WorldklazzBae:
Are u emotionally ready for what comes with sex? If no, then don't. Think about it very well before finally making a decision. My opinion is plz stay away whatever the cost, the price may be too heavy to pay.

NnaaGuy:
Not again.

There's nothing wrong with your decision morally speaking. But in this corrupt and sex crazed world of porn and nudity, (which I'm sure your guy has been thoroughly exposed to), expect to be chided, booed, and criticized for that stance.

In a normal world, your man should be proud of your pure state and would seek to protect it until the right time. But I'm sorry dear, THE WORLD IS NO LONGER NORMAL.

Maintain your pride all the same. If he is really the man he claims to be, he'll wait.

Menal99:

Thanks for your contribution..
my fear is that,he is a good man. I dont want to loose him because of this. He doesn't want to breakup. He isn't forcing it either. Am just bothered because we've been together for almost three years and he was patient all this while

dairykidd:

Maybe its the financial downturn or he has a lot of idle time on his hands these days.. You say he's been patient with you for 3 yrs then u really should have nothing to bother about...

Wait ooo. You have been making a good guy wait 3 yrs Three whole yrs.. Jesu!
Since he's your dream man & u seem like his dream girl what are u guys waiting for again He should start with the introduction rites na & do the traditional or white wedding.. He must nor hammer before him do am.
Make hi; do something or what plans do u guys have for yourselves
36 fûcking months & counting na wah

Ken4agent:
Let me simply prove to you d need for sex before marriage by asking you a Question:
Suppose you get married to him and on your first night he discover something about your sex life he can't cope with, don't you think he will consider you a scam?? Which is the reason u refuse him sex

Or the other way, suppose on your first night u discover he is uncircumsized or he is sterile? Are u ready do endure the aftermath of all these??

My dear keeping virginity till wedding night has been made upsolate by our complex n complicated society we live in.......the truth is that his already helping himself with another hot lady out there while yu keep the virginity. If he marry yu as a virgin and yu do not have good character or Behaviour, my dear yu are going to be demoted from wife to side chik...trust me

Marrying as a virgine is not a guarantee for a happy and successful marriage

OneSentence:
menal99 don't let him pressurise you into sex but give him the undoubted assurance that you are his. don't fight him over it but always calmly reassure him to wait. don't listen to those aggressive voices here cos that's how u will lose him and won't find another like him then your story will be like theirs...all men are scum...
don't give in but assure him that he'll have all of u at the right time. the danger of giving in is this...after waiting for so long if he has it he will think to himself that is this what he has been begging for all the while? make sure you are useful too to him in ways he can't do without u. that way even without sex he'll have reason to love u as u have loved him without money. all the best dear
things will def get better

Menal99:

I really appreciate your contribution... all you've mentioned above, I have done it. I know he loves me. I'm really sure about that.
I remember when we started, he once mentioned he doesn't care if a woman is a virgin or not as there are many other important things that make a good woman and yet, being a virgin is a thing of pride.
This period we've been together without sex has been wonderful.
Now, situation has made us find ourself in a distant relationship and that's y I'm more scared. I am beginning to feel insecure which isn't good for a relationship. He is this kind of man that people like easily:both male and female.
He tells me all about it. once, he told me about a lady who's wooing him and how he is trying his best to avoid her his reason being that he might fall because he hasn't had sex in ages

Menal99:

We plan to settle down next year by God's grace.
we were supposed to do that this year but things went from hero to zero. He made investments that was supposed to turn things around but it didn't. He still remained optimistic and hoped that things changed. He said if it did he was going to see my parents before the year ends(this was back in August).

Ken4agent:
Let me simply prove to you d need for sex before marriage by asking you a Question:
Suppose you get married to him and on your first night he discover something about your sex life he can't cope with, don't you think he will consider you a scam?? Which is the reason u refuse him sex

Or the other way, suppose on your first night u discover he is uncircumsized or he is sterile? Are u ready do endure the aftermath of all these??

My dear keeping virginity till wedding night has been made upsolate by our complex n complicated society we live in.......the truth is that his already helping himself with another hot lady out there while yu keep the virginity. If he marry yu as a virgin and yu do not have good character or Behaviour, my dear yu are going to be demoted from wife to side chik...trust me

Marrying as a virgine is not a guarantee for a happy and successful marriage

dairykidd:

Waiting for things to change before making the move is time wasting & wasting time might cost u guys a lot... Seeing ur parents doesn't have to be a money draining. He should make do with what is available... I'm just saying

Menal99:
OK, thanks. Does it imply that once he sees my parents I can give in? He has always wanted to do this(see my parents) from the onset

Admin401:
You've done your best, keeping yourself chaste all this while, you can't turn back now. I'm sure everything will work out fine.

Admin401:
You've done your best, keeping yourself chaste all this while, you can't turn back now. I'm sure everything will work out fine.

Menal99:

OK, thanks. Does it imply that once he sees my parents I can give in?
He has always wanted to do from the onset

Menal99:

I really appreciate your contribution... all you've mentioned above, I have done it. I know he loves me. I'm really sure about that.
I remember when we started, he once mentioned he doesn't care if a woman is a virgin or not as there are many other important things that make a good woman and yet, being a virgin is a thing of pride.
This period we've been together without sex has been wonderful.
Now, situation has made us find ourself in a distant relationship and that's y I'm more scared. I am beginning to feel insecure which isn't good for a relationship. He is this kind of man that ladies like people like easily:both male and female.
He tells me all about it. once, he told me about a lady who's wooing him and how he is trying his best to avoid her his reason being that he might fall because he hasn't had sex in ages

dairykidd:

Hell no! I want him to do the needful get him occupied, let him make the moves to make u his wife... Let that be his motivation to get up back on his feet again while u should always be available to assure him of ur love & loyalty. The financial issues & idleness is getting the best of him... Make him use his situation to both your advantage b4 one strange woman go come change the track.. But if u eventually want to give in to sex which doesn't make sense to me after all these years, it should be out of ur own will & not under any pressure or obligation

OneSentence:

if I'm gonna be blunt with u, more often than not ladies like u end up heartbroken so be prepared for that possibility. he could already be cheating. your is to try ur best to keep him but don't let him cut you. he'll come back after he plays around and realises there's none like you. it might hurt but if it happens and u can forgive him then fine. this might not happen but I'm preparing you for the worst as well as being realistic. There's no fairy tale love anywhere anymore

Menal99:
I'm confused. Please Nlanders,a word or two of advice would do

morningstar55:
did he say he'll be needing sex after 3yrs into the relationship?...if yes,give him sex and unsink your sinking ship...but if NO,it's about time you seeketh a man whose word is yea and amen for it's the tongue that defines a man.

JONNYSPUTE:
If he truly love you as he claimed or as you believed,why are you two still dating and not married? 3yrs,hmmm. Be careful, some guys can have all the patience in this world just to get at a particular pussy. If he loves you he should do the needful. Don't give in to his request,build your self esteem and confidence.

Menal99:
can I avoid this?

Fyi0:
My two cents.

Don't mind the hypocrites on here telling you about keeping virginity and that the man should wait if he is worth it. That's total crap!

You think it is easy for a man to stay without sex for three years and going? And constantly resisting the urge? It is awe-inspiring indeed that he has not yet discarded you, cos I sure would have done that a long time if I were him.

So when you wait until the wedding night and you finally give it to him then what? What really is the gain other than the sense of pride that you are a virgin till your wedding night.

Don't get me wrong. Virginity till marriage is a noble thing. But if you love him as you claim here you should be able to compromise. Or is he the only one to compromise

Since you are sure of his love for you and his intentions towards marrying you why then do you delay it? What difference does it make? Isn't it the same person?

This is my disinterested opinion.

Thank you.