I would advice you to follow what ever your heart tells you, if you are a christian, seek the face of God before you make a final decision. similar thing has happen to me, in the past, a guy dumped me after 8 good years of courtship, i was heart broken and that same period i met a guy whom i felt i will be able to get over my broken heart, we dated for a short while before we decided to settle down together, but today, i still see my ex far more better than my husband in terms of understanding a woman. But i have decided to stay, its all about tolerance and i want you to know that the devil that you know is better than an angel you have not seen. look before you leap.

Sad but true!

With what i have read here and seen around me, i just feel in this part of the world , Nigeria. Marriage is simply a CONTRACT or A Means to getting a certain way of life, irrespective of whose feelings is hurt in the process,  Am still not married though, cause i want to marry for the right reasons . Most people says am dreaming, that oh please Love does not exist just get married to any guy and start having babies and am like what the hell!. And something tells me, i will have to wait  longer for true love, and its so sad , that love doesnt exist to most people, There is no family unit anymore,  People are just selfish and draculian in nature, especially if one suspects u loves him or her deeply.
   Well, poster,  divorce can be an option but think will u be happier without him? and be alone for years without another man, thats if no other man wants anything serious with you,  Can u be happy and at peace without your husband?,  If yes? follow your heart, Best of luck.

ihujumbo:
Thanks ya all 4 replying this post,

Of course i have seen a counsellor but the feeling of wanting 2 leave seemed worst, but the feeling of fear is a bit ok,

[b]1forall[/b]
Thanks too, we've been married for two years now after dating for a year, I was heart broken when we met-- the fact is, he has been nice 2 me-- I am the one with the problem.
I am the wrong person here. -- I thought that with time, I will be able to love him for real,
The fct is, the more the days went by, the more I felt choked. I dont have a date outside if thats what u think-- I cant even make love with him-- its also affecting my getting pregnant- No kids yet.

you have seen someone else,that's the other wise you wouldn't have waited for three yrs to realise all these,typical naija babe alwsays looking for the best option even when married,I hope the new guy use and dump you...B!tch.

okk:
we all know that u have found a new guy, so dont play godie godie here.
if ur to leave, leave and shut the hell up.
i hate people like u that always wanna sugercoat a real ass situation.

GBAM

hildaa:
I would advice you to follow what ever your heart tells you, if you are a christian, seek the face of God before you make a final decision. similar thing has happen to me, in the past, a guy dumped me after 8 good years of courtship, i was heart broken and that same period i met a guy whom i felt i will be able to get over my broken heart, we dated for a short while before we decided to settle down together, but today, i still see my ex far more better than my husband in terms of understanding a woman. But i have decided to stay, its all about tolerance and i want you to know that the devil that you know is better than an angel you have not seen. look before you leap.

this is serious