A man keeps himself for marriage and hope to marry a virgin like him
he falls inlove with the woman of his dreams. he asked her if she had had sex in her life
she says no (after all na love making she do not sex )
After the wedding the man discovers that his wife is soooo xperienced(girl had to show bobo where to put it )
as a guy will u feel cheated? as a girl do u think it is fair to the guy?
goodguy if u happen to read this pls tell wat u would do

If u decide to keep your virginity (like me)..it should be for a cogent reason else u'll loose it soon.
Keeping it just for your wedding night is useless to me.
I don't care if i marry a V or a former Ho. The state of the aso rock is a non issue. What matters is there is an aso rock there.

Moreover, y'all folks shouldnt see Virgins as okobo. I know the morphology and understand the vagina more than some ladies (seriously). I can tell u the histology. I know sopme folks will wave that off as 'story'. But my question is "What so special in making love before marriage? Its just to offset builtup passion.
Experience or no experience is inconsequential here. All u need do is listen to each other, u'll be fine. Afterall u became good due to constant premarital sex..u can also become good due to constant marital sex

hotspice:

After the wedding the man discovers that his wife is soooo xperienced(girl had to show bobo where to put it )
as a guy will u feel cheated? as a girl do u think it is fair to the guy?

So if the wife shows bobo where to put it, does that mean she's not a virgin?

IAh... i think wat she meant was that, she knew everything and sh!T.


But seriosuly, it's not fair to the dude.

If she hadn't lied to him, i would understand. But she told him she was a virgin, and then he had to find out she lied to him. If he knew that she wasn't a virgin, that woulda been a better case.

yeah it really isnt fair

What isn't fair? If it was the other way round would anyone have any complaints?

layi:

If u decide to keep your virginity (like me)..it should be for a cogent reason else u'll loose it soon.
Keeping it just for your wedding night is useless to me.
I don't care if i marry a V or a former Ho. The state of the aso rock is a non issue. What matters is there is an aso rock there.

Moreover, y'all folks shouldnt see Virgins as okobo. I know the morphology and understand the vagina more than some ladies (seriously). I can tell u the histology. I know sopme folks will wave that off as 'story'. But my question is "What so special in making love before marriage? Its just to offset builtup passion.
Experience or no experience is inconsequential here. All u need do is listen to each other, u'll be fine. Afterall u became good due to constant premarital sex..u can also become good due to constant marital sex

Intelligent post

life goes on. Any gain in killing urself over something ul later get more or less tired of?

it don't make much diffrence does it? I guess this kind of question stems from inferiority complex felt by women. I dont think a man would ask this kind of question if it is the other way round

oooh!!!nanana!!!!that will be very unfair to the dude........if the girl lied to him that she is a virgin.. but if she already told him the truth that her no virgin then there's no problem because he was willing to take her by himself knowing that she very very experienced............

If the truth had been said,its ok but if she shd lie dt she's a V,its really unfair.

In a way I think it is unfair because she has lied to him.
But if she had confessed that she has had sex in her life and if he had said then: "Hmm.. I don't want to marry you then.", I think he would not really love her. I think it isn't a blemish if a girl is no virgin. We are living in the 21 st century!!!! And there is more to love in a woman (or a man) than just the fact if she (or he) is virgin or not....

hotspice:


After the wedding the man discovers that his wife is soooo xperienced(girl had to show bobo where to put it )

But is the fact, that she knows where to put the penis, enough to discover that she is no virgin?? I mean: I was still a virgin when I already knew where a guy has to put it...!!!

the virgin man na epa (groundnut)! how can he let such a foolish thing happen to him? the bobo na mugu

How are we sure he's really a virgin (since there's no way to know). He might even be pretending..

exactly

men dont pretend to be virgin. in fact, a virgin guy will say he has done it 100 times!

babymine:

How are we sure he's really a virgin (since there's no way to know). He might even be pretending..

Exactly!!!

dejiolowe:

men don't pretend to be virgin. in fact, a virgin guy will say he has done it 100 times!

But if he is a bad lover, pretending he had done it 100 times will be of no advantage for him....

That was very unfair to the guy, but if he has over 60% other reasons to love her he should let her know she hashurt him and just forgive her.

If u decide to keep your virginity (like me)..it should be for a cogent reason else u'll loose it soon.
Keeping it just for your wedding night is useless to me.
I don't care if i marry a V or a former Ho. The state of the aso rock is a non issue. What matters is there is an aso rock there.

Moreover, y'all folks shouldnt see Virgins as okobo. I know the morphology and understand the vagina more than some ladies (seriously). I can tell u the histology. I know sopme folks will wave that off as 'story'. But my question is "What so special in making love before marriage? Its just to offset builtup passion.
Experience or no experience is inconsequential here. All u need do is listen to each other, u'll be fine. Afterall u became good due to constant premarital sex..u can also become good due to constant marital sex

I would also like to say that this guy has said it well with regards to virgin issues.
These days virgins(male/female) are seen as fools or okobos by thier peers,and this pushes them to go "open" their corks just to "feel among". Strangely, these peers that tease and call u names like "slacker","okobo" and other ishs do this because they feel bad they couldn't control themselves like u.THIS IS A FACT/TRUTH.
But funny enuff, these same peers actually respect u internally for keeping urself but dont want to say it(some say it at some point when they see u stand ur ground for real and wont waver.).
people who keep thier virginity do this for different reasons. some spiritual, some mental/psychological, some physical and some just do it for no reason. But one thing i have come to discover is that when 2 virgins get married, it helps improve the "trust guage" in thier marriage......its a spiritual union and not a sport to be broken just for records or a register to be marked.

viper

Let me reciprocate the gesture

. But one thing i have come to discover is that when 2 virgins get married, it helps improve the "trust guage" in their marriage.its a spiritual union and not a sport to be broken just for records or a register to be marked.

I would also like to say that this lady has said it well with regards to trust issues.
If you are both virgins, trust would come naturally, you wont have to force it.

layi:

If you are both virgins, trust would come naturally, you wont have to force it.

I think this is not true !!!

Imagine you are virgin and you marry someone who is virgin, too. Then this doesn't lead to trust necessarily... There could be the "danger" that your partner gets the feeling one day he or she had missed out on something. Or perhaps you get this feeling...I mean: If you marry someone and this is your first sexual partner in your life then perhaps you want to make the experience with someone else one day.... Perhaps you want to test how sex with someone else is.... That is just natural... Everyone is curious... So, virginity is NOT a guarantee for trust in a marriage... I think it is better to make different experiences first... Ok, I am in favour of trust, fidelity, reliance... When I love someone I don't cheat him.. But perhaps I don't do this because I have made my experiences before... Perhaps I would not be satisfied if I had been a virgin before..

dejiolowe:

men don't pretend to be virgin. in fact, a virgin guy will say he has done it 100 times!

well said

Rhodalyn:

well said

Michaela:

I think this is not true !!!

Imagine you are virgin and you marry someone who is virgin, too. Then this doesn't lead to trust necessarily,  There could be the "danger" that your partner gets the feeling one day he or she had missed out on something. Or perhaps you get this feeling, I mean: If you marry someone and this is your first sexual partner in your life then perhaps you want to make the experience with someone else one day,  Perhaps you want to test how sex with someone else is,  That is just natural,  Everyone is curious, 

You are excellently wrong! Everyone is not curious.
It's not natural to want to taste other apples. In fact there are humans who don't fancy tasting apples. It depends on our individual personalities.

Michaela:

I think this is not true !!!
So, virginity is NOT a guarantee for trust in a marriage, 

No one says it guarantees. Truth is it helps build (improve) trust. Several possibilities would have been waived, and i'm sure u get what i mean.

Michaela:

I think it is better to make different experiences first,  Ok, I am in favour of trust, fidelity, reliance,  When I love someone I don't cheat him,  But perhaps I don't do this because I have made my experiences before,  Perhaps I would not be satisfied if I had been a virgin before, 

Do you have to cheat to learn not to cheat? Its like saying i want to steal 1 billion dollars so i wont have to steal again. Thats self deception.

Like they say , a virgin lady wouldnt know if ur pennis is smal or big. She's is satified with U. She doesnt need to compare. Statistics shows that a whole lot of people have problems wit their relationships because of their ex more than any other reason. Its better u stay virgin (if u r one)

There's nothing wrong.

@hotspice
IAH said

So if the wife shows bobo where to put it, does that mean she's not a virgin?

thanks IAH, really, i would love hotspice to explain.
In this present age, I would count such a guy to be stupid, not to know where to put it.

@hotspice

A man keeps himself for marriage and hope to marry a virgin like him
he falls inlove with the woman of his dreams. he asked her if she had had sex in her life
she says no (after all na love making she do not sex )
After the wedding the man discovers that his wife is soooo xperienced(girl had to show bobo where to put it )
as a guy will u feel cheated? as a girl do u think it is fair to the guy?
goodguy if u happen to read this please tell what u would do

I believe that before the marriage, Romeo should have told Juliet all his secrets, and vice-versa, so there'll be no more secrets that need finding out after "I Do".

so first, if the marriage was based on deception like you have described, then I bet there'll be more heavy tales that would shake them both as time goes by.

but if i was the girl that had lied to my guy, and in order to still protect my past, maybe i wouldnt bother telling him where to put it. If I dont get preggy in the next 9-months then ill suggest that maybe he had put it into the wrong place the first time, thats why it didnt work, abi,

Layi n Viper, thanks, u guys practically took d words out of my mouth. Bles ur hearts.
This is a forum where people say a lotta things based on what suits them, n somehow someway, others are influenced 4 good or bad!
Whateva we do pls, ALWAYS UNDERSTAND d REASON for which u are doing or not doing something. Like it is always said, STAND 4 SOMETHING OR U'L FALL 4 ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING! Being a virgin doesn't mean that one is a mugu as it is perceived these days.
For the case cited, it was actualy wrong 4 d lady to lie.

@dominobaby

Whateva we do please, ALWAYS UNDERSTAND d REASON for which u are doing or not doing something. Like it is always said, STAND 4 SOMETHING OR U'L FALL 4 ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING! Being a virgin doesn't mean that one is a mugu as it is perceived these days.
For the case cited, it was actualy wrong 4 d lady to lie.

thank you dominobaby,
Please tell them again.

The reason why many youths get into trouble is that they like to copy copy. Worse is that bad things are easier to copy than good things.

Yeah kimba, thanks, i'l keep saying it o, True talk, bad things are easier to copy, awww.

i dnt think its fair,but isn't it also applicable to a virgin wife and an experienced guy?

hmmm, layi n his words. Nice talk.

just seeing this thread Since January? where hav u been lizzy?