Planning is a required regime for success for any individual. Some persons do have their plans on how and when they want to achieve some life’s goals. The age of when to get married amongst men and women is not an exception but sometimes your plans don’t usually work out as planned due to some factors beyond your control.
What do you do when your plans for marriage doesn’t materialize as planned?
Comparison is not healthy for anyone aiming at reaching their goals in life, same ideology is applicable on the debate of the appropriate age to get married as a woman and a man respectively. Different strokes for different folks, some will prefer getting married in their teens, others when they are in their early twenties, some when they are ready and functional enough to solve their own problems and help someone else with theirs. Alot of factors helps in determining the age one get married for women and men, some of this include; Parental influence determining the marriage age bracket for their children, for instance in some families they is a laid down principle as regards what age to get married. Peer influence is also a factor for some people as to what age is acceptable to get married even if they are not ready. Cultural beliefs dictates the most suitable age to marry a lady out, most often from the ages of 15 for women and 20 for men.

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i think 19-22 for women. 30-35 for men.
women at that age have all the freshness and naivette.
men at that age have all the maturity and moola.

The age at which you end up marrying and also decide to stay in it. That is your individual right age. Stepping out of it means you still not at your right age. Having in mind that not everyone is meant to marry. Think twice before you enter into it(marriage)

Sistar:
The age at which you end up marrying and also decide to stay in it. That is your individual right age. Stepping out of it means you still not at your right age. Having in mind that not everyone is meant to marry. Think twice before you enter into it(marriage)

what makes you think some people are not meant to marry?

MISEDUCATIONS:
what makes you think some people are not meant to marry?

What happened to Solomon's 300 concubines

What would have happened to 699 wives if he had married just one??

What happened to the supposed 699 husbands who would have married the 699 wives but didn't, if he had married just 1 wife out of the 700

This is a proof that everybody is not meant to marry. And there maybe were not enough men each for a woman respectively in his time.

And then another questions:
If a young young man dies in an accident, what would happen to his supposed wife and vice versa if everybody was meant to marry??

Life is full of questions such that one has no choice but to allow those who will marry, marry. Allow things be the way they are.

MISEDUCATIONS:
what makes you think some people are not meant to marry?

Firstly we have the Fathers . Sisters.
We have Single mothers. Single fathers .
All are happy and prefer to remain like that than to marry or remarry as the case may be.
Some committed murder on their spouses and are reminded in the prisons.
Some lost their lives on marrying.
Somes are just coping in their marriage and wishing they had not taken such step.
Only few are happily married and not having extra marital affairs.
Only few are happily married and having good inner relationship with their inlaws.
Marriage they say is not a bed of roses. Its a school you get into to learn real life experience with you in the picture. And if your not full of patience you might graduate with a divorce certificate. (Which is a stigma in Nigeria)
My advice. Dont rush in so you wont rush out.

Bluezy13:


What happened to Solomon's 300 concubines

What would have happened to 699 wives if he had married just one??

What happened to the supposed 699 husbands who would have married the 699 wives but didn't, if he had married just 1 wife out of the 700

This is a proof that everybody is not meant to marry. And there maybe were not enough men each for a woman respectively in his time.

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are you sure her statement was because of numbers? or something else? thats why i asked her. mind you i didnt oppose her or support her i just asked Why she says so

Sistar:

Firstly we have the Fathers . Sisters.
We have Single mothers. Single fathers .
All are happy and prefer to remain like that than to marry or remarry as the case may be.
Some committed murder on their spouses and are reminded in the prisons.
Some lost their lives on marrying.
Somes are just coping in their marriage and wishing they had not taken such step.
Only few are happily married and not having extra marital affairs.
Only few are happily married and having good inner relationship with their inlaws.
Marriage they say is not a bed of roses. Its a school you get into to learn real life experience with you in the picture. And if your not full of patience you might graduate with a divorce certificate. (Which is a stigma in Nigeria)
My advice. Dont rush in so you wont rush out.

if we were to take your word for it you would think married people are miserable.
why do you hate marriage?

For MEN; When you are capable and ready (Financially, Faithfulness, maturity and emotionally) to take responsibilities of your family as a husband and father, then you are good to go. Not necessarily age.


For WOMEN; When you are ready to be a wife, mother, respectful, supporting and submissive as a wife to a man, then you are good to go. Age is important for women.

Sistar:

Firstly we have the Fathers . Sisters.
We have Single mothers. Single fathers .
All are happy and prefer to remain like that than to marry or remarry as the case may be.
Some committed murder on their spouses and are reminded in the prisons.
Some lost their lives on marrying.
Somes are just coping in their marriage and wishing they had not taken such step.
Only few are happily married and not having extra marital affairs.
Only few are happily married and having good inner relationship with their inlaws.
Marriage they say is not a bed of roses. Its a school you get into to learn real life experience with you in the picture. And if your not full of patience you might graduate with a divorce certificate. (Which is a stigma in Nigeria)
My advice. Dont rush in so you wont rush out.

I beg to differ in your opinion.
That people experience difficult, unfavourable and bitter marital livelihoods isn't a substantial modus operandi to infer that marriage is not meant for everyone.
Maybe these same victims of marital malady would have been happy if they were bonded with the RIGHT partners (it's just a thought).
Maybe some of them are the cause of their predicaments.
Maybe it was their fate.
Maybe...just maybe.

MISEDUCATIONS:
are you sure her statement was because of numbers? or something else? thats why i asked her. mind you i didnt oppose her or support her i just asked Why she says so

Her Statement summarized that marriage isn't meant for everyone.
I had to air my view base on the question you asked her. I did understand you weren't on a particular side in your question.
And I'm being neutral as well. Just thought it wise to throw some light.

Bluezy13:


Her Statement summarized that marriage isn't meant for everyone.
I had to air my view base on the question you asked her. I did understand you weren't on a particular side in your question.
And I'm being neutral as well. Just thought it wise to throw some light.

is this being neutral?

Bluezy13:


What happened to Solomon's 300 concubines

What would have happened to 699 wives if he had married just one??

What happened to the supposed 699 husbands who would have married the 699 wives but didn't, if he had married just 1 wife out of the 700

This is a proof that everybody is not meant to marry. And there maybe were not enough men each for a woman respectively in his time.

And then another questions:
If a young young man dies in an accident, what would happen to his supposed wife and vice versa if everybody was meant to marry??

Life is full of questions such that one has no choice but to allow those who will marry, marry. Allow things be the way they are.

MISEDUCATIONS:
is this being neutral?

I asked some series of questions which I know has no answers. From the unanswerable questions, I was forced to hint that it was a proof that everybody is not meant to marry. And then again, from these same questions I concluded that "Life is full of questions such that one has no choice but to allow those who will marry, marry"

Then in addressing her, I kept repeating... "Maybe... "


Now, to answer your question:
Absolutely, I'm being neutral!!
I only asked questions to throw some light without being braised.

Bluezy13:

I asked some series of questions which I know has no answers. From the unanswerable questions, I was forced to hint that it was a proof that everybody is not meant to marry. And then again, from these same questions I concluded that "Life is full of questions such that one has no choice but to allow those who will marry, marry"

Then in addressing her, I kept repeating... "Maybe... "


Now, to answer your question:
Absolutely, I'm being neutral!!
I only asked questions to throw some light without being braised.

in Supporting her what would you say?

MISEDUCATIONS:
in Supporting her what would you say?

I can't support or counter her opinion.
Refer to my message to her.
I'm of the opinion that some things are better left the way they are.

Bluezy13:


I can't support or counter her opinion.
Refer to my message to her.
I'm of the opinion that some things are better left the way they are.

why cant you support or counter her?

Bluezy13:


I beg to differ in your opinion.
That people experience difficult, unfavourable and bitter marital livelihoods isn't a substantial modus operandi to infer that marriage is not meant for everyone.
Maybe these same victims of marital malady would have been happy if they were bonded with the RIGHT partners (it's just a thought).
Maybe some of them are the cause of their predicaments.
Maybe it was their fate.
Maybe...just maybe.

Well i only answered the why question. (From my observation)
And you can see i concluded that with *dont rush in...

MISEDUCATIONS:
why cant you support or counter her?

Because it is unwise to do either.

Bluezy13:

Because it is unwise to do either.

do you vote? or you stay neutral and never vote?

Sistar:

Well i only answered the why question. (From my observation)
And you can see i concluded that with *dont rush in...

Obviously.

To avoid ambiguity, I think it is wisely pertinent we conclude that this phenomenon of marriage is individualistic.
I hope you get my point.

MISEDUCATIONS:
if we were to take your word for it you would think married people are miserable.
why do you hate marriage?

No marriage is not meant to be miserable. But because most of us just rush into it...forgetting that both of you came from different background. Had diferrent home training and see life diferrently.
So coming together as one shouldnt be a union to rush into
Marriage is beautufil
Smiles

MISEDUCATIONS:
do you vote? or you stay neutral and never vote?

I vote if and only if there is a course ... I repeat, course to vote for.

In this case, I can't vote as I'll end up offsetting a rhetorical balance beyond the human mind.
I mean questions are there about marriage that have no answers within the power of our human mental faculty, in which any attempt to answer it offsets its opposite sides thereby being narrow-minded.
I would have cast my vote if and only if there was a common generalized view about this thing called marriage

MISEDUCATIONS:
if we were to take your word for it you would think married people are miserable.
why do you hate marriage?

No marriage is not meant to be miserable. But because most of us just rush into it...forgetting that both of you came from different background. Had diferrent home training and see life diferrently.
So coming together as one shouldnt be a union to rush into
Marriage is beautiful
Smiles

Bluezy13:


Obviously.

To avoid ambiguity, I think it is wisely pertinent we conclude that this phenomenon of marriage is individualistic.
I hope you get my point.

Yes i do. Its subjective

Sistar:

No marriage is not meant to be miserable. But because most of us just rush into it...forgetting that both of you came from different background. Had diferrent home training and see life diferrently.
So coming together as one shouldnt be a union to rush into
Marriage is beautiful
Smiles

lets get married and prove you wrong

MISEDUCATIONS:
lets get married and prove you wrong

Its obvious you still didnt get my drift.
DO NOT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE.
Smiles and what makes you feel am single...

Sistar:

Its obvious you still didnt get my drift.
DO NOT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE.
Smiles and what makes you feel am single...

who said we have to marry tomorrow?

There is none as levels of maturity cannot be universal, finances need to be factored into that as well and besides some people are not suitable for marriage. Or want to be married.

Since its most men do the Marrying, this age thing really should be directed to them also age is just a number.

Love conquers all irrespective of age

However for a man money would make thinhs much easier considering he is more likely to be the breadwinner.

But since U asked for age i did say 20-25 yrs females, 25-35yrs males

Still 22, my plan is to get married by 26. I hope everything works well.. So far, there isn't any girl✌️✌️ ���.

With the way the world is going now who marriage epp