Faher:

Haha, you're in the minority.
Most ladies like 'em tough
Am I wrong, ladies?

What would be your definition of tough?

I know a lot of my friends have a no - tear rule, not crying - TEAR!! Not now, not ever, not on the wedding day, not ever.

They believe men shouldn't have tears.

But I. .  lol, want a human being not a robot, and I want the truth, and not a man who straightens himself and puts on a front just to address me.

There is something very fascinating and alluring about a man who is composed, but on rare occasions, you see him be human, and feel the way I do. If he never cried, I would not be able to differentiate between levels of pain, and I prefer implosive than explosive. I don't like men who shout "I SAID I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT!!" - not a good point for me. I would prefer the strong silent type

(I wish to modify the poll to make option 2 and 3 the same option - but I guess the totals will just be added together - they are basically the same idea).

Faher:

Ha ha, you're in the minority.
Most ladies like EM tough
Am I wrong, ladies?

topup:

What would be your definition of tough?

I know a lot of my friends have a no - tear rule, not crying - TEAR!! Not now, not ever, not on the wedding day, not ever.

They believe men shouldn't have tears.

But I. .  lol, want a human being not a robot, and I want the truth, and not a man who straightens himself and puts on a front just to address me.

There is something very fascinating and alluring about a man who is composed, but on rare occasions, you see him be human, and feel the way I do. If he never cried, I would not be able to differentiate between levels of pain, and I prefer implosive than explosive. I don't like men who shout "I SAID I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT!!" - not a good point for me. I would prefer the strong silent type

(I wish to modify the poll to make option 2 and 3 the same option - but I guess the totals will just be added together - they are basically the same idea).

madlady:

Correct, your wrong. I hate tough guys.

Give me a soft hearted guy any day.

Faher:


Well, it's nice to see your type for a change. I'm not bashing you, I'm just stating the norm.
There are still many soft guys around though, so you'll find one for sure.

Me, I've been hardened by my experiences in life and with women. I'd love to shed a tear every now and then but I simply can't cry no matter the situation (except in extreme physical pain).

Carolece:

I like a guy who is not afraid to show his emotions.

If I laugh, he laughs with me.
If I cry, he crys with me.

I want a man who is not afraid to express by words and back it up with actions.

Faher:

Haha, really? Ladies like guys to cry with them? This is a first.

Carolece:

So you dont cry? What if there's a situation where you had to be there for your wife/gf and it is so solemn that she's crying you would laugh while she's crying?

Faher:

Honestly, this is beginning to crack me up, haha.

Of course, I won't laugh at her.
I'll just say sweet words to her and soothe her so she feels comfortable to cry and let everything out.
But cry with her? no f3king way!!!

Faher:

^^^ fantastic. Good for you
My type of women are very very rare too

Btw, the type of men you described are not rare at all

Carolece:

Why did you change your post. See, you have alot of issues. Coward. Stay in your make belief world. I am over in the real world, one day you will get over here, hope it wont be too late though. You need to wake up and smell the damn coffee.

Faher:

Wow, this is turning out to be one of those threads where ladies claim one thing and do the opposite in the real world.

It's common to hear ladies say that a soft guy is a no-no because they want a guy who is tough and can make them feel secure.

so why all the forming here?

Faher:

This is what happens when one argues with an immature person. They start attacking you personally, Haha.

stilphunky:

 a soft hearted guy in issues of the heart tends to be soft hearted to certain degree in other areas.

topup:

No we're not forming!! Typically, with no insult intended, the louder more brash ladies, need more agressive and louder and macho guys, whilst more sensitive ladies, find a deep and strong type very attractive.

You will find in my group of friends, my most insecure friends shouting that they want macho guys, whilst my quieter mroe reserved friends saying that they like sensitive guys, but beware, a lot of insecure ladies like gentle guys too, because they'll be gentle with them.

Do not believe that there is just ONE view.

I'm tired of guys saying being BIG and BULKY is what women want.

Find what you're woman wants, but most of all be what you want!!

Carolece:

Heard that punchline already, try something else buddy. Thats all you had? Coward!

Carolece:

Heard that punchline already, try something else buddy. Thats all you had? Coward!

Carolece:

I think it would serve them best if they be what they really [B]ARE[/B]

topup:

Where's the challenge in that?? Not a lot of people are where they want to be, leaving many women the false hope of 'changing a guy into a better man'.

I get what you mean though - if you're referring to people pretending, but I'm talking about aiming for better.

rokiatu:

I like a tough guy who handles me softly when I need a shoulder. In other words,
a manly guy with feelings.

rokiatu:

I like a tough guy who handles me softly when I need a shoulder. In other words,
a manly guy with feelings.