesn't mean that mastubation isn't part of it. Hian!

Bro masturbation is a huge part of it..

WordMetrix:
Masturbation kills faster than we think. Those who find pleasure in it only do so because they haven't attempt having sex. By the time you meet with a woman, you will cum as quickly as you least expect. Now the difference between pleasure derived from masturbation and sex is that while in masturbation your hand is involved (squeezing hard to derive pleasure), in sex, no p*ss* is firm enough to squeeze your d*ck as your hands would hence the reason for Cumming too quickly. Even if you have the one that is firm enough to hold your "guy" as firmly as possible, a little winding would quench it to that normal state you've always trained it to behave. What most people that masturbate don't know is that masturbation involves a process of programming your genitals to behave in a consistent manner. That's why during sex, it acts the process of its training, living you more embarrassed than ever. STOP MASTURBATION NOW!

So in other words the who problem can be solved if stopped?..

if you stop masturbation the body gets heal in a natural process,please masturbation is very bad stop it.

GutsOverFear
It is good you have decided to do away with masturbation, focus on that
Stopping it is a task itself
You are going to need all the strength you can gather
Shalom

columbus007:
if you stop masturbation the body gets heal in a natural process,please masturbation is very bad stop it.

Thanks for the hope

Apart from masturbating, you have other problems. Don't ask me because I don't know.

columbus007:
if you stop masturbation the body gets heal in a natural process,please masturbation is very bad stop it.

body get heal how? Body injure b4

Dollarship:
body get heal how? Body injure b4

bros it get heal no argue am.do you know how strenuous the preek must have gone through.

Lol.. this thread make me laugh..
I would say first it takes alot of guts for a dude to Come out and say you masturbate.. well doing this is first step towards recovery.. but note that if you have masturbated for that long it is now a habit and it is ingrained in your soul already so breaking free from such a habit is not gonna be easy.. it's gonna fight you back and like every drug addict there might be relapse.

Now talk about the issue of erection as long as there is no underlying cause you will be fine, I'm attributing this your case to anxiety.

Then some recommended lifestyle changes would be regular workouts to boost testosterone and diet change too.

Thank you.

This na free consultation I just give you so o.

The Quran cannot lie... Abstain! Abstain!! Abstain!!! Fast or get Married...

Mr2wealth:
Apart from masturbating, you have other problems. Don't ask me because I don't know.

Bro trust me there isn't

columbus007:
bros it get heal no argue am.do you know how strenuous the preek must have gone through.

Someone told me that the nerve endings to my preek is no longer strong due to the stress I have made it go through..

Dear op, it's all in your mind.

Drops pen!