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Maybe you should give him a factory reset slap, the game might change....



I've heard stories of people whose life changed for good after being given hot slaps....

and so fûckin what?
misplaced priorities.
you should be thanking god he wasn't watching gay porn sef.

Well it's already to late. The only thing you can do now is give him some sex education. Teach him about the dangers of sex and masturbation.

Uglymugg:
Well it's already to late. The only thing you can do now is give him some sex education. Teach him about the dangers of sex and masturbation.

it won't still help. Sexual urge is out of this world, all he needs now is to know his God. Divine intervention.

Oreofepeters:
Maybe you should give him a factory reset slap, the game might change....



I've heard stories of people whose life changed for good after being given hot slaps....

Slap, kick, spank, kill him he will still stop it.

I discovered porn when I was his age. Yet I didn't become a maniac.
He has some bad friends pushing him to it. Some external forces are at play. Watch the kind of friends he has. You may find the problem factor there

You are actually making the problem worse. When a behaviour is not deemed desirable and is met with disapproval two things can happen. The person stops out of shame . Or they continue but in secret which causes more issues and this is what has happened here.

Now he is 12 so he is old enough to be sat down and spoken to, not the way you have been talking to him but as a brother/role model whose words could shape how he views woman as well as potential relationships in the future. Everyone is acting distressed but not explaining to him why. I know it’s not a typical African household to discuss matters without fire, Hell and brimestone being brought into the equation. But this is an unconventional issue that is not as unusual as you might expect. So an inconventional approach is warranted.


You need to accept and process how easy it is to access porn. Links are in abundance.
An honest and structured approach is essential. He needs to know he is not being judged as there is a lot of that going on already. Set perimeters regarding access, how often and for how long. A contract if you will. You have to remove the novelty of pornography. And that won’t happen if the current atmosphere exist.

He needs to know and understand what sex is, why watching too much porn is not healthy . From a clinical point of view masturbation in moderation is not an issue but the pitfalls are more from a functional perspective. These are real and he needs to learn that despite the myths, there are actually no physically harmful side effects of masturbation. However, excessive (chronic masturbation) can impact on your relationships and everyday life.

Beating him up as suggested by some quarters is just being cruel and demonstrates lack of understanding and compassion.

MissRaine69:
You are actually making the problem worse. When a behaviour is not deemed desirable and is met with disapproval two things can happen. The person stops out of shame . Or they continue but in secret which causes more issues and this is what has happened here.

Now he is 12 so he is old enough to be sat down and spoken to, not the way you have been talking to him but as a brother/role model whose words could shape how he views woman as well as potential relationships in the future. Everyone is acting distressed but not explaining to him why. I know it’s not a typical African household to discuss matters without fire, Hell and brimestone being brought into the equation. But this is an unconventional issue that is not as unusual as you might expect. So an inconventional approach is warranted.


You need to accept and process how easy it is to access porn. Links are in abundance.
An honest and structured approach is essential. He needs to know he is not being judged as there is a lot of that going on already. Set perimeters regarding access, how often and for how long. A contract if you will. You have to remove the novelty of pornography. And that won’t happen if the current atmosphere exist.

He needs to know and understand what sex is, why watching too much porn is not healthy . From a clinical point of view masturbation in moderation is not an issue but the pitfalls are more from a functional perspective. These are real and he needs to learn that despite the myths, there are actually no physically harmful side effects of masturbation. However, excessive (chronic masturbation) can impact on your relationships and everyday life.

Beating him up as suggested by some quarters is just being cruel and demonstrates lack of understanding and compassion.

God will continue to bless you may you never lack Amen thank you

Buy him a sexdoll ...problem solved, he's too young for real towtow

A 12 year old porn addict? If he's already an addict at such a young age, only God knows what he'll become when he reaches adulthood.

Your brother is not very wise, he should have watched them in incognito mode or still wiped the browser history and this thread woulda been averted. He broke the "Never leave traces" rules.

Don't try to judge him, don't try stop him, don't try to hit him, only lecture him about the advantage and disadvantages( I doubt there's any proven one) of porn. we've all seen porn. you took a glass of beer, I took a bottle...at the end we all had beer.

Precisely, we do have a family porn Day, where the whole family get together and watched porn and then lecture follows after.... and that has helped me alot.

The more we Nigerians shy away from educating our kids about sex, the sexually perverted they'll get.

sit him down, get a porn corn popcorn ... watch a good porn with him and gist him why he shouldn't watch them.


I'm out.