Flattino:
You are a very unserious fellow.

EasternDamsel4:
My dear take that 50k job. School no dey finish...save money. You can even register for a part time study. I don't know why u should be worried about where ur mates are...
You are not even stable. Try and stay one place. Stop jumping from one place to another

Avedonn:
You better listen to your mom she knows better.

You are about to make a costly mistake by accepting that job that's if the job is even genuine.

Focus on your tailoring apprenticeship and keep begging your parents to reconsider their decision. Besides, I know she meant well for you and will never do any thing that'd ruin your life. So you need to calm down and stop running faster than your shadow.

Please don't destroy your life young man.

TheManofTomorrow:
What course do you plan to study in school if at all you will further your education?

RavenClaw:
I think you should try to convince your parents even if it means you saying bad comments about your tailor boss.
If you work with the politician, he won't beat you or scold you. But the tailor will beat you for any little reason. And constant slaps from him.

How much do you earn from tailoring?

And besides this thread is not meant to be in romance section.

FutureDecisions:


Thanks for your input.

First off, the job is genuine.

It's only my mum that decides.. She's the only one who pay my school fees.. My dad is also alive though but he doesn't have a job, he's old already.

FutureDecisions:


There's no way I can bad mouth my boss... My parents would still tell me to endure.

My boss don't beat, he only gets angry and talks with anger and when he's angry, he can say anything.

I can't say I'm earning, I'm still learning and I only earn if friends want to sew or amend their clothes.

Mynd44 please help move to appropriate section

Avedonn:


Yeah, I understand. Just calm down and do as she say.

I guess she did that because she knows the labour market is saturated with unemployed graduates and having a university degree is not a guarantee of securing a job so she's trying to give you something to fallback on should in case you couldn't secure a job after graduation. She just want you to have plan B in case plan A failed.

I guess you are the first child and as you said your dad is advanced in age so she might be thinking she can't afford to take care of you and siblings should any unforeseen circumstances happen.

Please don't see your Mom as a wicked woman because you never know what she always pass through to raise money for your school and your younger ones.

Just calm down, do the tailoring apprenticeship and on your free time, find a side hustle to enable you save some money which perhaps if she see how resilient you are, she might change her mind.

Please I repeat do not go against your mother's instruction by accepting that job. Because you'll end up regretting.

RavenClaw:



Then tell them that you have a better job where you earn money and that you will contribute some money to the family income.

Avedonn:
You better listen to your mom she knows better.

You are about to make a costly mistake by accepting that job that's if the job is even genuine.

Focus on your tailoring apprenticeship and keep begging your parents to reconsider their decision. Besides, I know she meant well for you and will never do any thing that'd ruin your life. So you need to calm down and stop running faster than your shadow.

Please don't destroy your life young man.

ImaIma1:


Sometimes parents get it wrong. His mum cannot be right all the time. She may be doing what she thinks is best which might be wrong. Mums are humans too...not above mistakes.

If he wanted to go back to school, she should have encouraged it instead of forcing him to do tailoring that he has no passion for. If he were to be in school, he may not consider leaving school for this job because he wants school and not tailoring.

Parents should stop forcing careers or businesses on their children. They don't always know best as we used to believe before. Many children are hopeless and frustrated because of their parent's interference in their lives. Parents should only guide and not impose.

Cc FutureDecisions

FutureDecisions:


Thanks.

You mean I should do the 50k job and discontinue the tailoring work that I'm doing?

FutureDecisions:


I'm the last born.

I don't think she will change her mind. She's struggling to pay for my bro's school fee.

I understand the point that labour market is saturated.. She never had Idea that I want to study outside the country

She also never made mention that I will continue my education. She said once I'm done with the tailoring apprenticeship, we'll find ways to raise money for me to open my own SHOP.

Avedonn:


So you what do you want to do?
It seems like you want to take up that job offer at Lagos don't you?

I have a few question for you.

1.What makes you the most suitable candidate for the job?

2. Do you still have intention of going back to school or you just want to keep huzling.

3. Since you know your mother is not going to change her mind do you want to take the risk of going ahead with your plans knowing too well if things turn otherwise it'd destroy your relationship with your Mom?

4. Do you know traveling abroad requires a lot of money?

5. What about your older siblings. where are they?

FutureDecisions:


Someone working for him referred me to him since he said he needs someone that can help him to be managing his website.

I still have the intention of going back to school

I am having double mind on whether to take the risk or not. Some people are saying it is a great opportunity for me as I would get to know more people/elites.

I know traveling out requires lots of money... I already planned everything it will cost me 2.5m which is what I'm searching for. That's the more reason I'm thinking of taking the job

My brother who happens to be the first one is in school, he's even struggling over there. My sis who happens to be the second born.. I don't want to talk about that.

ImaIma1:


Sometimes parents get it wrong. His mum cannot be right all the time. She may be doing what she thinks is best which might be wrong. Mums are humans too...not above mistakes.

If he wanted to go back to school, she should have encouraged it instead of forcing him to do tailoring that he has no passion for. If he were to be in school, he may not consider leaving school for this job because he wants school and not tailoring.

Parents should stop forcing careers or businesses on their children. They don't always know best as we used to believe before. Many children are hopeless and frustrated because of their parent's interference in their lives. Parents should only guide and not impose.

Cc FutureDecisions

Avedonn:


You need 2.5m to travel out how long would it take you to save from 50k.

I'll advise you the way I'll advise my younger brother. Don't take that job without sorting things out with your mother because if some thing happen, you'll still end up coming back to her.

Once you travel to Lagos, it'd be difficult for you to continue with your education because life over there is very demanding and expensive. It might even tempt you to mingle with bad influence just to survive.

Stay back and do your tailor apprenticeship and also engage yourself in other productive things that'd fetch you some money.

Trust me, you'll reap the benefit of the tailoring business in the feature whether here or abroad. bedsides, you need skills to survive abroad and that tailoring business might be your saving grace.

I was watching a documentary some days back about migrants in France and saw a young man from Senegal making a decent living from a tailoring business while the rest of his friends are living from hand to mouth because they have no useful skills to depend on.

By the way, why the politician insisting on you?

Does that mean he couldn't find a qualified person to manage his blog in Lagos?

Please be careful o..

Don't allow uncertainty and naivety lead you to something dangerous.

Avedonn:


You are pushing him to embark on dangerous adventure. If he were to be your brother would you advise him like this?

What if something bad happen to him would you be there to save him?

Please don't push him in to doing something he'll end up regretting.

ImaIma1:


Pushing him? Is he not an adult? What is dangerous about wanting to go to school instead of doing tailoring?

Can't something bad also happen to him while he is learning the tailoring thing?

This is usually the problem with parents...feeling as if their way is the right and only way. It is the boy's life and future. Shouldn't he have a say in it?

If he is my brother, i will want to know what he has a passion for and help him achieve it and not try to derail him.

Avedonn:


So what you are simply trying to say is he should rebel against his mother and travel to Lagos where he knows know on except a friend that promised him 50k blogging job?

Avedonn:


So what you are simply trying to say is he should rebel against his mother and travel to Lagos where he knows know on except a friend that promised him 50k blogging job?

FutureDecisions:




She don't want to hear.. She's just after that I should complete tailoring apprenticeship, try raise money then I open my own Shop.

RavenClaw:


Talk to your father. But if all else fails you either do the tailoring , rebel or run away from home.