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Should I Always Tell My Lover The Truth? I Am Confused by ty4real123: 5:46pm On Aug 14, 2018 |
Should I always Tell My Lover the truth?
In conversations these days, I often hear ladies say “I tell him
everything; I can’t hide anything from my boyfriend.” At other
times, I hear guys say “I do not tell my girlfriend everything; I
deliberately mind what I tell her.”
How honest should one be in a relationship and how much
truth should couples reveal to each other when they are
dating?
Some couples tell each other everything which in some cases
is good while for some, it comes back to haunt them. So the
question to ask is that should being too honest in your
relationship be the right thing to do?
Here are some reasons being too honest in your relationship is
not the best for you.
It breaks trust:
This sounds ironic but it is true. It is not bad to always want to
tell your partner the truth at all times but there is also a
disadvantage to this.
From experience I have discovered that revealing too much of
something or yourself puts one at a disadvantage.
To you, you are being open with your partner but to him or her,
an iota of doubt has been placed in the heart.
I am not saying you should lie to your partner but being
diplomatic in the way you say the truth is key.
It can destroy your relationship:
Sometimes being too honest in your relationship can make
your partner keep you at arms length.
This is because certain things you may say to him or her might
scare them away after hearing the truth.
Sometimes it takes a mature mind to accept the truth for what
it really is and not to react negatively to it so it actually
depends on the type of mindset your partner has.
It can emotionally wreck your partner:
6 Things to Know About Being Too Honest In your Relationship
A couple who just started dating decided to go memory lane
and reveal the number of people they had each been intimate
with.
The lady in question felt it was a good thing to open up to her
partner and so she revealed to him the number of men she
had intimacy with.
On hearing this, he broke down and wept like a baby because
what he heard was not what he expected to hear.
But one would think he would be glad that she spoke the truth
to him having convinced her to but it took another turn as it
affected him emotionally.
For months he was devastated and felt she would do the
same to him an leave him.
This is one of the after effects of being too honest in your
relationship.
It makes you look weak:
When you always feel the need to be too honest to your
partner, it makes you seem as if you do not trust yourself
enough.
If you are a trustworthy person, there is no reason to always
want to prove yourself. Your actions should speak for you.
You can be easily manipulated:
Being too honest in your relationship can make your partner
take advantage of you.
If he or she realises that you go above and beyond when
admitting the truth, they can use that against you when you
least expect it.
It may make your partner always lie to you:
Sometimes honesty should not be so well expressed to some
people.
You may be very honest while your partner would be the
opposite. To him or her, you can never lie to them but to
them, you will believe anything they tell you.
It is very easy to assume that since you are honest, your
partner will be too.
The tips above are enough reasons why you should not be too
honest with your partner. It is good to tell the truth but use
your discretion when voicing it out and know that this has led
to break ups in relationships today.
Tell the truth but be wise about it. |
Re: Should I Always Tell My Lover The Truth? I Am Confused by Ekez(m): 6:07pm On Aug 14, 2018 |
No ,
No just try am,
I take god beg u |
Re: Should I Always Tell My Lover The Truth? I Am Confused by dingbang(m): 6:17pm On Aug 14, 2018 |
Space your writeup for Christ sake 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Always Tell My Lover The Truth? I Am Confused by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:29pm On Aug 14, 2018 |
if you are not willing to tell EVERYTHING to your partner, then you have no business being in a r/ship......thats a waste of time. |
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