[b] Okay lemme educated us Here about dating and what it entails, just watch ma space and learn feel free to contradict me......
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Dating is a bit like shopping. We're free to admire whatever we want but just because we want it, doesn't mean we have what it takes to walk out the store with it. The reality is, sometimes what we want isn't in our reach. We may have to come back once we've worked a little more.

In other words "You can't go to the dealership with #20,000 and expect to get the brand new BMW. You just don't have enough!"

: If you say you want a God fearing, debt free, ambitious, attractive and caring partner - that's perfectly fine. Just try to make sure you can deliver that to a similar level. U Digg? ��‍♂

It's a metaphor. Please relax."You don't ever have to lower your standards, but you may have to raise your qualifications."�

Now before people get in a tizzy about my initial statement - it's a metaphor. I'm not implying that people are inanimate objects (like someone will eventually suggest). I'm just highlighting similarities in processes.

It's human nature to want the best of the best. When we window shop, the best of the best will always grab our attention but that doesn't mean we can necessarily afford it.�

And sometimes when we open the packaging and realise some false advertising definitely took place 路♀️�


Note;, When we want something we can't afford, we either change our standards and go for something we can afford OR we generally walk away and come back once we've saved up enough. Sometimes in life, if you really want someone, you're going to have to save up (in a metaphorical sense)!�

A lot of people don't possess the traits they desire from a partner and that isn't necessarily the problem. The problem is people's unwillingness to admit that they don't possess those traits and their unwillingness to develop them.��‍♂

If you want an 'amazing' man or woman and you have started the process of developing yourself to a similar level, that amazing man or woman may even join you on your journey of self development, because they're recognising your effort.�

If you want an 'amazing' man or woman and you're unwilling to accept that you need to change and you need to put some work in, you can generally kiss that person goodbye. Your options are: 'Change your standards and expectations' or 'Step up to the plate'. It's that simple.���‍♂

: It's not that I'm comparing people to objects in a negative way. It's a metaphorical illustration which is a common tool used in literature to express an idea in a different way.

: It's possible even when it’s not “right” cus sometimes even what u want to purchase isn’t always what it seems when u get it home and because of so many reasons u want a refund!

cc @ mods kindly push this to front page It's educative enough for those in a relationship and those planning on being in a relationship,
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