hey people,
this is one issue that causes tension between husbands and wives. in this part of the world, it is usually custom to have ones extended family co- habiting with a married couple. the couple at times is left with little or no privacy. it could be from the lady's part or the man's part. hey, air your views.

As im hoping and praying and sure that me and my husband will be financially blessed. No in-law is gon live with us. I'll get them their own place if they don't have one.

Where were they living before we got married? they should go and live there jare.

Seriously, i don't think i will be able to stand any in-law drama in my home.

I don't think I would love to stay with in-laws too. They should go and live where they were living before my husband and I got married.

yeah itz not advisable coz problems u never expected would arise
very serious problems

i dont think i would want to live with in-laws either but if worst comes to worst and i have no choice, i will try to be as accommodating as i can be and if they keep messing up as in invading my privacy and disprupting my home, either i give them fire for fire or i chase them out _{thats what i'm most likely to do}

Na me and my hussy alone o, i no want disturbance abeg.

One can't predict wats gonna happen d next min so i'd rather not allow any in - law moreover ds would have been settled by I & my hussy b4 marriage.

where them dey when we never marry? them dem craze.

Bring it on! Am equal to the task, mother-in-law, sister- in-law or both. I can handle them,hands down, no shaking! I am lethal myself

alheri:

Bring it on! Am equal to the task, mother-in-law, sister- in-law or both. I can handle them,hands down, no shaking! I am lethal myself

You go girl! _{*thumbs up*}

hey, lets view it from this angle. what if b4 u got married, ur sister-inlaw was living with ur husband, u got married, had a baby.ur mother was indisposed,she couldnt make it 4 the "omugwo". ur mother in-law decides to come. she comes and stays 4 a month, 2, 3 ,4. and all this time ,u could never do any good in her eyes, her daughter on 1 side is giving u hassles. then news came that her house got razed and all her belongins gone save for what she came with.what do u suggest happen to her and her daughter? who is the lesser devil?
more views expected

Well, since they are now homeless I will definately let them stay with me. But on my terms! They must all earn thier keep. If I have a house help, I'll let her go cause my sis-in-law will take over her duties. My mother -in-law of cause will have the job of a nanny(will save me money on daycare). Honestly, in-laws only take a mile when you let them. I let mine realise from the begining that I was no mumu and since they know my background and know that its not like am coming from the ghetto, the recognise and I on my own will always represent!
Dont get me wrong, I have never had any quarrel or problems with my in-laws. I stayed with my in-laws for over a year cause my husband was always travelling at one time. But throughout that time, I made them understand that noone can boss me around. My husband believes that as long as am not rude and disrespectful, I should carry go!

they both suuuck.if they come live in my house then it's under my set of rules and regulations!!!whether they like it or like it not!!!!

cheekee:

they both suuuck.if they come live in my house then it's under my set of rules and regulations!!!whether they like it or like it not!!!!

alheri:

Well, since they are now homeless I will definately let them stay with me. But on my terms! They must all earn their keep. If I have a house help, I'll let her go cause my sis-in-law will take over her duties. My mother -in-law of cause will have the job of a nanny(will save me money on daycare). Honestly, in-laws only take a mile when you let them. I let mine realise from the begining that I was no mumu and since they know my background and know that its not like am coming from the ghetto, the recognise and I on my own will always represent!
Dont get me wrong, I have never had any quarrel or problems with my in-laws. I stayed with my in-laws for over a year cause my husband was always travelling at one time. But throughout that time, I made them understand that noone can boss me around. My husband believes that as long as am not rude and disrespectful, I should carry go!

THUMBS UP GUYS !!!!!!! i dey feel una abeg! carry on jo!

Though its not really right for someone to become a mugu in this case but at the same time,one needs to be patient.I can only do all what u're saying if only my in - laws are too stubborn and wicked.Its not all in - laws that are bad so i wont say anything as i even pray i have a nice in - law when the time comes.

Rolly:

i don't think i would want to live with in-laws either but if worst comes to worst and i have no choice, i will try to be as accommodating as i can be and if they keep messing up as in invading my privacy and disprupting my home, either i give them fire for fire or i chase them out _{thats what i'm most likely to do}

u are right

The best i can is accomodate kids from the family for some reasons

For ma mother or sister in law to live with me

Maybe ma wife is pregnant or they are on visit

Any other thing

plllleeaasseeee

not even ma family would live with me

Thanx jare hot-angel

I was about to say i would get them thier own place & pay 6 months rent

Let them carry on from there

GOD BLESS US ALL FINANCIALLY

AMEN

By the way , your freedom would be limited if you have extrenal bodies living with you

Don't you want to have s*x all round the house

In the sitting room

On the couch



In the bathroom





They would even start sniffing thoughts into ma wife's brains

NOOOOOOO

Am sorry , you can't live with me

Not for more than 1 year

None of them should come live with us, they can visit sha.

They can come visit but please they would go after visiting.

both are lethal

which one can live with me ?
family members and friends including mine can only vist 2 twice a year and has to say in a hotel if its more than 3 days

I hate any -inlaw thingy- they had better stay away from me!

i can stand mother-in-law but can't stand sister-in-law. they are devil incarnate.

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Is it even right that they should live with you? Visiting from time to time to see the kids, son/brother, visiting for visiting sake and maybe to spend three days or a week at most is ideal by me. But to live? That's a recipe for disaster.

They can come and live with me for holidays only, especially if I live in a very big house where I don't have to bump into them always ( I love my space). Actually it depends on the character of the in laws, if they are the kind that would turn Stillwater into turbulent waters, then I'm sorry you can't live with me. Please don't overstay your welcome anytime you are on holidays, thank you.

Well if you watch too many nollywood movies then yes you will not want your in-laws to stay with you.

But if you get to know and talk with your in-laws majority of the time you wil find them easy to get along with and they will respect your privacy as much as possible.

Afterall your bedroom is your own and if i had a child married i be happy if they are constantly at it at night .I want grandchild !

@bolex,@rolly@cheeke@thonias@kellygir@christy@iah@oracle.thank god ladies of my age n generation (20's) are now waking up.they are not going to take d rubbish mother n sis in laws gave 2 dia dota inlaws.unlike my momsi's set were mother inlaws come n dictate wot goes on in dia sons house,starting from just a weekend extending 2 months n things get outa control but ill love it if my moda inlaw can respect my privacy (myself n my husband) by not living with us 4 woteva reason.if i even have a baby i'll rather be com4table with a nany dan d moda inlaw thingy.at least nany will come n go.- ,except occasional visits sha.n we'll also have d tym,privacy n space 2 do our tin in d kitchen,sittingroom,corridor etc.as 4 cases of house getting burnt or accomodationissues i dont mind using my personal money 2 foot d bills 4 dia accomodation.i'll protect n defend my boundaries real good wen it comes 2 d inlaw thingy

Based on the majority replies from ladies on this forum, it's now obvious that girls of nowadays are plain wicked and stupid. . . Yes, I said it.

As for me, I will accomodate any of them whether my wife likes it or not.

@metal gong am sure ure a yoruba dude.dey r d ones dat like accomodating extended family members,usually women.tufia so wen d husband n wife has a lil disagreement he'll go n tell his moda.he can even tell his moda dat his wife refused 2 av sex wit him.nyway thank god my fiancee respect n understands d choices n decisions i make.i pray my other sis will not fall in luv wit people like u whose opinion or decisions doesnt matter 2 dem

Depends on your relationship with them oh. Some In- Laws are God sent. I dont live with them but we spend a lot of time together, I hang out a lot with mother and sister in law. We are really close, my prayer for every woman is to have a mother in law like mine and to be really respectful and humble. My Mother In law can move mountains for me, her words of wisdom, prayers and daily encouragement i cant do without. My sister in law is just so special, am older but we re like sisters, she is my fashion muse, cos she is a designer. If you see me looking good, thank my Sister In law